r/transsex

Why do so many trans folks seem to think physical dysphoria, and the need for medical transition, would disappear if we abolished gender systematically? By that I mean gender roles were no longer enforced, the binary was no longer the “standard” for everyone, transphobia and cisnormativity didn’t exist, etc.

This always confused me as someone who was raised gender neutral, never internalized the social aspects of gender, and still felt like I was born “in the wrong body” I just didn’t associate it with “looking masculine” or “looking feminine”. Dysphoria for me felt like being born missing a body part, my body was unable to perform certain functions it should’ve been able to do, never really going through puberty. I’m guessing it is / would be a similar deal for any trans person raised without gender. I medically transitioned, my body finally feels “correct” and I’m exploring my relationship to manhood / womanhood / femininity / masculinity in many ways for the first time.

And idk maybe this is a controversial opinion but it almost feels like a transphobic perspective? Or anti-transition? Bioessentialist? Maybe something else? As if a future where we don’t alter our bodies is somehow better than a future where it’s less stigmatized to alter our bodies and change our sexed traits?

I want to start this off by saying that I absolutely do not mean to direct this at people who need to be stealth in order to be physically safe. If this is the case, feel free to ignore.

Otherwise:

As someone who was stealth, but now is not, I want to give you all one very serious piece of advice that you should consider.

If there are people in your life that would treat you differently and not respect you if they knew you were trans, those people should not be a part of your life. If you need to do a certain kind of “performance” for somebody to like you, then that person just doesn’t really like you. Real friendships and relationships are built on accepting people for who they really are. If you don’t realize this, you will eventually become completely burnt out and miserable. Ultimately, I realized that I would rather have five close friends for whom I do not need to put on any kind of performance for, and can be completely myself around, than have 50 friends who I need to constantly “perform“ in order to have them like me. Being stealth is cutting off your nose, to spite your face (to me at least)…. And then I moved to New York City and have 50 friends who actually do like the real me lol

I know that there are a lot of younger people on this sub (under 21). I know that it can seem like being popular in high school and college is the most important thing in the world. As someone that was very “popular“ in high school and college, I can 100% assure you that it is not. Honestly, trying to maintain that “status“ set me back a huge amount in my actual adult life. Most of the “popular” and “cool“ people, from high school and college, literally peaked in high school and college! They proceed to spend the rest of their lives reminiscing on their “glory days” as a teen and young adult and it is genuinely the most pathetic thing to see, as an adult.

There is, unfortunately, quite a fine line between self actualization (wonderful and positive) and pretending to be someone that you’re not (self destructive and immensely negative). Love yourself or no one else will.

Edit: the fact that this innocuous piece of advice elicited such extreme hostility tells me that it was sincerely needed. If someone here is just starting their medical transition, or their transition generally, I wish you all the best!

I’m thinking of transitioning but I’m not sure 🥹

Do you also see your dysphoria as something medical that requires treatment (transition)?

I'm not advocating for or supporting transmedicalism, but do you also feel or have you felt this way? Has your mental health improved after transitioning?

I am 20 yo, I have wanted to be a boy since I was 5, when puberty started, my personality almost changed, I started to get shy, more stressed, would avoid mirrors and become more aggressive.

In my case, I see dysphoria as a medical condition that requires treatment, since it affects my mental health. Without it, my life will be miserable and my mental state will only worsen. Recently it has already worsened considerably, with bouts of depression, depressive thoughts, apathy, turning me dysfunctional and the stress of dysphoria is affecting my emotional regulation.

Your mental health before transitioning was bad too? It got better?

I also wanted to know if you've ever been diagnosed or suspected you might have something, but it wasn't. As an example, I was diagnosed with ASD, ADHD, BPL, depression, or bipolar disorder, but after HRT almost all symptoms went away.

One example is that my dysphoria is severe; I've never been autistic, but my psychologist believed I was. I suspect GD was mimicking autism, and I wonder if my ADHD is in reality just a result of it.

I'm not saying that just because someone is trans they can't have one of these, but I wanted to know if anyone here has ever been misdiagnosed.

this is a bit off topic but i think this subreddit is more likely to be honest with me than others. i chose the name luna years ago and i generally like it, but it is literally THE trans girl name.

im worried that even if im able to pass completely, my name will give me away. im hoping to get my name changed legally soon since im 17 and i think there will be fewer records of my deadname if i do it before 18.

HS Junior, two years left of public school. I don't live in a red area or anything but it's not exactly safe or friendly, but I am on E (June 20 2026)

Breast growth and fat redistribution are the major concerns for me; while they take a while (longer than just 2 years) to hit full effect, 2 years is still plenty of time for them to intensify. Meanwhile, I will be going to public school. I will also be hanging out with my friends who live in the neighborhood with me.

Points of interest are

Hiding breast growth at school

Hiding fat redistribution at school

Doing the previous two whenever outside of the house or hanging out with a friend

What to do if it becomes literally uncopeable and I cannot hide the effects for one reason or another, or I get outed.

(sorry to keep reposting this, it keeps getting deleted by reddit filters for some reason)

I’m 15FTM, and i might start a low dose of diy T soon, and i can’t raise the dose as i am closeted and need to hide the changes from my family for as long as possible (at least 6 months, maybe a year)

i have heard people saying that low dose T can cause osteoporosis, and i know that is probably just fearmongering, but i might have other risk factors…? for example i am quite underweight (bmi 15.9), and i have never had a period. apparently being underweight is a large risk factor for osteoporosis.

i don’t know what to do… i dont want to feminise more, but i dont want to end up with osteoporosis or some other health issues because i messed up my hormone levels. what should i do? should i just take it and see what happens? or should i just pray that i don’t feminise more until i can actually get on a proper T dose? 🙁

https://preview.redd.it/eg18g67wxyjh1.png?width=943&format=png&auto=webp&s=0a35efd9ed4a170079044f1c0d9494ce8242fdee

testC I use a 27g, no way I cored it already?! its so small I keep losing it in the oil, brand new 10ml vial too. do I just keep using it unless it it has bacteria or cloudiness and if my needle picks it up I'll throw it out and re-draw. I can't waste it.

what would you do??

Hello! I just started E today via pills and I was wondering if blood tests are needed. The reason I ask this is because I literally cant access blood tests right now.

Also, I've seen people say pills are terrible, but pills are literally the only ones I can obtain right now.

(2x 2mg per day, between gum and cheek)

Ty in advance!! ^^

I started T 2 weeks ago. I'm taking cyp, first dose was 50mg/0.2ml and second was 75mg/0.3ml, injected either side of my stomach. 30G needle if that matters.

I know that some red/itchiness and a lump is normal with subq, but I was expecting it to be gone after a week or two. 2 weeks later its a bit less itchy but the lump feels just as large. Its not infected, the lump isnt visible although I can feel it under my skin and theres a small patch of red around the injection site. How long does it usually take for them to stop itching and go down? At first I thought I was allergic to the carrier oil but from what I've read I'm almost certainly not.

i need some advice, ive been trying to inject (im 25g) for about a week now and i just cant get myself to put the needle in and when i try i feel really light headed and as if im about to pass out, would switching to a higher gague subq injections be better or would it likely be the same thing? ive tried almost everything at this point

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been trying for almost a week now and i just mentally cant force it in.

tried ice, coughing, changing areas, getting smaller needles (25g) etc.... i just dont know how to get through the block

im trying to switch from prescription to diy but i have a little bit of a needlephobia. im sure i can do it if i really try but i'd rather not have procrastination and anxiety mess up my hormones so im thinking i wanna try patches first but is it possible to go monotherapy with that

also has anyone used the estrana tape from japan why is it so weirdly dosed

TW: Possible depression, suicidal ideation, emotional breakdowns, periods and dysphoria. I'd also like to know if your mental health improved after you started transitioning.

I'm 20 years old, a Brazilian trans man who hasn't been able to start T yet. I've always shown signs of dysphoria. I remember wishing I was a boy since I was 5, praying to have a brother and for him to have the luck I didn't (I regretted that), competing to prove I was a man, hating puberty and avoiding mirrors, photos, certain clothes, tried to repress it, etc.

(Yeah, I want to start diy. I am already saving money to start this month. If you want and can help me with some donations like 3 dollars, I would be grateful. Just DM me. I hate asking for it, but it is only because things are too hard. 3 dollars would help me a lot.)

My 12-year-old brother is entering puberty, his voice is getting hoarse, he is already taller than me, and honestly, I am so fucking scared Honestly, idk how I will bear that. I have only been getting worse.

At first I thought it was only pmdd, but after it got worse. It turned out to be out of the luteal phase, it came to my menstruation, to my fertile period, it stopped to be once in months to once in the month, and after turning to various times in the months and even once/days in a week.

I have horrible crisis where I started feeling horrible, that I will not be able to live my life, that I can't stand more years like that, that If I don't do something, I will die. And I get dysphoric asf and in some kind of panic.

Yesterday a car crashed seconds after where I was. I almost didn't reacted, cared or got happy when I noticed that I escaped by little. I am constantly wishing that I was not born, but at the same I want to live and be happy, but it makes me feel so impossible and idk how much years I can bear. It is already a miracle to be alive.

I've been talking about panic attacks, right? I don't know if you've experienced anything similar, but I start feeling really bad, I start crying a few tears and then many more come out, and I start moaning and making low hissing sounds, and soon after I'm crying loudly and desperately, very loudly and horribly. I look like a ghost.

I sob heavily, choke, almost vomit, scream softly, and the crying almost becomes loud screams of despair, and I can't calm down. It's happened that I've screamed as if I were being stabbed, hit myself in desperation, not noticed when I fell asleep, my whole body and legs tremble, my teeth chatter, and in that last one I even felt like I was going to pee my pants.

I think they last for half an hour or more.

These days I haven't been able to study; I feel like I'm not capable of getting a job because I'm so unwell, even though I want to and I'm trying my best. There are some days when I'm better and a little happy, but then I feel bad again and it only gets worse.

I keep saying it's a miracle I don't have depression, I must be wrong lol 😐.

*I really wish I had been born cis, or that I was anything else. I hate how evangelicalism demonizes LGBT people.*

*My parents are so committed to that religion that they don't accept that HRT would help me and they don't accept that I'm trans. They didn't even bother with a psychiatrist (even though my mother wants to take me to an endocrinologist for "pmdd").*

*I think she's totally blind and is the most ignorant person I know. If your child is going to "hell" for something they didn't choose, ask for, or want, but will live a miserable life on earth and possibly kill themselves, which would condemn them to hell anyway, why not try to accept your child, support their transition, etc., so they can at least have a good life and not kill themselves?*

I am not transmedicalist and I don't support that, but I see me being trans more like a medical condition due the suffering that it makes me feel. I don't believe that it is a requirement to be trans.

But do you feel like that too or consider your dysphoria more as something medical and need treatment (hrt and transition)?

https://www.reddit.com/r/transsex/s/XopT0ImXx0 <- Apparently in Greece you can buy 2mg estradiol valerate and 10mg cyproterone pills OTC. What would be the correct dose for a 14 y/o who's just starting E?

I read the Endocrine Society guidelines (https://academic.oup.com/jcem/article/102/11/3869/4157558?login=false) and they said this:

"Induction of female puberty with oral 17β-estradiol, increasing the dose every 6 mo:  5 μg/kg/d  10 μg/kg/d  15 μg/kg/d  20 μg/kg/d  Adult dose = 2–6 mg/d  In postpubertal transgender female adolescents, the dose of 17β-estradiol can be increased more rapidly:   1 mg/d for 6 mo   2 mg/d"

2mg/day for a grown adult and less than 1mg for a teen sounds like WAY too little to me. My gf and I think that 4mg/day (one pill in the morning, one at night) and 10mg cypro/day are better. Are we missing something??? Is it possible that the correct dose is so mfing low??

I'm 15 FTM, and I've been DIYing since I was 13. I've become an expert in DIYing by this point, however I don't know much about MTF HRT. I want to help my gf get on E, she very much wants to but in our country, she could probably never do it the legal way. She's 14 and tanner stage 3-4, also she lives in Greece. Could she buy estrogen pills OTC here? Can you even do monotherapy with pills or gel? What should we do?

So I'm gonna do DIY since it's the only option for my country And age there is no other options.

So I'm 14 and I wanna know what should be the dose I take, I know what the usual doses are for Adults but I read that teenagers should take a lower dose and very slowly increase but, I cant find any sources that say how much exactly I should take and how often do I increase. so if anybody has any idea or sources please reply to this to help me out.

And what is available in my country to find and what I'm gonna take are,

Cyproterone acetate (Androcur) which has a usual adult dose of 6.25-12.5mg OR Spironolactone (Spectone) which has a usual adult dose of 200mg "I still haven't decided between the two."

And for Estrogen its gonna be Progynova

I'm planning on sublingual route

I can get that stuff from local pharmacies since they don't ask for any prescriptions 90% of the time

Oh also I got my total Testosterone and Estradiol E2 tested last week and I got these results

Total T : 518 ng/dl

Estradiol E2 : 32.45 pg/ml

If you know any sources or you yourself know what doses I should be taking please reply to this.

Thank you all