u/11miIe

It has come to our attention that there has been an influx of men lurking on and participating in this sub. This sub was created as a safe space for women ONLY, by women. As per the rules, only women are allowed to participate. This is not the only women's-only sub on this platform.

This is not meant to be discriminatory. The purpose of this rule is to foster a safe environment for women to be able to share their experiences and feelings relating to being unattractive and to be able to discuss such topics with other women who face the same struggles without facing invalidation, gender wars, or any other kind of negative consequences.

There is a multitude of other subs across Reddit that men can go to for any reason they wish without having to infiltrate this one.

Any men who are caught here will be faced with a warning and have their content removed. Second offenders will be banned. Male users who break other rules will be banned on sight without a warning.

I’m not allowed to actually leave my house because “women don’t get to leave the house”. I’m from the US. I don’t have a car, bank account, any ID whatsoever at my big age nor can I get them. I need a job to be able to afford a car to finally leave my parents house cause otherwise I’ll be married off to some old guy I don’t know and never be allowed to step foot outside my house. It sounds like an exaggeration but it really isn’t. I’m 17 if that helps.

Edit: I have a Paypal connected to a Greenlight card (little kid’s debit card) that I can potentially get paid on.

I cant even walk to the mailbox in front of our house to get my mail because “women arent allowed outside the house”. for context im 17 years old and live in the US. im not allowed to stay in the car by myself, not even in front of our house because apparently thats “unsafe for a woman.” we live in a very safe part of the suburbs.

im treated like a child. I dont have a bank account yet of course and I won’t be able to get a car because “women shouldnt drive”. i dont know what to do. I cant even go out into my back yard or open the front door. They make it seem like they’re so lenient because they let me have a phone (which I wasn’t even going to get until I graduated high school).

the only places I CAN go, im forced to go with them and I have to wear the hijab the entire time, which I hate. I cant even wander off at the grocery store by myself or else theyll start screaming my name in front of everyone asking me where I am.

i’m conflicted because part of me loves them to death and wants to make them happy but the other part of me cannot keep living like this. I don’t want to have to leave them or get them in trouble but I genuinely have the same freedom as a 6 year old, maybe even less.

I can’t even look forward to turning 18 because im not treated like a child for being young, im treated this way simply because im a woman. I’ve had 7 suicide attempts because of this and of course I can’t get therapy or medication. I used to be able to sneak out of school to go on walks. that was my only source of freedom, but yesterday my dad found out ive been doing that and now I can’t even do that.

I see kids playing outside and it breaks my heart because literal 8 year olds have more freedom than me. I look out the window and feel like crying because I’ll never be allowed outside. I’ll be married off to some old guy from Saudi who dictates everything I do and that’s it. My mom has been trying to get me married since I was 14.

I can’t get a job because 1. I don’t have the identification required to make a bank account and 2. I can’t leave my house. I don’t know anyone who could possibly help me.

What do I do? Does this count as abuse?