r/Nepali_Millennials

I saw a conversation here and it had me thinkings, what's the situation of your opposite gender friendship in late 20s and 30s? Because mostly the opposite gender friendship is just dead at that point.

During schooling, college and around mid 20s, you have friends from opposite gender, some very close that you hang out with, call, chat, share your things, meet, go to restaurants and movies as friends.

But I believe towards late 20s people start to part ways and segregate themselves based on genders, Females only hang out with few of their female friends and men only hang out with few of their male friends.

That girl or boy you were friends with, the relationship becomes thinner and thinner, the distance grows.

Not that you aren't friends anymore or lose complete contact but theres no frequent calls or chat or hanging out.

Specially after marriage when spouse and kids get involved, the friendship just dies and you guys become college ko sathi ho and things limit to hi hello only. Because your spouse also becomes your friend, and they replace your friends. Your wife or husband hanging out with another girl or boy from college, going out, having calls chats can create problems.

Except for casual conversation, hi hello, group meetings, I have never seen opposite gender friendship continuing in late 20s or 30s, especially after marriage.

So what's your situation or opinion on this?

Well, in Nepal, it's not. Being "unmarried" and "not married" is not different.

I had a client who wanted to do Court Marriage and when he made his "Marital Status Certificate" from the ward office, it was written that "..... Applicant is not married".

However when we went to the Consular Department of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to verify it to send it abroad, they said that it must be written "unmarried" instead of "not married".

Wordplay is as interesting as Foreplay

So yeah, I just wanted to ask, especially people in their mid to late 20s, how's your social life?

For me, I've always been someone with a relatively small social circle. I mostly kept to myself, but when I was in college, there was still plenty of interaction. I'd see people every day, hang out after classes, and meet friends during holidays, so my social life was fairly active.

Also, until a couple of years ago, most of my cousins were still in Nepal, so we used to hang out quite often. Then I started working in an office, where I'd interact with colleagues every day. We'd go out for lunch together, and sometimes we'd hang out after work too. So there was always some level of social interaction.

Now, though, I work remotely, and honestly, my social life has taken a huge hit. Since I work from home, I don't get to meet my colleagues or anyone else. Half the day goes by working, and the rest somehow just disappears, and before I know it, the day's over.

Lately, I've been thinking that I really need to improve my social life. The same goes for my dating life as well.

The weird thing is, I don't know why, but everything feels so tiring these days. A few years ago, I had the energy and enthusiasm to reach out to people, start conversations, and make plans. Now, even that feels like a hassle. Even so, I know I need to put in the effort.

So I was wondering, how are you all doing? How do you meet new people these days? Through apps? Social media? Hobbies? Work?

Personally, I think social media has been the easiest way for me. Most of the friends I've made over the years have been through social media in one way or another.

So yeah, how's your social life these days?

I've been investing for about 3 to 4 years now in a few different things.

My primary investment has been in NEPSE, but with everything that's happened recently, my overall ROI is currently negative. I did make some decent profits on a few trades along the way, but overall I'm still at a loss.

In 2022, I invested some money in gold, and it has appreciated quite well at least on paper. I haven't sold it yet because as we all know gold comes in handy for weddings. 😄

More recently I invested in silver and actually booked a good profit there.

I also bought some land in a village in purba that has teak tree farming. I'm originally from purba and some relatives introduced me to the opportunity so I decided to invest.

So far, silver is the only investment where I've actually realized my returns. The gains in gold and land are still unrealized and NEPSE is currently in the red overall.

Now I'm trying to be more intentional about managing my money and building a long-term investment strategy.

Besides this i do SIP in two mutual funds on a monthly basis.

For those of you who have been investing for many years, what investments have given you the best long-term returns? Are there any investment options you'd recommend looking into?

Over the years I've accumulated around NPR 25 lakhs in liquid cash. I also have a decent income, and I am able to save around NPR 2 lakhs per month.

I haven't been on a trek before, but I'm planning to start, so I wanted to ask for some advice. Also late 20s just started and I haven't got much life/fun experience so want to start making them now.

What time of the year do you think is best for trekking? Obviously, it's monsoon right now, so I assume it isn't the ideal season. Other than that, which months would you recommend?

Also, since I'm a complete beginner, which trekking route would you suggest? I read that Mardi is very beginner friendly, so I've been considering that, but I'm looking into other options as well.

I'm not planning to go anytime soon because I'll need to plan my leave and everything first. Right now, I'm just trying to gather information and make up my mind.

As for who I'll be going with, I'm not sure yet. I might ask some cousins or friends, and if someone joins, great. If not, I might just go solo. I also read that there are trekking groups on Facebook and other platforms where people join organized treks together, so that's another option I'm considering. I'll think more about that later.

For now, I'd love your suggestions. Which months are best for trekking, which routes would you recommend for a beginner, and do you have any advice or experiences you'd like to share?

I honestly want to know if anyone else feels this way.

I'm in my late 20s, and lately, I feel like I'm losing a battle that nobody else can see. Growing up, we were taught to be responsible, to support our family, to sacrifice, to work hard, and to "handle things." So that's what I did. I stood by people, helped whenever I could, and believed that when life hit me hard, someone would be there for me too.

But when you're the one falling apart, it's strangely quiet.

There's family responsibility, financial pressure, debt, expectations, and then your own dreams that you still haven't given up on. You wake up every day pretending you're okay because, in a Nepali family, saying "I'm not okay" often feels like a luxury.

Some days, the anxiety hits so hard that you just want to quit everything. Not because you're weak, but because you're simply tired. Tired of being the strong one. Tired of carrying expectations. Tired of rebuilding when you're already broken.

And yet, you don't quit.

Because your parents are getting older. Because your mother still believes you'll figure it all out. Because your father trusts you'll handle things. Because there are people depending on you, even when nobody seems to be there for you.

I don't know if I'm looking for advice, support, or just proof that I'm not the only one feeling this way.

If you've been through this phase, how did you survive it?

Wanted to hear thoughts from people who havw taken 90% loan from CIT. From what I understand, if I take a loan of NPR 5 lakhs for example, I would need to pay loan interest on this amount (approx 5.25% p.a). On the other hand, I would also recieve interest (approx 3.5%). Is it true? Yesto ho bhane ta effectively jamma 1.5% jasto matrei interest paryo. Haina ra? Aru kei chha dos and donts about 90% CIT loan? Thank you all in advance.

malai blue bus ko concept nai man parena .

raati ko bela baru kasari huncha secure way ma 24 hrs chalne sajha yata yat garaideko vaye

hune with security jasle garda raati kaam batawaran pani milxa part time job lai baru motivate

garnu parne bidesh ko jastai . tara esari individual gender lai

focus garna thalyo vane tesle division lyauxa samaj ma near future ma hami tetro jaat jaati

vako desh ma sabai milera baseko xau anek reason dekhayera purush mahila vanne ahile aayera ?

voli arko

gender le uthaula re haak ko kura bus ko kura k garne ?

ani karan bas ahile sarkar le garla re voli failure vayo vane k

garne? ani color ni mahila lai dedicated thiyo vane baru chat gpt lai which color represent

female haneko vaye aauthiyo ta nilo pakkai hunthiyena hola ? kasto waiyat marketing gareko k

ini haru le yeti samma ki j kura ni support garira xa kam se kam yesma ta bola na waste of

money ho k intention ramro xa vane bus color nagari gari garna sakinthiyo k tara blue bus nai

garnu xa jasari ni aafno party ko marketing garnu parne xa hami twa parera herira xau toit

tesai low iq vako desh vaneko rahencha jhan naya generation smart re kaha ko smart ullu

banairako xa ullu vairaxan hype marketing ma support dekhayera:)

Sorry for the long post, and thank you if you make it till the end.

I met a guy online in 2018 through social media. We were from the same city and community, and later I found out our families had known each other for decades. We were just online friends at first, but after about two years we finally met in person. It felt like I’d known him forever.

After a few months of talking every day and spending time together, I confessed my feelings. I made it clear from the beginning that I wasn’t looking for anything casual—I wanted a relationship that could eventually lead to marriage. He took about two weeks to say yes because he’d come out of a long relationship, and I respected that.
Looking back, I had an anxious attachment style while he was very avoidant. I was clingy, and he often said he felt suffocated. Despite our differences, I believed we were building a future together.

Everything fell apart in 2023. I found out he had cheated on me with a colleague who became pregnant. He told me it was a one-time mistake, and against my better judgment, I forgave him. Later I discovered the affair had actually continued on and off for around 1½ years.

Our families knew about us, and there had been discussions about marriage. His mother even encouraged it. He wanted to wait until 2028 because he didn’t feel financially stable. I agreed, but suggested a private court marriage first. He refused, asked for space, and within weeks he was already dating other people.

The last conversation we had shattered me. He told me he never intended to marry me, never saw me as his wife, and criticized me for my weight and other things. After that, he blocked me everywhere. I never contacted him again.

He’s now in another relationship, and I genuinely wish him well. I don’t want him back, but I still miss him every day. I was bedridden for months after the breakup, and even now I feel emotionally numb. I struggle to connect with new people.

One thing I don’t understand is why he occasionally views my WhatsApp status from another number after blocking me everywhere else, and why he kept his birthday as my birthday after we broke up. I know it probably doesn’t mean anything, but my mind keeps wondering.

How do you let go of someone who was your whole future? I don’t regret loving him, but I wish I knew how to move on. My family thinks I handled the breakup well, but the truth is it feels like a part of me never came back.

Has anyone else been through something similar? How did you finally let go?

Hii people,

For those of you running an online business in Nepal, whether it's full time or just a side hustle, how are you managing deliveries and finances?

Once orders start increasing, it's sachi not possible to deliver sabai order haru yourself. Aba sabai Pathao ni garna mildaina cause idk if they have CoD line wala system kine bhane some customers only want to pay in cash, so refusing CoD isn't always an option.

I have heard people mention Nepal Can Move, but I don't really understand how their system works. How do deliveries, CoD settlements, and payments work there?

Also, what about billing? Some businesses ask for a invoice. If you're doing a side hustle and your business isn't registered yet, how are you handling that? I don't think you can issue bills under tyo personal PAN.

Would love to hear how you guys are managing all this. Any advice or experience would be really helpful.

Cheers!

Aja malai mero mama le sikauna vayeko yekdam positive thoughts millenial parivar🫶🏻 shuva dina savai lai dada,dd haru

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I'm at 32 and working a stable goverment officer, but I still feel like getting financially ahead is becoming harder every year.

Between rising prices, rent, family responsibilities, loan payments, insurance, and trying to save or invest for the future, it often feels like my salary disappears before the month ends. At the same time, there's pressure of children, buying a home, and supporting parents.

Nowadays the most crowded place in Birgunj is Malt. It has a good ambience, and the service is actually quick. Overall gives a good experience. What happened to the other cafes in Birgunj. Why are all they getting down ?

for Females from a female

how you guys get smooth leg skins ? I have a lot of Hairs ani swimming shorts j lagauna ni jhyau.. I tried hot wax so painful, but regrow nikai slow thiyo.. shaving within second ma aako jasto hunxa , cream pani vakhhar try gardai xu cream bata ni smooth skin nadekhine raixa feri .. girls please help

I've been throwing hands(reaching out) and knowing it all from people around me.
I've talked to my brothers, brother-in-law, who are more senior than me and married. They all suggest me to get marry.

I've always accepted the idea of marriage and was excited few months ago to get married too.

And now, as I look into it, I genuinely don't want to get married.

My parents had a failed marriage. Mero parents lai maile parenting garirathye jaba ma bachha thiye. They never divorced but I've seen my life fall apart. Tyo kura le khasai ma bihey gardina bhanney mentality ako haina.

Tara malai bihey garera kei positive hola bhanne kura nai dimag bata niskisakyo

I used to think, malai sathi haru chaidena, tehi ekjana bhaye huncha bhanera. Tara ahileyy ma eklai huda, malai koi ni chaidaina jasto lagna laisakyo.

Mero bachhai dekhi ko sathi chan tara, tiniharu ko aafnai circle cha, mero group chat nai chaina. I've no friends and its fine. Malai sathi bhanera hurukkai ni hunna.

Aba bihey nagarey, sabbai sathi bhai yeta uta community hyan tyaan le nai socialize bhayera, mental health regulate huncha.

Physical needs haru ta bihey nagarera ni girlfriends ta bhaihalcha. And mann ko kura garna lai therapist chadai chan. Tehi nai garira ho.

Bihey garnu ko aauchitwo nai chaina, last few women sanga ko interaction bata ta I don't even find myself getting in love again. The women I was in love with married someone else and I can't handle any drama from women anymore. Like its not worth it k.

Baru I've so many business plans and I can help so many people in so many ways. Like maile kaile ni kasaile malai bujla ra mero khyal rakhla bhanera sochya thiyena, ekchoti tyo feelingg ako thyo, blinded by that shit and I thought I can love. But ma bata ta hudaina. I can't.

Aba malai bihey garera mero bachha hola bhanney aas ni chaina, malai lastai darr lairacha. Maile aafulai bahek aarulai control garna sakdaina tesaile. I can't dictate someone else behaviour and I can't have a kid whom I can let be whatever they want to be. The world is so scary. Ani, I think I can't be a good father. i might be a good one but never enough. Same goes to being a husband. Baru ma social work ma best huna sakchu.

So, ma jasto manche le bihey garnu ko kunai aartha nai chaina, ma eklai ramauna sakchu,eklai bachna sakchu. Life ko kasto dark phases ta eklai cross garey, aaba auney nai hola ra. Tei bela bela ma lonelyness aaula tara tesko lagi ta baal ho. Testa kura le bother gardaina malai, baru tyo aafno budi lai naramro bata lageko ya aaru ke garerko dekhna sakdina.

30/ f

Hello , looking for somebody to get settle between 30-33 yrs male . From Mongolian community either be it rai, Limbu, gurung , Magar . Who would be willing to move to hongkong and is from technical background . Or is already settled in hongkong from professional background . Shoot me up if it suits you .