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Hello Brides, I am getting married here in the US this December. Ibang lahi si groom na asian pero mostly very americanized na. He was showing a lot of frustrations kasi hindi daw very helpful ang maid of honor ko in terms of supporting or giving me ideas, pati narin sa pag cocoordinate with the vendors. Ano ba talaga ang pagkakaalam nating mga pinoy sa role ng maid of honor? He has the expectations na si MOH Ang go-to person ko sa pag pplan, sa wedding color scheme, floral arrangements etc. My MOH doesnt also ask me kung nasan naba ko sa wedding prep, like wala lang talaga. Ako rin naman mismo di ko alam ano nga ba talaga ang role ng MOH kasi? my MOH is also filipino just like me. So baka di rin nya tlaga alam ang dapat gawin bilang MOH if she looks at it in an american perspective. For those getting married in pinas with both Filipino, ano ba ang natutulong sa inyo ng MOH nyo right now? Meron ba silang shared ideas sa planning phase nyo? Yung shoes na isusuot niyo? etc

Hello Brides, I am getting married here in the US this December. Ibang lahi si groom na asian pero mostly very americanized na. He was showing a lot of frustrations kasi hindi daw very helpful ang maid of honor ko in terms of supporting or giving me ideas, pati narin sa pag cocoordinate with the vendors. Ano ba talaga ang pagkakaalam nating mga pinoy sa role ng maid of honor? He has the expectations na si MOH Ang go-to person ko sa pag pplan, sa wedding color scheme, floral arrangements etc. My MOH doesnt also ask me kung nasan naba ko sa wedding prep, like wala lang talaga. Ako rin naman mismo di ko alam ano nga ba talaga ang role ng MOH kasi? my MOH is also filipino just like me. So baka di rin nya tlaga alam ang dapat gawin bilang MOH if she looks at it in an american perspective. For those getting married in pinas with both Filipino, ano ba ang natutulong sa inyo ng MOH nyo right now?

Hello! Any clip on bangs recommendations that looks real? I have receding hair line and my forehead looks way bigger. 🥲 I have tried multiple bangs from amazon, but i just look funny weird.

OMG, anyone here getting married na ang daming purchases then end up returning then buy something again na babagay sa overall look on the wedding day? Nakakaloka. Kahit earrings na akala ko madali lang naka ilang bili at return nako. Pati shoes.. it is just overwhelming. Tell me i am not the only one! 😭

Update: Ako lang yata hahhaha

Recos for sunglass?

I wish my husband is slow to anger. Hindi naman sya sobrang bilis talaga magalit, pero usually it is when things go wrong or out of hand nagagalit sya to me and to our son. Like nung minsan nabasa ng ihi yung stroller ng anak namin dahil nag leak ang diaper. Nainis at nagalit na sya kasi di pinalitan ng diaper or kasi nag rerefuse yung bata na magpapalit na pupwede naman punasan or labhan ang seat or paarawan para di mangamoy. Pero nagalit na sya.. I told him upfront na sa totoo lang kako nababawasan pagmamahal ko sayo pag nagagalit ka, di ko kayang pantayan yang galit mo kaya pag nagagalit sya minsan feeling niya pader lang kausap niya. I take things in a more relaxed way, I have good temper and patience esepcially nanay ako. But to him, getting angry shows that he cares daw. How do you keep loving someone na mabilis magalit? 🥲

Sa mga mom after giving birth, nag hair fall ba kayo? and bumalik rin ba ang ganda ng hair nyo after? If not, ano ginawa nyo na naging effective? My toddler is 3yo na and yung hair line ko mataas na lol. Thank you all.

I 35F will be getting married in the church finally with my live-in partner of 4years. We share a very amazing 3yo son together.

Prior to the decision of getting married, my live in partner and my parents had a huge conflict 2years ago when my parents came to visit us from another country. It started as a misunderstanding due to cultural differences, then turned into a heated argument that no one would ever wish to have.

My mom is a very emotional lady driven by my dad’s controlling behavior. I grew up being raised by them with my dad as the one who always has the “say” and my mom was very submissive to him.

I have been in this bubble that I am so loved by my parents, with no boundaries set even I am already an adult. That means, whatever i say, most of the time doesn’t bear any weight on them. I am the very nice daughter, obedient and the one who wouldn’t want my parents to cry.

Now that I have my own family, my live in partner popped that bubble. He told me how it seems like my parents don’t respect my words at all, and still treat me like a child. (all this observation happened when they stayed in our home for a vacation). That was when all the conflict came until they went back to their home country with no closure.

When I told my parents about the decision, they were not so happy and I was given a silent treatment. The decision of getting married stemmed from what I wish to have.. to receive the sacrament of matrimony, to be able to receive the Holy Communion that I have been so thirsty to receive. I have been wanting to correct my mistake and be reunited with God and of course to give our son a family legal in the eyes of God.

My question is am I doing the right decision? I have been praying for my parents and my live-in partner’s reconciliation.. to have their hearts healed. But i also don’t want to risk hell by waiting for both sides to heal before I make the decision for my soul. Don’t get me wrong, I love my live-in partner and we wanted to make things right for our son.

I want to get this off my chest so I’ll try to make the story short kasi mahaba talaga ang kwento.

For context, I, 35/F has lived on the same household with my parents sa pinas for about 25years. I have been living in the US for more than 5years now and many things have changed. I now have a son and a partner who is of Asian descent and more on American way of living.

FFW, my parents visited us in the US back when my son was only a year old. It was also their first time coming, so excited sila. They stayed for about 6weeks sa amin.

My partner na ibang lahi nga, told me na iinform ko sila parents na sya na ang bahala sa meals etc.. so sinabi ko yan sa parents ko at nag agree sila. Dumating ang days maraming pre-made meals si partner na magluluto ka na lang ng rice and reheat ang dish, kasi ang buhay nga sa US ay wala kang time mag grocery everyday at magluto every single time. Sila parents mukhang hindi gusto mga meals, pero shmpre hindi nila masabi ng derechahan. Ang nangyari ay nagluto sila ng food nila na para bang may dalawq kaming kusina, so ung mga prepped meals ni partner na echepwera. Then pag tinatanong sila, sasabihin nila na masarap naman daw ng food.. pero their actions said otherwise. So etong si partner na offend sympre.

Marami pang nangyari pero isa narin dun ang super excited nila na alagaan ang anak ko na kahit ba wala na sa lugar eh sige lang.

The scenario goes a long way.

mahilig kumain ang tatay ko, maya’t maya gusto may pagkain, na para bang restaurant kami. At naririnig ko pa na sinasabi nya na “gutom lang inaabot ko dito” like nasa America sya pero wala syang makain.

Mind you, maraming laman ang fridge namin. pero hindi lang nila gusto talaga.

Ang nanay ko naman komo gusto kumain ng tatay ko, ede sige ipagluluto niya. Lahat ng daing or complain sinusunod nya na para bang nasa bahay kami sa pinas.

Hindi nila maintindihan or ayaw lang talaga intindihin na iba ang pamumuhay ko dito at wala sila sa bahay nila. So both parents were also offended and hurt per se pag kinoconfront ni partner about their opinions or thoughts sa mga bagay bagay. Like to them it was a disrespect. At laging sinasabi, sila ang matanda at dapat respetuhin. Pero hindi nila marealize na yung pag brush off nila sa rules na sinet namin sa bahay ay kawalang respeto rin. Na para bang ako parin ung anak nila na kaya nilang controlin at i guilt trip. Ang lagi pa nilang sinasabi ay de numero ang galaw nila at konting kibot ay pinupuna ni partner.

2 years has passed, at may plano na kami mag pakasal sa simbahan. Walang closure about sa nangyari back then, walang nag reach out either sides. Nasabi ng kapatid ko sa nanay ko na ikakasal na ako. I don’t have plans to withhold the info from her, i am letting her know and I am not asking for her permission, pero ang sabi nya sa kapatid ko “Dapat kausapin kami ni (my partner’s name) kasama tatay mo, hindi pwde ganun ganun nalang na magpapakasal, walang ka respe respeto, na para bang ang pakakasalan niya ay tuta lang namin na pinalaki na basta okay lang ipamigay”

That hit me hard! So tingin nila sakin or kinompara talaga ako sa tuta?? I don’t get it. 35 na ako, marunong na ako mag desisiyon sa buhay.. hindi naman ako 15yo na mag aasawa na lang. I just find it very toxic up until sa huli.

Siguro nga tuta nila ako.. tuta na tiga padala ng sustento nila buwan buwan, na kaya nila kontrolin kasi konting iyak nila ay tumitiklop nako. Konting inda sa buhay, naka saklolo kagad ako. Tuta nga siguro ako na gusto ko happy lagi ang “amo” ko.