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Am I going crazy?!

Okay this is specifically for British trans men or trans men in Britain.
Has anyone else noticed they are misgendered mostly by British men? Foreign people tend to assume I am a man and I have been stopped going into the female toilets and been called ‘mate’ or smth like that and been otherwise treated as a cis boy so frequently by foreign people/men in England and the men in my home country- but British men seem to click me with ease and call me ‘love’ or smth British and feminine instead asw as treating me/referring to me as a girl! Why could this be? Is it just me? Is the opposite or same true for transfemmes?

Is it just me who finds it hard to date as a Transgender person no one seems interested?

HI I was wondering how trustworthy United pharmacies is and if the estimated timings on the website are good estimates (should I expect the possibility of them coming a few weeks before or after)

I'm looking to do a trial hrt dose for roughly 1-2months to experience the changes and feel of things (understand I that its not long enough for major effects but they can still happen) and I'm looking to hopefully get the stuff at the end of the month when my parents leave for a week (they like to snoop around when I get stuff)

I'll also be doing blood tests before to make sure my levels are good before starting

I was called 'chick' earlier and im not sure if i was clocked/it was just had luck/if my haircut is causing me to pass less (trans man)

I was waiting for my bus earlier and there was this older couple trying to figure out when their bus was, I was getting the same bus so I scanned the QR code and told them it was 5 minutes till the bus arrived. She said in response "Thanks chick", which at first I thought i misheard, though I didn't say anything in response to it.

I know I do (or at least did) pass relatively well, as I rarely get misgendered, but this has caused me to start questioning, has/will my hairstyle change make me pass less? I want to pass and be percieved as male but now im worried that I dont and that its because of my hair. :(

Have you ever seen older women call younger/teen boys 'chick'? I used to be called it a lot by older women before I started T, hence my concern

This feels a bit silly but i need another opinion, i feel like im gonna start spiralling and picking myself apart

Hi, I've had rly bad experiences (people misgendering me, making me feel uncomfortable).

Are there any lgbt owned, or at least LGBT friendly laser hair removal services in London?

I want to hear your experiences. Lots of people say "they just don't care" but if they keep misgendering me it seems like they do :(

Any recommendations?

Hi! I’m the partner of someone nonbinary in the UK. They want Phalloplasty but DON’T want to go on hormones. I was wondering if you all had any recommendations. I’m American so i’m admittedly entirely unfamiliar with the way the healthcare there is. To my knowledge my partner is covered by the NHS, or could see private healthcare, I’m willing to pay any price out of pocket if it means they can be happy with their body. Any recommendations?

Edit: To my knowledge they have a gender dysphoria diagnosis, private is far too expensive, and they just got denied today after having been on the waitlist for almost 5 years.

I'm a 41 year old transgender woman in north London looking to make some trans friends near me. DM me if you wanna chat.

Hello, hoping I can get some pointers for this if anyone might know.

Back in 2024 when I had top surgery, I was very very adamant on getting phalloplasty down the line. However, things have changed drastically and as I no longer feel identity and comfort within being a binary trans man, and have since rediscovered a more comfortable and natural-feeling non binary identity, my ideas for bottom surgery have shifted onto wanting meta with UL and no v-nectomy or scrotoplasty.

I know the surgeon that did my top surgery had spoken to someone else and put me on a phallo wait list and I did get an email about that because of the new supposedly even longer NHS England waitlist. I tried to respond to them but my email just kept getting sent back to me, I tried to phone the number attached and waited for a good hour and a half and was still somehow number 20 in the queue, I unfortunately don't have the time to sit and wait on a phone currently.

I don't remember the surgeon's name(s) who did my first surgery, I just know I got it done in Manchester. Currently, I would just like to be directed to the correct place to get back in line only for meta this time and also so I can find a good timeline and see if it'll add up with everything else in life I have to sort out soon.

Any help is great, thank you. :)

I live in Manchester, stockport specifically and I've decided I'm done waiting and want to get on HRT, I'm not raking it in by any means (£27,000) but the money I am getting is stable and I told myself once I'd accomplished stable income I'd get on it. I don't know anything about providers though, the only one I know of is Gender gp and I hear mixed reviews about them.

So my question is are there any services local that do what gender gp does or can help me start transitioning?

Thank you

Hi so I don't know what to do right now..I'm 21 (soon to be 22 yay happy bday soon.) I just started patches and testosterone blockers in February after 2years of waiting with the Gender service.

I have had 2 sets of patches both dated on 3months however with the first and second patches I had a few dull ones that just didn't stick at all. I contacted them about this the first time and they were good about it.. with my second set of patches I went through nearly a full pack of dull ones or just coming off naturally due to bodily sweat.

I've nearly come to the end of my patches I think I have like two left now and I've had no response from the endocrinologist and no response from the original person that I would message if I've received no response. Granted the original person shouldn't really be chasing it up for me but I was thankful they did the first time.

I've had my blood test and I've tried getting in contact via email so far but I don't know what to do as I'm getting scared they won't do anything now..I missed my telephone appointment with them as my phone didn't actually work and I sorted that out with them.

Please can anyone just give me advice on what to do here?

(Probably should have mentioned I'm in South West Wales.)

Hello! I am an Aussie trans man who is moving to London in mid July. I'm really struggling to find the correct information for this. Does anyone have any experience with transferring care? I've been on hormones for 10 years, however I can't self inject it. In Australia, my friend helps me as does my doctor. I really am trying to set something up for when I land. I'll have medication with me, but it's really a case of not being able to inject myself. Does anyone have any tips for the process to continue care in London area?

I’m straight (unfortunately) dating while 32. I want to find a boyfriend- something serious monogamous. I’m using Hinge in London- where I think is probably the best city for dating for me in terms of my chances of finding a man who also speaks English.
The problem is with the family filter set to “Don’t want children” I hit a wall of “no more users in your area” within very few swipes. And this is central London.
I mean obviously the “wants serious relationship” + “child-free” man is probably rare. The men who leave it blank or pick “Don’t want children” tend to be the low-effort/casual or poly profiles.
I’m not sure how to go about the children subject with Hinge. I’m open to children but only if we have the financial means and we have help if we want to travel and such, but I lean more on the child-free side. Plus I assume most men who say they want children are probably just looking for a cis woman rather than the costly process of alternatives? So I have no idea how to approach this.

Does anyone else have this issue? So many of the content creators and YouTubers out there who advise on voice training are American and I just can’t seem to help lapsing into an American accent whenever I attempt to raise the octave of my voice 🫠

Hey! (ftm)

Im looking to get top surgery abroad, and looking around and asking around to see what my bets options are and other people's experiences!

Im looking at getting it next year hopefully! Or atleast within 18 months - if its feasible.

Mainly looking abroad because of pricing (if im being completely honest).

Im open to all options and countries.

(My family arent so keen on turkey even though I wouldn't be fussed either way)

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Just looking to see if people have any ideas, links or experiences!!

Ive been on T 7 months and got my diagnosis too, incase this matters!

Thank you!!

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Omg can't wait going on a my first date with a stunning lady since coming out ..so excited had to share it

I wanted to ask you all if you are comfortable with the amount of uni survey posts get put on here. If its an issue the mod can make sure none happen.

We get a lot of requests via mod DMs.

Thank you all for the input and hope you don't melt in this heatwave!