u/thethirteenthjuror

I know everyone is probably so sick and tired of reading these posts from people. The ones where they come onto this sub and just complain. But I am seven hours into an absolutely unruly migraine that has just completely taken me out.

I know everybody is going to flock to the comments and tell me what I should be taking, but let me stop you right there. I don’t take any medications because I don’t do well with medication. Yes, I have tried everything. No, nothing works.

I have vomited twice. I have sucked down so many waters and Gatorade’s today.

I am so sick and tired of living like this. I know I need to be grateful that I don’t get migraines daily, but even migraines 4 to 5 times a month have completely ruined me. Because after the migraine, you are so exhausted for a couple of days. And then after that couple of days? You then start worrying about if something you are going to do is going to throw you into another migraine the next day. I don’t know if anyone here has ever experienced the panic attack, but it’s kind of like that. Once you have one panic attack? You’re terrified of the next one.

I’m so tired of not living my life. Since I started having migraines several times a month, I have gained almost 25 pounds. I am not as active anymore. I am always looking around the corner wondering if today is gonna be the day my head starts banging and I’m hovering over the bathroom sink putting my toothbrush down my throat to make myself vomit because the nausea is just so bad.

I know the day old saying that comparison is the thief of joy. But I’m so tired of seeing people my age just living. We have a fenced in yard and I went to take my dogs out about an hour ago. And just in the five minutes that I was standing out there, I saw people walking their dogs on the sidewalk. Running or jogging. I saw a couple pushing a stroller. Meanwhile, I am begging my dogs to come back in so that I can put an ice pack on the back of my neck and pray that I don’t have to vomit again while the blinds and curtains are closed.

My house faces my neighbor and their house face is mine. They know when I have a migraine because all of our blinds and curtains are closed and my car sits in the driveway for a few days.

I know I need to be thankful that these things only lasts about 12 hours when I do get them, but I can’t stress enough that the fear of getting one is palpable.

I’m so sorry if none of this makes sense. At this point, I know I’m just rambling. But I’m using talk to text because Lord knows I can’t look at the screen right now.

I just want to feel not alone in this.

I WANT MY LIFE BACK

I’m looking for some honest feedback.

We found a licensed and insured drywall company through this group that has been in business for less than a year. Their work looked excellent so we reached out for an estimate. Everyone and every business starts somewhere and their reviews were good. The owner told me to text photos instead of scheduling a visit and said he’d get back to me that evening since the job wasn’t complex. I sent everything over, but never heard back.

The next day, I followed up. He gave me a price and said he’d email the official estimate that afternoon so we could accept it and get on his schedule. That email never came.

The following day, I checked in again and even resent my email address to make sure he had it. He apologized, said he’d send the estimate “in a few moments,” and again, nothing ever arrived.

I tried to be understanding because he’s a newer business, so we waited. Eventually, after hearing nothing, I let him know there were no hard feelings, but we were going to look elsewhere. He replied politely and said he was busy but happy to help if we still needed someone.

The only thing that left a bad impression was that during this ENTIRE time, his business social media pages were active with videos of him dancing and other content while we were still waiting on the estimate he’d promised multiple times.

So here’s my question: as a consumer, would it be unreasonable to leave a polite, factual review describing this experience? I’m not trying to hurt a new business, but when I read reviews, this is exactly the kind of information I want to know before deciding who to hire.

How do I do this?

I only use my iPad mini for books and my streaming services. But all of my texts, photos, etc. are on it.

I have seven apps on the thing - all for streaming, library card and kindle unlimited.

Is there a way to get rid of texts and photos while still signing in to my Apple account (streaming services attached to that).

I barely have any room on my iPad mini anymore and I hate it. iCloud is turned off for the iPad mini but somehow the pics and texts are all there.

Good morning.

I know that Jess Machado will be live tweeting while in the courtroom, but curious if there will be any reputable people live tweeting during the trial?

Thank you so much.

It’s not necessarily a family vlogging channel, BUT it was a channel of an older woman whose son still lived with her and they were living in absolute filth. She started her channel trying to get her life back on track and going Room by Room cleaning.

Then they moved out of that house and into some sort of room where they split it with a curtain down the middle so they (her and her son) could each have their own space.

Then they fundraised money to buy an RV to live in. Then they moved into a hotel and the RV thing never happened albeit there being money raised.

Then to another hotel.

And another…..room/living space.

Than just disappeared.

I still wonder to this day where she is. I still wonder to this day what happened. When I tell you all that I think of this channel every day? Believe me.

Videos are still up.

It all seemed like one big scam after a year or so of thinking they actually wanted to better themselves.

Does anyone remember them? I believe it has been almost five years since they last uploaded.

(Channel name is MY NEW ME)

Saw a video of the mother on TikTok where she mentions how much she made off YouTube from engagement and brand deals.

I got intrigued so I went to her YouTube channel and saw she was once a large YouTube creator who essentially used her children as clickbait and now they rarely want to be seen on camera now that they’re grown and moved out. Which is fair.

Can someone explain this family to me? From what I gather, they were once a pretty famous family vlogging channel with four kids, the kids were their content, they built their dream home 10 years back (and are now trying to sell it for the second time in 1-2 years), her husband has always worked, now the wife works with the husband, and all the kids have moved out.

I’m intrigued by the “kids” though. Some of them seem….stunted.

Oldest boy? (Beard and is balding a little): seems to be steady in a career. He also seems to be the happiest.

Boy with glasses: no clue. He gets a lot of clothing for Christmas mornings though and quite literally always has a beer or alcoholic drink in his hand - even at 8am Christmas mornings.

Chase (?) with the swoopy hair?: he seems stunted to me. And when I say stunted I mean it feels like he doesn’t want the camera anywhere around him, he actively avoids it, and is always off in a corner somewhere. No smiles. Can’t look at people in the eye. It’s odd.

Karli: is she iron deficient? I only ask because of the dark circles around her eyes.

Anyway, if someone could maybe explain this family to me, I would appreciate it. I have been watching several of their videos, the past couple of days and I have to say…..it’s like nothing I’ve seen before. Especially now that they’re all grown.

VA here and let me tell you, the pressure is real. Every day has been a headache just about that has been inching toward a migraine.

Woke up this morning and BAM - migraine. Nausea. The works.

In underwear, I am a 3x and like underwear to fit BUT not snug where my legs meet my hips if that makes sense.

I bought the INNERSY period panties in a 4x and I have to admit, they’re decent but they run small. I like underwear that goes over my belly and I do have a belly - it’s where I carry my weight.

I would also use this for pelvic floor issues where I dribble a bit when not on period. So comfort matters!

Any suggestions?

I’m in the state of VA, and while there’s not much humidity YET, it’s been 95° and up several days the past week. Because of this, our living room is becoming around 10° lower than the rest of our home due to elevated ceilings. Our ceiling in the living room is approximately 16-18 feet tall. The rest is normal, around 8 feet.

Without buying a window unit, is there something we can do? Our windows in the living room are high up and only open from the sides. Our home was built in the 50’s and when they rehabbed it, they just put newer in.

We close our blinds and curtains during the day because of this, but we hate living in a dungeon.

Anything we can do? We have two small dogs, so anything they can’t get into. Our house is one level, about 1300 square feet and on a slab.

Thank you.

Anyone got good documentary suggestions for me that are along the lines of these two documentaries?

I’ve seen the Wild and Wonderful Whites of West Virginia as well. But the first two are *chefs kiss*

Any recommendations for stuff similar?

Thanks y’all!

I go to bed around 10-11pm but am almost always awake by 1-2am. I get about 3.5-4 hours of sleep, am up for a few hours, then fall back asleep for another 1-2 hours.

Here’s the thing:

Once I am awake around 1-2am, I feel energized. I’m not shaky or restless or anxious, just feel rested and ready for the day. But around 4-5am I’m a shell of myself and drift back to sleep for another 1-2 hours.

Most days I’ll sneak in a nap around 12pm for 1-1.5 hours. It depends.

I’m exhausted. I want to know I’m not alone.

I’m asking politely to please table the HRT talk for a moment and just be my sister(s) in peri and let me vent.

No. I’m not on HRT. No. I can not take it according to FOUR specialists; two that I found from the meno society.

Yes I have been diagnosed with perimenopause as of two years ago.

With that out of the way…..

I feel like I’m no longer a functioning human being. I feel like people say that a lot BUT they still get up and go and do. I don’t. I feel like I can’t.

I went to bed around 10:30pm and woke up at 1:30am. This seems to be the norm for me. I’m not getting up to pee, I’m not getting up for water. My body just wakes me up and I can’t get back to sleep like a regular human being. Sometimes I’ll fall back asleep around 4-5am but by 6-7am I’m back up and ultimately up for the day.

I’m falling into a big depression over this because I am lost. I’m unable to take SSRIs as they’ve always created more issues than resolve in years past. Hormonal BC is not an option as that has affected me in the past in negative ways as well.

I feel like when I push to do the most mundane thing around the house, about 10 minutes in I’m going back to the couch to sit and rest. I don’t make plans. I can’t schedule appointments because I don’t sleep the night before those appointments. My husband works all day and is extremely caring and understanding of all of this but there’s zero sex drive on my part. My arms feel heavy. My legs feel heavy. I feel like I’m constantly walking on a boat and off balanced.

I’m so sick and tired of feeling this way. And I don’t care who says different, this isn’t the same thing majority of women experienced decades before us. Maybe they did to an extent but it wasn’t like this.

I’m tired of seeing women my age flourish. I know people will say to stop comparing but we all do it. I’ve gained a disgusting amount of weight but can’t keep it off. I can’t go for walks because my left knee feels like it’s going to go out on me all the time. Plus I’m exhausted.

None of my clothes fit right. I’m in the same 3-4 Walmart pajama sets during the day and on the off chance I DO go out of the house? It’s in the same 2-3 pairs of leggings and an oversized shirt. (I am plus sized)

I just want to be normal. I want to be able to go to bed and sleep, even if it’s not 8 hours. But just to get up and do what needs to be done then run a few errands and go to appointments. Every time I have something lined up for the following day I cancel because I don’t sleep and am not comfortable behind the wheel.

Everyone says to work out and lift weights but I can barely open a jar of pickles or peanut butter without trying so hard I turn red.

My God….. I can’t live like this for the rest of my life. I just can’t. I’m completely off balanced all the time and just tired.

Sorry I needed to vent.