u/AdMotor1185

Recently I've noticed this problem in my relationship that when it gets late or I'm tired or had a long day I get upset by little things my partner does. Which is unfair to him. I noticed that 90% of the time we have a conversation about what upset me I don't even remember it the next day. So I feel like it's better to take a second to realize why I'm upset and cool down rather than talk about it when it isn't an actual problem. Usually I'm just tired or stressed and not actually mad. To him it still looks like I am upset and he wants to know why. It's also very unlikely for me to want space. I feel like this is better than just communicating things that I don't really care about the next day but me pulling away to calm down even for a little bit seems to put him on edge. He wants to resolve the problem but there isn't a problem and I feel bad talking about things he didn't actually do wrong. What should i do?

I am an upcoming sophomore and am a music performance major wanting to go into doubling full-time after graduation. I have the ensemble audition coming up in about two weeks, and it is stressing me out. I know that no matter what, I'm still in the program, but I worry about letting my directors down. Last year, we were given three pieces in each category and told to choose one from each. Now we have to play all of them, no choosing the easier ones. This music is incredibly difficult, and I am struggling, and this knowledge makes me incredibly nervous. I'm worried about looking like a failure. I know that auditions don't need to be perfect, but it feels implied that they want them to be. I'm freaking out, and it's affecting my practice time and mental health severely. How can I ease the anxiety? Not just with what everyone tells me to do and say "just practice more." Since that just makes me feel worse and worse.

I hate my name. Not because I don't like it but because I share a name with her. Who is her? My boyfriends ex with the same name. Who was my friend and now a stalker. Telling me I'm just a wish version of her, that I'm just the next best thing and I'll never compare to her. That he'd go back to her in a heartbeat. And that I'll never be good enough.

I can't hear him say my name without wondering if its hers instead. Or if he wishes he meant her name. It's tearing me apart. She stole so much from me and my identity and name got caught in the cross fire and now I don't feel like me anymore. I hate my name and what is tied to it.

I had two Switches, a Switch Lite, and my main Switch. Several of my favorite games' digital cards are still on the other Switch, which my ex stole. Is there a way to get my games back? I don't have a way to get the console back and don't really want it back. I just want my games.

NOTE this is going to be long I'm sorry! Context is very important here so feel free to skip and if it gets taken down thats on me! I feel like I did everything that I could to make this better but I'm aware that I definitely could be in the wrong. Me and this guy talked for about a month before we realized he dated one of my current friends several years ago. I decided that I did not want to continue with it unless she was comfortable with it so I approached her about it and asked. She started telling me a lot of stuff that did not seem accurate saying that he got her addicted to ketamine and was an abuser. She also claims she hadn't had contact with him for years but he had text conversation showing her trying to get back with him when she still had a boyfriend. My gut told me there was more to the story. She told me to block him immediately which I did. But my gut was not resting telling me that something was wrong so I made a therapy appointment for the following week to get advice from my therapist about what to do in this situation. My therapist advised me that I had a right to make my own opinion about him but the best thing to do would be to tell our mutual friend and the friend who dated him that I'm still going to be in contact with him. She ended up blowing up on me and calling me a bunch of different names before calming down slightly and admitting some stuff. She admitted that she still had feelings for him and lied to keep me away from him so that eventually when she moved out he'd still be waiting for her. She also admitted that she got the kidding me herself and blamed him so that her current boyfriend wouldn't be mad at her. Keep in mind they dated at 16 and we are 19. We were fine for about 2 days when all of a sudden she said that she couldn't stay friends with me and that what I did was really shitty and that both of my friends were going to block me. She has since messaged me on my alt account asking how I'm doing and then going off on me and I finally made the decision to block her. I feel awful about it and know dating your friends ex is a no go. But I wouldn't have even thought about it if she didn't lie to me in the first place. Or if she wasn't cheating on her boyfriend. So AITB?

I've used flow for years but it only has a simple reminder to switch out the ring once a month which I don't do. I have mine in for 3 weeks and then put a new one in a week later. While occasionally leaving it in for 4 weeks to skip my period. Which app allows me to do that?

Hi! I (19F) have been talking to a guy for a while (20M.) And everything has been going great besides for one thing, my overthinking. I asked for reassurance fairly often about wondering if he still likes me or is talking to somebody else. It caused an argument last night of him saying that I asked too much and that my overthinking is something that I do to myself. Is that their thoughts that I have created myself and allowing myself to overthink. Problem is I don't know how to stop it's not as easy for me to do what he says and just not care what happens for the future and go along with it. I also have a constant feeling of anxiety when things go wrong. He told me last night that he doesn't want to be with someone that can't just live their own life without being all over him but I don't really know how to stop thinking about him constantly. What do I do to salvage this relationship? I told him I would stop asking and he said that that doesn't work because I'd still be thinking it but how do I prove to him I'm not thinking it anymore when I know i probably will be if not more than before.