u/13needlez

I finally feel comfortable in my transition to start re-dabbling in feminine expression, but 2+ years of T have made my shoulders and traps beef the hell up. I find even after sizing up, a lot of feminine tops just feel weird on my frame. They get pulled especially tight around my chest (I'm post top surgery so there's nothing there to pull them even tighter thankfully) and a lot of the times I feel awkward wearing them.

Does anyone have any favourite styles/cuts/places to acquire ones that fit well/have the size options for me to size up even further? I'm at a point in my transition where I pass and so get stared at by older people in public the odd times I wear long skirts, so cutesy tops that are ill-fitting (on top of being overtly feminine) feel like they'll draw even more attention to me.

ETA: forgot an important detail - I'm more alternative style-wise, if that helps for recommendations!

Mood 1: I love taking HRT 🥰♥️ biochemical euphoria is incredible ♥️ the way my body has changed has made my life drastically better 🥰💎 shot days are my favourite days ♥️

Mood 2: the fact I have to take weekly shots to look how I've always supposed to look makes me want to [REMOVED BY REDDIT] why can't I have been born with a dick this life is pain and misery I will never be fully seen as a guy by my cis peers unless I'm fully stealth WHY do I have to do this bs

I'm posting for advice on behalf of my best friend/brother (soul brother not blood brother) who I will refer to here as Eddie. His mother will be referred to as Laura.

Eddie (28M) went no contact with Laura (50sF) a bit under two years ago when he started transitioning (both of us are trans men) after a childhood of emotional and psychological abuse. Laura fits the bill for what people would consider a narcissistic abuser. She is incredibly manipulative and generally unstable and has been for a very long time.

When Eddie went no contact, Laura blamed it on him transitioning. While he has been ignoring any of her attempts to reach out, she continues to send him texts (often attempting to guilt trip him), weird voice memos and photos, often times in the wee hours of the morning. She continues to post about him and his sibling (also my friend and also NC with Laura for the same reasons as Eddie) on social media where she has spun this narrative about him ruining the family. She's routinely villainized him in the past and painted him as the aggressor in every situation since childhood when she's been the one in the wrong (classic DARVO, one of her favourite tactics).

She also badmouths him to those around her to paint herself as the victim and turn people against him. She's never, ever been able to accept any wrongdoing on her part. The notion of her having caused him going no contact is apparently unfathomable.

In addition to all of this, Laura keeps making new socmed accounts to stalk his, including burners ("burner" being debatable she does an absolutely terrible job of disguising them).

Understandably/obviously, Eddie is very angry and very hurt and everything is still very raw. He's doing his best every day to heal, but the fact she's still dragging his name through the mud is intolerable for obvious reasons.

He wants to put everything about her abuse to him out there to set the record straight, and while I wholeheartedly agree that her lying about it this intensely is indisputably wrong, I do not have experience in this kind of situation.

If anyone has any advice or wisdom to offer I can pass along to him, it would be greatly appreciated. I apologize if any of this is worded poorly, I'm typing this up at work and my brain is also pretty fried.

I'm 2 years on T (or will be in 4 days) and this morning I noticed a little bit of hair thinning in the corners of my forehead. It was nothing crazy, and just looked like my hairline masculinizing itself, but I'm just trying to cover my bases for obvious reasons.

Genetically speaking, every man on my dad's side has had a full head of hair until they died (or are still alive in their late 50s-60s with full heads of hair). I have a much smaller sample size on my mom's side (her dad died when she was 8/when he was 45 and 1/2 of my uncles is estranged but the other one has no balding).

My hair is my favourite feature of mine so if I need to start oral minoxodil I don't want to wait until it's too far gone.

I'll be 2 years on T on the 13th. My beard has come in rapidly, and I'm decently hairy in general, but my moustache is taking its absolute sweet time. I have to dye it to not look Amish paired with my beard. It's definitely there but comparatively pretty thin.

I tried topical minoxodil for almost a year and it did nothing (turns out around 1/3 of users have little to no results...) and I have a cat now, so even if I wanted to give it another shot I wouldn't, for her safety. I have a ton of dysphoria about it because I keep seeing dudes with proportional moustaches (relative to the rest of their facial hair) everywhere I go and I just want that to be the same for me.

If anyone has any tips or tricks for non-minoxodil solutions I'd absolutely love to hear them.

My girlfriend and I brought home our first cat today. She's only a year old, a previously feral rescue, and is EXTREMELY skittish. It took her a good couple months to warm up to her foster, so we were expecting her to be extremely anxious in her new home. It also took the foster two days to get her into the crate for us to take her home.

Going off of her foster's recommendation, we're keeping her alone in the kitchen for the next day or two (it's one of the only two truly enclosable rooms in our house, the second being a tiny downstairs bathroom. We also have enough leftovers to make it so we don't have to cook for that period). We have her toys, food, water, scratching post and litterbox in there, and since we let her out of the crate about 4 hours ago, she's been camping out directly in front of the litterbox, which has remained unused.

I have a tendency to be neurotic about others' well-being (think "something is HORRIBLY wrong, and if you don't fix it they will DIE VERY SOON WITHOUT WARNING" type anxiety) and I'm wondering if there's something we should be doing differently here/why she's choosing that specific spot.

Thanks!

I've searched this sub for info but only set up pics showed up unfortunately. I'm not trying to go too big at all (10g, currently at 16g), but it's obviously a bit of a dicey spot for the classic "dead stretch with glass plugs" approach.

Would it be alright to dead stretch with just regular jewelry?

Thanks 🫡

I've been picking my nails as far back as I can remember. I've tried to quit before to no avail, but this time, I'm serious about it. I'm tired of bleeding fingers, sore nail beds and my hands looking like I shoved them into a blender.

This is partly to hold me accountable, but also to (hopefully) inspire/help others struggling with something similar

EDIT TO ADD: there seems to be some confusion. I have never bitten my nails, I pick/picked at them and the surrounding skin with my free hand.