r/HormoneFreeMenopause

Most of my friends are “off”. Is this normal?

I find most (80%) of my friends lost interest in many things and in general, showing very negative feelings towards life events. A mix of sadness, depression, worrying and anxiety.

We are in our mid to late 50’s. I want to ask them whether they have mental illness but very afraid to ask them. Maybe they do not know about it themselves. Is that this common??

Just for context; 63 F bilateral oopherectomy and fallopian tube, still have a uterus. I’ve been on this HRT rollercoaster for about 3 years. Can’t take oral estrogen; terrible weight gain, boobs sore, etc. tried creams/gels didn’t really feel much different. Tried pellets about a year ago at very low dose E, and T. It was okay but nothing to rave about. Tried to get on the patch but the scarcity caused me back to pellets; higher dose this time. Seems to have wreaked absolute havoc. Used vaginal cream which I believe contributed to all kinds of issues. Currently on antibiotics for UTI, and on cream for yeast infection. I’m considering just going off all of this. The pellets seem to go from almost an overdose of estrogen at the beginning, and then plummeting quickly. I need to get off this rollercoaster. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

So I know that technically, at least here in the USA, I am supposed to get them until 65. Because they are so painful it's been about 6-8 years since I had one and I am now in my early 60's. I did get them every 1-2 years most of my adult life and they were always negative. I just did what I was told to do but I didn't figure out until years later that I was very low risk since my husband and I were each other's only sexual partner and we got married in our 30's. So when I learned more about HPV, I stopped getting the paps as often and I now just want to be done and not go through the torture again. How risky is it for me to not get another pap smear?