u/Automatic-Top4924

Im struggling so much

I want to start testosterone but I need alot of money i do have a plan which is to get enough money for the forst month then get a job as I will be over 16 by then and can get a job

I need to earn a extra £33 a week to meet my goal I might start dog walking (£8 for 45 minutes and £10 for an hour )and washing cars (£15-£20 for interior and exterior)o also already earn £22.50

i keep getting mixed answers for places when im trying to plan and im getting really stressed

I hate myself so much and my family hates me to the piont im ready to just end it all ( i do have a plan for my future) but this is the most hopeless ive ever felt because my family keep making me feel small ive already been told off twice before 10am I get told off for doing nothing at this piont. ive been out for 4 months when I finally relised I can do this and I can be myself because they told me it was wrong and hated it hence why I didnt think being trans was a good thing but its one of the best feeling when im anywhere other then my house as i get treated properly whereas my family treat me like a monster and everything get blamed on me and then I get told off again.

Any advice would be great im struggling so much now and im stuck here for 2 years but I wouldn't be surprised if I have to live somewhere else or I move in with my mum again

Im struggling so much

I want to start testosterone but I need alot of money i do have a plan which is to get enough money for the forst month then get a job as I will be over 16 by then and can get a job

I need to earn a extra £33 a week to meet my goal I might start dog walking (£8 for 45 minutes and £10 for an hour )and washing cars (£15-£20 for interior and exterior)o also already earn £22.50

i keep getting mixed answers for places when im trying to plan and im getting really stressed

I hate myself so much and my family hates me to the piont im ready to just end it all ( i do have a plan for my future) but this is the most hopeless ive ever felt because my family keep making me feel small ive already been told off twice before 10am I get told off for doing nothing at this piont. ive been out for 4 months when I finally relised I can do this and I can be myself because they told me it was wrong and hated it hence why I didnt think being trans was a good thing but its one of the best feeling when im anywhere other then my house as i get treated properly whereas my family treat me like a monster and everything get blamed on me and then I get told off again.

Any advice would be great im struggling so much now and im stuck here for 2 years but I wouldn't be surprised if I have to live somewhere else or I move in with my mum again

Im struggling so much

I want to start testosterone but I need alot of money i do have a plan which is to get enough money for the forst month then get a job as I will be over 16 by then and can get a job

I need to earn a extra £33 a week to meet my goal I might start dog walking (£8 for 45 minutes and £10 for an hour )and washing cars (£15-£20 for interior and exterior)o also already earn £22.50

i keep getting mixed answers for places when im trying to plan and im getting really stressed

I hate myself so much and my family hates me to the piont im ready to just end it all ( i do have a plan for my future) but this is the most hopeless ive ever felt because my family keep making me feel small ive already been told off twice before 10am I get told off for doing nothing at this piont. ive been out for 4 months when I finally relised I can do this and I can be myself because they told me it was wrong and hated it hence why I didnt think being trans was a good thing but its one of the best feeling when im anywhere other then my house as i get treated properly whereas my family treat me like a monster and everything get blamed on me and then I get told off again.

Any advice would be great im struggling so much now and im stuck here for 2 years but I wouldn't be surprised if I have to live somewhere else or I move in with my mum again

I want to start testosterone but I need alot of money i do have a plan which is to get enough money for the forst month then get a job as I will be over 16 by then and can get a job

I need to earn a extra £33 a week to meet my goal I might start dog walking (£8 for 45 minutes and £10 for an hour )and washing cars (£15-£20 for interior and exterior)o also already earn £22.50

i keep getting mixed answers for places when im trying to plan and im getting really stressed

I hate myself so much and my family hates me to the piont im ready to just end it all ( i do have a plan for my future) but this is the most hopeless ive ever felt because my family keep making me feel small ive already been told off twice before 10am I get told off for doing nothing at this piont. ive been out for 4 months when I finally relised I can do this and I can be myself because they told me it was wrong and hated it hence why I didnt think being trans was a good thing but its one of the best feeling when im anywhere other then my house as i get treated properly whereas my family treat me like a monster and everything get blamed on me and then I get told off again.

Any advice would be great im struggling so much now and im stuck here for 2 years but I wouldn't be surprised if I have to live somewhere else or I move in with my mum again

So I want to start T and i was going to use gel as it would be easier for me but due to finance issues and family. I will probably have to use injections and I wanted to know a little more about how they work and how easy it is to keep secret(i have a safe whkch i can hide in my draw ) but I just want to know how it works more.

Thank you 👍

I going to start selling more things in hope I get more money im a little scared my family will find out but I always have my bedroom door shut and I have things hidden in safes and drawers that my family wont look in but there's always that fear. I'm pretty co fident and being able to hide it and ive got a plan for what to do.

Do changes happen at the same speed on injections as they do the gel ?

I want to start T (private)around my 16th birthday later on this year does anyone have any advice on how to earn more money or any jobs I could get I already do a paper round and earn £17.50 a week from that and an extra £5 for doing a lady's shopping i also help around the house and get paid for it im determind to do it hecause I really want to feel more myself and like what I see when I look in the mirror yk I am making stuff which i am going to sell online to but other advice would be appreciated

T-gel would be a lot easier for me but money needs to be top priority to I might go for injection as they are less frequent and less money

Thank you

So I came out of my uncle and his wife a few weeks ago and personally I think it went badly I sent a message because ive probably got audhd and find it really hard to talk to people but tomorrow I have to go to my cousins 2nd birthday party and I haven't seen her mum since coming out so im scared it will be really awkward and uncomfortable.

Any advice ?

So I came out of my uncle and his wife a few weeks ago and personally I think it went badly I sent a message because ive probably got audhd and find it really hard to talk to people but tomorrow I have to go to my cousins 2nd birthday party and I haven't seen her mum since coming out so im scared it will be really awkward and uncomfortable.

Any advice ?

In the uk there is a new law saying that trans people have to use the bathroom of the gender they were assigned at birth not the gender they identify as.

This really annoyes me becauee ive tried explaining to my nan that the law won't protect women only spaces becauee a cis male could walk in and claim he was a trans man just to harass women

My nan was unsupportive but she might be warming i hope (third times the charm) she hasn't interrogate me about anything since my mum told her I was suicidal. But I won't do anything because ive got a plan for what I want for my future (FYI im fine )

I know that the law isnt really going to do anything because Trans people will just continue using the toilet which make them feel safest which for me is the mens because I felt cornerd and I swear someone banged on my door when I was in the womens last so I do not feel safe

My mates giving me a RADAR key so I dont need to worry about element of it

But I just wonder how many will continue to use the mens becauee nothing can eb done as they cant prove what gender you were born as

When you first chamged your name how did it go didi anyone say any nasty comments or not like it because i want to change my name but the only thing stopping me is the fact I just stopped being bullied and I dont want it to start again i could just make up a really detailed story about having a twin nob9dy knew about dbut then tell the people who need to know even though some already do

I would love some advice because im trying to convince my nan to let me change my name as it's the summer break now

When you first chamged your name how did it go didi anyone say any nasty comments or not like it because i want to change my name but the only thing stopping me is the fact I just stopped being bullied and I dont want it to start again i could just make up a really detailed story about having a twin nob9dy knew about dbut then tell the people who need to know even though some already do

I would love some advice because im trying to convince my nan to let me change my name as it's the summer break now

I'm a 15-year-old trans man (pre-T), and I live in a controlling family with old views, so they are transphobic. It is really hard for me to live as myself at the moment.

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I pass really well and constantly get called "young man" a lot. One person properly looked at me and called me a young man, so I do pass. However, my family want to know how I spend my money because they don't want me buying men's clothes.

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I bought some boxers, and my mum said I shouldn't have done that. I told her they're more comfortable (and make me feel better), and she said, "No, they don't." Then I just walked off. She also said she won't pay my money into my account if I'm going to spend it on men's clothes.

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We also have the school uniform problem. My joggers properly hugged my thighs and caused me a lot of dysphoria. I kept asking for different ones for about a year, but they kept telling me they looked fine and that I needed to move on. I ignored it for as long as I could until it got to the point where I couldn't focus on anything apart from the high levels of dysphoria. So I stopped wearing them and had to buy my own. She said she'd repay me for the joggers, but because I bought men's clothes, she's now saying she won't pay me back.

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I have a morning job, so I earn my own money anyway, but I shouldn't have to spend it on joggers just so I can feel comfortable at school.

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My school bag causes dysphoria too, as she won't let me have a binder, so the straps hug my chest and highlight something I hate. Because of that, I stopped bringing a bag, and now they're telling me off for acting like a "special case" when they know why I hate it.

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They also keep making fun of me. For example, when I wanted a bigger school shirt so I could hide my chest more, they started saying things like, "Oh, she's got a chest size of this," and they keep making me feel awful about things.

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I've spoken to people at school, and hopefully they can help.

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Now we have the bathroom situation. I use the men's toilets when I'm by myself, and I feel much better and I'm not pee shy. If I use the women's toilets, I get really pee shy. However, when I'm out with my family, they won't let me use the men's.

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I hate being in the women's toilets because, in my experience, women tend to be more judgemental than men. So if there isn't a unisex or disabled toilet available, my options are either:

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- Go into the women's, hate myself, feel really dysphoric, get pee shy, and not get told off.

- Go into the men's, feel much better, not get pee shy, but get told off.

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(Although I'm getting told off a lot anyway.)

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When I came out to my nan, she told my aunt, and my aunt said people my age are too young to be making those decisions, that school is influencing me, and that this isn't really what I want—even though it is.(like im 16 in 5 months I think im older enough to know i am going to buy a morme stp to feel more comfortable and im hoping to start T next year)

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I've basically shown signs of being trans since I was about five years old. For example, I hated being called "princess" and preferred "prince," and I preferred being called handsome instead of beautiful. I just didn't know what being trans was because my family is religious.

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Does anyone have any advice on how to buy clothes that make me feel good? It's difficult because of the washing, although the school could give me boys' school trousers.

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There's probably a lot more stuff that I've forgotten at the moment! 🤦‍♂️

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Any advice would be grately appreciated