My gf and I had an argument today
I’m in a relationship with someone whose emotional style is very different from mine, and I genuinely can’t tell if I’m asking for too much or if we just have different emotional needs. I’m someone who values reassurance a lot. Small things matter to me, initiating calls/texts, checking in after conflict, remembering things. I tend to feel emotionally connected through effort and initiative.
My partner is much more detached when it comes to phone.calls. They’ve told me multiple times that when they go home, they barely check their phone or contact people much in general. And to be fair, they have called me before, spent time with me, stayed on late calls, said they miss me, etc. So it’s not like they never put effort in.
But recently we went around 10 days without properly talking. They texted a couple times, I replied coldly because I was already hurt, and at one point they said they’d start calling more frequently after going home. But they still never actually called. That really hurt me.
Before going ldr, they said you can text me anytime that u want to call but it'll be difficult for me to call. But, my view is that if someone really wants to talk to u they would at least in three days no matter how strict their parents are. If i was there I'd find a way. But then saying they don't pick up their phone at home...idk. For me, if my partner goes days without talking me i start to think they don't even remember me
(I took help of ai as I didn't have the energy to write)