u/Admirable-Range-3422

I have a lot of trouble asking for things if I think it’s going to inconvenience someone else or make things awkward or tense.

For example, I went to the dentist today to get a front tooth fixed that got chipped when I was younger, but the filling fell out. While working on the tooth, the dentist kept making small adjustments (she said her thoughts out loud as she went) and taking awhile, so I thought she was a perfectionist and it was going to look great. I wasn’t expecting when I looked it the mirror for it to look as bad as it did. The tooth was way too long and wide. It looked like a bit of a buck tooth. I had to ask her to make some adjustments and I ended up having to ask her twice because it still didn’t look right after the first time. I could tell she did not want to and seemed embarrassed, but I paid $600 (no insurance) for this one tooth and it’s a front tooth so it’s very visible. Felt so bad because she was so nice.

Earlier, at the front desk, I asked for a small cosmetic procedure on another tooth to be taken off that I didn’t yet agree to on the bill, and she said she would take it off. I paid using a payment plan and I guess it went through before she could adjust the total. She said “I can call them and ask to change it, or do you just want to get the procedure.” She was a nice lady and I don’t think she was trying to pressure anything, just hoping I would want to so she wouldn’t have to do an extra task, but I was sure I didn’t want to get the procedure.

I feel so awkward in these situations so I apologize a lot. I don’t want to appear arrogant. Does anyone else experience that. Is there a better way to respond?

How can you develop more compassion for unconscious people that are much older than you and not treating you well? When I say unconscious I mean more unconscious than me. I’m not always conscious.

In adulthood, unfortunately I still live at home due to chronic illness, but I refused the role. I no longer regulate them and the ugliness that they’ve shown when their mask is down is like something from a horror film. The empty dead fish eyes.. nobody is home in there. They have no control over themselves and their actions, and are completely taken over by the animal part of their brain. They’re like one entity that works together to maintain their ego, with no separate identities. It’s so awful and bone-chilling. They try to get you back into the role by scaring you and showing you how dysregulated they are. This is a very deep level of mental illness that has likely existed in the family for generations. I truly feel for everyone who experiences the same…

I keep seeing boys disturbing and chasing geese. Just yesterday, I saw one driving through them and chasing them with an electric scooter. Someone could’ve gotten injured and my wildlife rescue doesn’t take geese. I’ve seen multiple geese with leg injuries or missing legs. Also, I get a heart attack when they try to cross the street. People stop, but get impatient and try to drive around them and almost run over them. Lastly, I see people feeding geese bread half the time I’m there, even though you’re not supposed to feed them at all.

I go to the park to relax and enjoy nature, but lately I just feel stressed when I’m there. Is there anything I can do?