u/7askingforafriend — reddlx

Hi,

I’m new to the community, but have been NC for a year with my mom. My sibling is also NC.

My mom has lied, stole and used us our entire lives. I will spare all the details, but anytime someone hears the stories they tell us it sounds like a movie. She’s just that bad and evil of a person. She’s also a diagnosed narcissist and enjoys hurting others for her own gain. It’s been enough that we’ve had to cut her out of our lives for our safety and protection of our children.

I haven’t asked anything from my
mom in years, but my child and I are applying for dual citizenship and I need a copy of my moms birth certificate. In the state my mom was born, you can only request a copy of it if you are listed on the document (her, her parents). Both of her parents are deceased, but sadly would’ve helped me with this. They also had cut off most contact with my mom before their own deaths.

I reached out to my mom via text explaining the situation and how it only takes a few minutes online and I would pay the fee for the document. I explained how it was necessary and the details for myself and my child. She has receipts on and I can see she read the text. Didn’t respond so I sent one more the next day. Again, read and did not reply. It’s been days, so I am now left with the sad fact that my mom won’t be helping us.

It’s so heartbreaking that this woman who made my childhood miserable and unsafe, is able to still hold me hostage.
Now that I need her, I believe she’s enjoying it but it’s so cruel to ghost me after saying those things. Is there any way to obtain a copy without her? Have any of you ever tried to reconcile (for a short period) for documents? Did it work? I am really struggling with this but it’s important and can’t be don’t without her.

TLDR: Have any of you had to get documents from a NC parent? Is there a way around this legally to obtain the document?