u/VoiceComprehensive57

How hard is it to hide voice changes if I do transfemme voice training?

Would it damage my masc voice progress if I do transmasc voice training as well?

Would it be relatively easy to hide the other changes for 2-3 years?

I know this is something thats completely unattainable, but that doesn't stop a dude from hoping.

I just wish i could be taken care of like i was when i was a cronokid. Just without all the bad stuff. I want somebody to treat me with help and kindness, and to coddle me and be patient with me. I want to be helped with things I find hard, to check in on me every day. To call me nice nicknames and to love me. I want it to happen without the price of being a disappointment.

I feel like i've lost my ability to have actual friends because thats the only way i really connect with people. I feel like i don't really get much emotional value out of my friendships, and even though I put in effort i don't do enough for my friends.

I know i can't really expect anybody to come along and give me care. I just feel so alone.

I've known about NGU for so long now, i've been lurking this sub the whole time as well. I just never connected the dots that my constant desire to be taken care of like a chrono-kid in combination, and how i actually kinda like how people treat me when they mistake me for younger than I am, and how i just never really feel in sync with people my age anymore could mean anything.

Now i just have to figure out what to do about that information...

I've seen some dudes say that it made it easier for them to use transtape, which is already a good start. My chest is already on the smaller side, but still big enough to give me a lot of dysphoria. Will fat redistribution make them any smaller?

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Do you stay on initial dose unless you have low T on bloods, or is there like a certain amount of time you stay on initial dose until you move to maximum?

[something keeps us from talking about a memory, sorry for the title typo, can't edit it now]

We have a very specific memory we just "aren't allowed" to talk about. We all have emotional amnesia for it, so we can remember it in passing perfectly fine.

The idea of telling somebody always gave us a lot of anxiety, but we broke through that the other day and tried to talk about it, but it immediately sent us into a panic attack.

I was the one fronting at the time, from my perspective everything went black when i tried to talk about it, which has never happened to any of us as far as we're aware.

Our memory barriers to that memory strengthened as well for a while afterwards. Im still not entirely sure it actually happened.

We have a theory that there's some sort of fragment or piece whose role/job it is to hide that memory, since we only regained that memory after having an influx of old headmates come in. I personally think it's a specific headmate doing it, but they say its not them.

Tbh we mostly just want to know if it actually happened or not because having memories we aren't sure are real, especially ones that do actually seem to affect certain parts of our life it they are real, is quite annoying.

How do we try to figure out whose hiding it, and is it even mentally safe too w/o a therapist? I don't want to accidentally strengthen our memory barriers again, because it seems to affect other memories too. If its not safe, i'd rather just not think about it.

We are nondisordered as fair as we're aware as well, if that affects it.

I know the basic stuff, like how to stand and sit in a more masculine way, just wondering if there's any other tips people have about how to act more masc w/o being an asshole, basically.

I couldnt find an exact definition of "friending" or "nonfriending", but im going to assume that it just means an aplatonic that still has friends

What does friendship mean to you?

Asking this because i'm still not entirely sure what to call the other people in my life. I'm aware of terms coined specifically for aplatonic people for this reason, but I'd like to also use a term most people know the meaning of

I'm FtM, going on T soon, i want to retain the ability to use my feminine voice for safety reasons. I just want to know how long I should expect voice training to take?

I found it on the transmasc DIY hrt directory so im relatively trustworthy of it but i would just like to be a bit more sure. It is "safe generic pharmacy", testosign gel.

I'd just like to know peoples experiences with it if that's okay. I think it might help me a bit to know how its like for other autistic folks.

I'm a fully verbal autistic person who experiences verbal shutdowns on occasion.

I'm not fully sure if this is how other people experience them but when I'm experiencing a verbal shutdown I sometimes can still think what i would possibly want to say and/or even use AAC, but i cannot use my voice for whatever reason

It would be interesting to know why/how this happens if its a thing people know about :)

We want to get back into age regression after quite a long break and we’re wondering if anybody has any tips for insys caregivers?

Heres our skillset if its necessary- we can switch voluntarily but it takes time and effort. We can take over individual body parts from co-con for a bit but not very long before we start blending. We struggle a lot with co-fronting. We have really good internal communication

Any time i asked my parents or teachers why everybody hated me i was told it was because i was ”more mature” and “too kind” and everybody was just “jealous” of me.

Is this a common experience for autistic folk?

My first handful of lucid dreams were really vivid, and I naturally had relatively good dream control. Now i find myself fighting to stay lucid, and no matter how many various different dream stabilization techniques I use, it doesn't seem to become properly vivid.