r/Hecate

I am new to all this and want to be a worthy devotee. What should be done when first getting started? I have an altar for her and have left offerings. I want to feel her and know she hears me but am a little unsure of how to start

Really looking for support right now: Ever since I started working with Hecate, my Close friendships have literally crumbled somehow or I have felt like my friendships aren’t as caring as I am. The first invocation I did, it was a 12 day ritual and the day after the twelfth, I had a breakup with one of my best friends (1/3). Three days after I brought a statue of her into my home, another friend of mine fell out with me after awhile of feeling similar feelings with her. Is this a common occurrence? Has anyone experienced this? Thank you, again.

In October 2024, I unexpectedly found out that I was pregnant. Looking back, even before I knew about the pregnancy, I had started feeling like something in my life was shifting.
At the time, I was dealing with depression and taking medication, so I’m aware that stress and mental health may have played a role in how I experienced things. I don’t want to jump to conclusions or claim that everything was definitely spiritual.
That said, there were some things that stood out to me. I sometimes felt like I was seeing shadows at home, or had the feeling of being watched near doorways. I also noticed intense dog barking around that period, and I would sometimes find moths on the curtains in my room.
Around the same time, I had bought a very dark navy-blue, almost black sapphire ring, though I’m not sure if that is connected or if I’m only associating it in hindsight.
One day, my husband came to meet me with a book he had found while waiting on a bench. He brought it to me, and that was how I first learned about Hecate. As I read more about her, I was surprised by how much of her symbolism seemed to connect with what I was going through.
I had a very difficult childhood, and during that period I was also dealing with pregnancy, moving to another country, major life changes, and discovering that my partner had lied to me. It was an extremely intense and painful time. I’m only now slowly starting to feel like I’m recovering.
When I learned that Hecate is associated with thresholds, transitions, protection, women, children, and childbirth, it made me wonder whether there was some kind of spiritual meaning to what I experienced. I also have Thracian ancestry, which made the connection feel even more personally significant.
At the same time, I’m trying to stay grounded. I know that stress, depression, medication, pregnancy, and trauma can all affect perception. I’m not trying to avoid that possibility. I’m just trying to understand why Hecate keeps coming back into my thoughts, even though I have been keeping my distance because I don’t want to become overwhelmed by it.
I would really appreciate a balanced perspective from people who are knowledgeable about Hecate, deity work, or spiritual experiences during major life transitions.
Do you think this could be interpreted as a possible connection with Hecate, or is it more likely that I was finding meaning in symbols during a very stressful period of my life?
Thank you for reading.

So I've been slowly dipping my toes into deity work and after much consideration I chose Hekate as my first real attempt at contact due to her welcoming reputation.

The reputation did not disappoint, for the first time ever i got clear signals and answers from smoke divination!

I asked for clarification at one point because I couldn't understand what was being communicated in the smoke

The smoke at the bottom made a TRAIL to my tarot deck, when I asked if that was a sign the trail got bigger then immediately shrank to its original size

I looked at the reading abd I was given The Wheel of Fate in reverse so I asked if there was anything I could do to stop it and got The Heirophant in reverse telling me to break the normal rules I follow.

Saddly I failed the seize the correct moment and the very next day I got into a whirlwind of trouble for following the rules

The point I'm making is that the communication was clear and amazing! It was such a thrill to ask a question and recieve a tangible response.

I'm aware of trickster spirits, I did do proper warding before contact, as far as I know I succeeded for the first time and I'm just riding that high 😅

Not new to the craft but still very much a baby , I’ve never been really serious about my gifts but have always been drawn to practice because I’m highly intuitive, sensitive and have had people tell me to use my gift.
Fast forward to last night, I had an incredibly vivid dream where I was with my 2 childhood friends and Hecate had given us gifts to use. There were 4 dogs, 3 of them black that were very upset with the 4th dog and chasing it away, all the while I kept hearing “Hecate “ in a chant in my head. We used a small toy torch to call on her for guidance. Then there were ravens bringing me small trinkets because I had helped one at some point. I woke up at 3am startled but not scared, it was more of at proceed with caution type feeling
I have not done any research into Hecate, her symbolism or meaning but I now strongly think she was calling to me, all I knew was she was usually shown as having 3 heads and was the goddess of witchcraft
Would you interpret this the same way? How would one start to work with her? I’ve never felt drawn to any deity before now

soooo i was talking to mother hecate the other day and told her what they did to me. I asked her for advice and asked what to do. I also asked if she could help me to pull a card on this situation. I totally forgot about the card in our session.

Two days later i had a dream. In my dream I wrote a letter to them, explaining how i feel and cutting them out of my life. In this dream i often saw the card "three of swords" laying on the floor somewhere. Which is crazy because I asked hecate to help me to pull a card and totally forgot about that in our session.

Those are the clearest signs she could give me right?

So after i dreamed that, i sent them a text via whatsapp which was identical to the letter that i wrote in my dreams.

Has anyone else had such direct answers? I haven't been working with hecate for long but the connection feels sooooo strong. Whats your guys opinion on all of that?

Im just starting on my journey with her, I’ve had a few experiences of her showing she’s present, like doing shadow work dedicated to her and had a feeling like motherly hug come over me, cloud gazing and asked her if she’s with me and had a witch followed by ‘i am’ written in the clouds and i just set up my first altar and a huge spider was in the spot if chosen, im petrified so i politely asked her if she could get the spider to find a home elsewhere and this morning it was gone 🖤 to add as well I had a dying crow in my garden and we rarely get crows only magpies, it died in my care and I had a little barrial ritual for it, im unsure if that’s a sign with a specific message.
I wanted to get real life accounts of how she presented to people because i haven’t had an ‘official meeting’ just interactions to show me she’s there which im eternally grateful for.
How does she give you all guidance and how do you know what’s her message or your inner monologue

Hello everyone!

I am going to be starting the Hekataeon on July 6th! I was wondering if anyone has advice about going in that they wish they had when they started. I have been called to start this journey as it’s long overdue.

Thanks!

I'm bored gonna lore drop a bit. Hecate took me in as one of her own since I was 5 years old, I was just too young to understand. Ever since then she has been secretly watching over me and guiding me away from my toxic mother and those who follow. When times get rough she is the one I can count on to keep me safe. Place your trust in the things you can't see and keep praying. Trust me, someone will answer the call, and it might not be the God or deity you were expecting.

Hi! I have been practicing with Hekate for a little over a year now, though I believe she has been with me at least since I was 13. She has helped me drastically in major life changes. I have received many blessings and take comfort in the things I’m shown. I focus mostly on shadow work, dream work, and work to help my family/myself.

I understand her background/present with hounds, but I didn’t realize her presence could be shown/sensed by my dog?

I have been spiritually tapped, and have been on a break for a few months now, in light of the strawberry moon I did a ritual of letting go mindsets and habits that no longer serve me. I left Hekate an offer and after I cleaned it up, I was relaxing and my newly adopted dog by 2 months (very extremely comfortable with me and my partner and super smart, was very unexpected how quick we all bonded) never barks, not even with wildlife, knocking at the door, etc, woke up and started hush barking, this shocked me and I wanted my partner to hear his barks so I started recording it. My phone is brand new iPhone I got a month ago, and my camera quality for this video was as if it was recorded by a 2012 camera, when it was working perfectly fine a couple hours prior. At one point during my dogs bark fit, he used sharper barks and went to get up but laid back down as if he was told to lay down.. he gradually became calmer after. there’s no other way to explain it, it did make me uneasy and nervous. Upon replay, I noticed the background lighting be a blueish color (I have black out curtains and it looks like there are headlights passing by too, window does not face street) and after he gets up and lays down the lighting seems orangey. I swore I heard “it’s okay” during that, but when I replayed it a second time I no longer heard it.

Was he reacting to her? Can you share your stories on if your dog has acted this way after a ritual or anything relating to Hekate? Thank you.

A couple weeks ago I started becoming interested in developing more solid relationships with my spirit guides. I read that if you put out a glass of water and a white candle it can signify that you’re looking to open up communication. So that’s what I did with the hope of beginning the process of getting to know who it is in my spirit circle. During one of my nightly prayers to Hecate/general altar time I put out the water and lit the candle and asked to start developing the relationship and asked for signs. I was so excited within the next couple days when I started to get actual signs and thought “holy shit it’s working” and continued with the water and the candle.

Fast forward to last night when I was doing divination with tarot and an oracle deck for the strawberry new moon. I asked my oracle deck (hedgewitch oracle deck) “what is it that I’m not paying attention to right now that I need to be paying attention to” and I drew Repel (cohosh), Mystery (ghost pipe), and Purify (sage). In the book that the deck comes with the author discusses repel- we need to set firm boundaries with negative energy, mystery - represented by a parasitic plant that feeds off of the energy of others, and purify - returning yourself to a balanced energy state. I switched to my tarot deck, which I’m more familiar with using, to ask for clarification and asked what is the “mystery” i need to be repelling and how do I repel it and drew the reversed 3 of coins, reversed king of coins, and the ace of swords. I was asking the deck clarifying questions to try to figure out what area of my life it was referring to but every card I drew was bringing to mind this new spirit that i was attempting to develop a relationship with. I asked Hecate if this spread was specifically referring to the energy/entity that I had connected to this week and drew the reversed magician. 

I asked specifically of Hecate “what is this energy/entity that I connected with this week?” and drew 5 of swords, reversed 7 of wands, and reversed magician (again). I then asked Hecate “what does this energy/entity that I connected with want from me?” I drew Knight of swords, reversed 10 of cups, and reversed 3 of cups. When I asked how do I fix/repel this i drew Strength and Ace of Swords. 

I decided to heed the warning and flushed the water offering to the spirit down the toilet banishing it from my home and took the candle I burned for it and chucked it into the woods behind my home off my property. I walked my space and banished any entity that would feed on my energy and severed any energetic ties that were made in deceit. I burned sage, devils claw, and lavender on a coal disk to cleanse and repel, then burned frankincense and sprayed my thresholds/mirrors/windows with salt water and florida water that had yarrow and rue in it. After i completed i went back to my deck and asked if my cleansing had been successful at removing the energy/entity and drew reversed 2 of coins, the lovers, the hermit, the king of swords.

Tbh when i was getting this reading i wasn’t afraid i was disappointed. I’ve never tried communicating with spirit before other than with Hecate and was so excited to be developing and learning about my “spirit court”. I’m in my 8th month of practice and 7th month of venerating and maintaining an altar to Hecate and thought I had enough protections up that it was safe to start venturing out a little bit but I’m thinking that that is maybe not the case. I’m looking to use this as a learning opportunity and want to break this situation down to see what I can do differently. Thanks for any wisdom or insight. 

hi i’m new here and still researching about hecate and i plan to do an altar for her in the future but my dad is religious and would definitely not like it if i put it in the living room. i was wondering if i can put it on a shelf in my room that is facing my bed

I need some symbols for a project I'm working on that has Hekate as an inspiration. I can't really say what it is but hopefully one day it'll do some good for the world.

Thanks in advance!