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I love the ones at Gloria’s in Highland Park and wanna know of any other worthy contenders.

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I may have to commute to central Santa Clarita on a regular basis. I'm wondering what would be the area with the greatest number of cool bookstores, coffee shops, restaurants, bars, and so on, which is the most walkable, within a 30-minute drive?

Who's got it?

What kind of splits (vertical or horizontal)?

What program did you follow and how long did it take?

Who just does the best version of this?

From the intro to Learning from Experience:

> Suppose I see the man walking. I may say that his walk is a function of his personality and that I find, after investigation, that the factors of this function are his love for a girl and his envy of her friend. Or that the factors in this function are his love for the girl and his envy of her friend. After further investigation I may decide that to his love for the girl is added envy of her friend; or F (his gait) = L + E. (F = function, L = love, E = envy). But I may feel that my observations approximate to the Kleinian theory of projective identification and that I can express my opinion of the facts best by saying the function walking is a sign that the patient feels he has taken into him a loved girl with whom he is identified and a rival of whom he is envious but with whom he has also identified himself, and that both objects are controlled by being enclosed in his legs.

Can someone explain this? I thought identification means that one takes on qualities of the identified-with object... so what would it mean in this case for the guy to be identified with his girlfriend and his rival? Does he take on their qualities?

And what does it mean that "both objects are controlled by being enclosed in his legs"?

It's really important to me in a new rental that I have an extremely powerful, modern HVAC and plumbing system. I want very powerful air conditioning, strong water pressure, a long hot water supply, etc.

Is there a good way to assess this sort of stuff before renting?

Also, are there any rules of thumb about the kinds of places that would have this? E.g. is newer construction better?

In Christopher Alexander's The Timeless Way of Building, a woman named Gita describes an Indian Inn as follows:

> There is a courtyard room where the people meet, and a place to one side of the courtyard where they eat, and also on one side there is the person who looks after the inn, and on the other three sides of the courtyard there are the rooms--in front of the rooms is an arcade, maybe one step up from the courtyard and about ten feet deep, with another step leading into the rooms. During the evening, everyone meets in the courtyard, and they talk and eat together--it is very special--and then at night, they all sleep in the arcade, so they are all sleeping together, round the courtyard. I think it is very important, too, that all the rooms are similar, so that when they stay here, all the people feel equal and free to talk to everyone else.

What are these kinds of inns called? Can anyone give me specific and famous examples of them?

Do they still exist today?

And does anyone have any pictures of what this setup would have looked like?

Who sells the most delicious fresh tomatoes?

In "Fear of Breakdown," Winnicott writes:

> It must be asked here: why does the patient go on being worried by this that belongs to the past? The answer must be that the original experience of primitive agony cannot get into the past tense unless the ego can first gather it into its own present time experience and into omnipotent control now (assuming the auxiliary ego-supporting function of the mother (analyst)).

Why does the ego need to gather it into omnipotent control?

As a child, perhaps this is comprehensible -- the ego simply isn't developed enough to accept that something is coming from outside the child. It hasn't developed the "not me" yet. So to be digested, the experience has to be felt as caused by the child.

But what exactly qualifies an experience for being able to be gathered into that area? For example, let's suppose we have a good enough mother who neglects her child for a small portion of time. The child does experience, let's say, some pain on account of hunger. Is this gathered into its area of omnipotence and therefore experienced? Let's assume it's not such an extreme neglect that it is super traumatic, or the mother is gone for a certain portion of time, but not so long that the infant is, again, super traumatized. But that portion of time the mother was gone, is that or is that not experienced by the small child? Is that gathered into the child's sense of omnipotence? And if so, what would that even mean? The child would feel that he/she caused the mother's absence? Or that the child caused its own hunger?

And even if all of this makes sense for a child, why does the adult need the experiences to be gathered in to the area of omnipotence in order to be experienced, and what would that mean exactly? Winnicott says that the adult experiences the agonies in the context of the transference -- via the therapist's mistakes/misattunements (mistakes as felt by the patient). But what would it mean for a patient to gather those mistakes into the area of their omnipotence? Would they feel that they caused the therapist's failures?

I understand that's the artisanal way in Europe. Wondering who in LA follows that rule.

I’m looking for sushi spots which are reasonably casual and good for a first date, but with good sushi, and also good veggie sushi and/or other good veggie options.

Any recs? Preferably within 20 mins of DTLA.

What's the best bean and cheese burrito out there that's fully vegetarian (no lard in the tortillas or beans)?

From a pure espresso standpoint, who’s best?

What are they?

Anyone make any amazing vegetarian cold noodles?

I used to have so many problems with the phone getting incredibly sluggish when I was using it with CarPlay on iOS 26. All gone now. Thank God.

Just jonesing for a more cherry slushie type drink but in healthy smoothie form…