u/Agreeable_Arm_4680

hey everyone, i feel like i need to just get this out. i’m 18m and an INFJ-T (obviously, since i’m here). lately i feel so stuck, like time has just stopped for me while the rest of the world is moving in fast forward. i’m always observing things, especially when i’m not the one doing the driving. i just watch people and their emotions, the way the world moves around me.

i love sitting in parks or quiet places, looking at small patterns. i try to look at the night sky at least once a day. yesterday i saw the moon as a crescent with a star aligned perpendicular to it, it was beautiful. i used to love sketching and reading so much, but between academics and the stress of my future career, i don’t have time for it anymore. i feel a bit hollow sometimes.

the tough part is i’ve never really experienced love. not parental love, my parents treat me like an investment i need to pay back. and i haven’t had real platonic friends or a relationship either. it’s not that i’m lonely in the sense of being alone, but that worst kind of loneliness where you’re around people but they aren’t really *there* emotionally. my “friends” are just acquaintances, surface level stuff. they seem to remember me only when they need something.

i did meet a couple of people i thought were friends. one was really gentle, i tried to encourage him to talk more but he said he didn’t feel safe. i tried to care for him but didn’t get it back, which hurt. another person i really vibed with, our interests matched perfectly, but we got separated by work and life and now we rarely talk. it’s sad.

i’m shy and introverted, kind of timid. i was the quiet one who was often ignored because i was too emotional and caring. at one point i tried to act extroverted to fit in but it was so draining. i know my interests are gentle, which doesn’t always match how people see men.

i’ve seen guys on reddit reaching out for genuine friendship and getting flagged or ghosted, which is understandable but it adds to the feeling. in my teens i was obsessed with getting financially independent, and i stuck to that. but recently i’ve realized how disposable i feel. sometimes i wonder if i disappeared would anyone even notice? i’ve had thoughts about giving up, but a part of me still wants to live, hoping the future gets better, hoping someone actually cares.

i haven’t been in a relationship not because i can’t, but i choose not to. i have this intuition about people that i just can't ignore. most people seem to want transactional relationships based on looks or money. i want a quiet relationship where love and care are the main things. i know that sounds like a dream right now, especially with the swipe culture and situationships everywhere.

i feel left out. i just want to care for someone who cares back. i’ve tried being the listener, the therapist, but people just use me and leave. i know i have high standards, maybe too high. i’m scared of ending up in a toxic relationship that shatters me, but i also wonder if i’ll ever find my soulmate, someone who accepts me as i am.

I feel like how to find the purpose of my life,I read in this community, someone said that most of us INFJs are loners due to our deep thinking and other such traits.

What's your take on this

Thanks to all the beautiful people who are reading this post,i know it got a little long,i really appreciate you spending your precious time reading this post,can someone please give me a little advice how to figure out these things,how you got through it,any story of yours you can share if you're comfortable.

And I am geniunely sorry from the deep of the heart that if this post hurt anyone or offending,I am geniunely sorry.

Just curious about INFPs opinion on INFJs

Looking for geniune loyal connection

Looking for a loyal connection,Read the full post

Looking for a deep committed connection,

Btw why am I repeating,I guess i fumbled badly

Please read the full post first

Hello, Dear 🤗 I am an introvert oh that's obvious, 😭 I usually don't get along people much but sometimes with a few people i get indulged quite fast, warning I can get clingy sometimes because if I get clingy to only those people whom i genuinely care about , I am quite a caring person,so much people call me weird for over caring,I also kind of want a same person who over cares and pampers and is clingy,i would love that

About me

18m

Kinda anxious , sometimes may look confident, sometimes a deep thinker, sometimes may be passing on light hearted jokes,I am kind of a timid and clumsy which made me regret my persona sometimes but it's my true self

Anyone lying in the same persona is more than welcome to message me but please only the real ones who are looking for a long term committed connection,that evolves to in person meet if our connection flourished

Physical traits i am not listing and also won't be asking from you as I am not here to judge anyone just for looking meaningful connections ,that doesn't remain limited to online but also in person meet when our connection flourishes

Preferable people around my age,girls can dm me,and i am not a creep and hate the creep people,I am just here looking for a meaningful connection

Being a rational person sometimes make me feel quite sometimes very depressed like I try to cry on myself,oh where I am going,i have to change this habit of mine of getting offtopic

In friendship also I am not successful i have one sided friendship i would say that can be expressed as i invest 10 units of energy of them ,they revert only 3 ,making me feel isolated,about romantic relationships,you can clearly see what's my condition in friendship what you expect in relationship ,I am just scared that a person who thinks little bit like exists?

But I am very caring but i definitely can't prove it just by saying

Please only those people dm me who want loyal long term committed connection,of we click,if you don't want to talk atleast tell you don't want to talk ,don't just ghost, ghosting hurts more than anything else,

Also I will also be not ghosting,yeah sometimes I might get inconsistent but won't ghost and expect the same from your side if you want to dm me

And if any time of scam or bot accounts will come ,they will be instantly blocked

Please any person resonating with the same can dm me .One thing i won't be talking about anything bad or dirty and expect the same from you

And btw thanks to listening to my message,Best wishes to all who reading this post, if comfortable wish me luck 🤞,I am in need of it please

Sometimes when you feel lonely and suddenly someone talks to you feel like opening your heart to them and end up being even more hurted ,how to deal with this identifying the right person ?

Hello, Dear 🤗 I am an introvert oh that's obvious, 😭 I usually don't get along people much but sometimes with a few people i get indulged quite fast, warning I can get clingy sometimes because if I get clingy to only those people whom i genuinely care about

About me

18m

Kinda anxious , sometimes may look confident, sometimes a deep thinker, sometimes may be passing on light hearted jokes,I am kind of a timid and clumsy which made me regret my persona sometimes but it's my true self

Anyone lying in the same persona is more than welcome to message me but please only the real ones come who are looking for a long term committed friendship,that evolves to in person meet if our friendship flourished

Preferable people around my age,both boys and girls can dm me

Being a rational person sometimes make me feel quite sometimes very depressed like I try to cry on myself,oh where I am going,i have to change this habit of mine of getting offtopic

In friendship also I am not successful i have one sided friendship i would say that can be expressed as i invest 10 units of energy of them ,they revert only 3 ,making me feel isolated,about romantic relationships,you can clearly see what's my condition in friendship what you expect in relationship

And btw thanks to listening to my chitter chattering,Best wishes to all who reading this post, if comfortable wish me luck 🤞,I am in need of it please

Hello, Dear 🤗 I am an introvert oh that's obvious, 😭 I usually don't get along people much but sometimes with a few people i get indulged quite fast, warning I can get clingy sometimes because if I get clingy to only those people whom i genuinely care about

About me

18m

Kinda anxious , sometimes may look confident, sometimes a deep thinker, sometimes may be passing on light hearted jokes,I am kind of a timid and clumsy which made me regret my persona sometimes but it's my true self

Anyone lying in the same persona is more than welcome to message me but please only the real ones come who are looking for a long term committed friendship,that evolves to in person meet if our friendship flourished

Preferable people around my age,both boys and girls can dm me

Being a rational person sometimes make me feel quite sometimes very depressed like I try to cry on myself,oh where I am going,i have to change this habit of mine of getting offtopic

In friendship also I am not successful i have one sided friendship i would say that can be expressed as i invest 10 units of energy of them ,they revert only 3 ,making me feel isolated,about romantic relationships,you can clearly see what's my condition in friendship what you expect in relationship

And btw thanks to listening to my message,Best wishes to all who reading this post, if comfortable wish me luck 🤞,I am in need of it please

HELP FELLOW INFJs

HELP INFJs

Hello dear fellow INFJs, about

Myself- I am 18m

From the starting of my life I felt like something is different for me ,I don't get along with people much ,even my own parents too,they used to criticise me for the person I am ,they called me coward that I am not indulging with people in the society,just living myself alone ,they hated me for this thing and kinda I at some point of life hated myself too and that was the worst thing i did was hating myself .I realised the people around me don't have deep relationships and friendships either,they still feel happy,get along and mix in well with each other.

I was called out by society that I am like one defective person,there is something wrong with me .In desperation and societal pressure tried to develop extrovert skills to mix in people,but it made me feel immense pain .I spent most of my time crying and thinking isn't there a person who thinks like me and aren't there relationships which focus on dee emotional understanding and care I wish there was a person whom I can cry in front ,rely on ,be vulnerable in front of,be my realest self.I feel considerate about people even strangers in pain put tears in my eyes, although i hide that but isn't there a person for me , thinking deeply about anything.

On this search,I recently discovered that there are 16 personality types of MBTI and I was scared to take the test at start , hesitated but took the test and got to conclusion than I am an INFJ-T the rarest personality type and even rarer among men , I would say then I realised that's why most people feel like I was an outcast

Please guide me fellow INFJs, what i need to do cope up ?How to cope with this

People who feel the same and kind of have the same feelings what you think.

Binary options i sometimes think is another name of gambling like you are predicting that some thing will go up/down under a certain time,which feels like gambling,but also the same can't be said of let's say I make a trade on GBPUSD just a example not recommending anything here we make profit by exercising a contract,and in binary options we are predicting whether it will go up or down, what's your take on this ,is binary options in itself like gambling or it's just the way people do it ,revenge trade ,not following proper setup taking trade of a few minutes, spamming orders?

Just wanted to see what the community thinks ?

Hello, Dear 🤗 I am an introvert oh that's obvious, 😭 I usually don't get along people much but sometimes with a few people i get indulged quite fast, warning I can get clingy sometimes because if I get clingy to only those people whom i genuinely care about

About me

18m

Kinda anxious , sometimes may look confident, sometimes a deep thinker, sometimes may be passing on light hearted jokes,I am kind of a timid and clumsy which made me regret my persona sometimes but it's my true self

Anyone lying in the same persona is more than welcome to message me but please only the real ones come who are looking for a long term committed friendship,that evolves to in person meet if our friendship flourished

Preferable people around my age,both boys and girls can dm me

Being a rational person sometimes make me feel quite sometimes very depressed like I try to cry on myself,oh where I am going,i have to change this habit of mine of getting offtopic

In friendship also I am not successful i have one sided friendship i would say that can be expressed as i invest 10 units of energy of them ,they revert only 3 ,making me feel isolated,about romantic relationships,you can clearly see what's my condition in friendship what you expect in relationship

And btw thanks to listening to my chitter chattering,Best wishes to all who reading this post, if comfortable wish me luck 🤞,I am in need of it please

Hello, Dear 🤗 I am an introvert oh that's obvious, 😭 I usually don't get along people much but sometimes with a few people i get indulged quite fast, warning I can get clingy sometimes because if I get clingy to only those people whom i genuinely care about

About me

18m

Kinda anxious , sometimes may look confident, sometimes a deep thinker, sometimes may be passing on light hearted jokes,I am kind of a timid and clumsy which made me regret my persona sometimes but it's my true self

Anyone lying in the same persona is more than welcome to message me but please only the real ones come who are looking for a long term committed friendship,that evolves to in person meet if our friendship flourished

Preferable people around my age,both boys and girls can dm me

Being a rational person sometimes make me feel quite sometimes very depressed like I try to cry on myself,oh where I am going,i have to change this habit of mine of getting offtopic

In friendship also I am not successful i have one sided friendship i would say that can be expressed as i invest 10 units of energy of them ,they revert only 3 ,making me feel isolated,about romantic relationships,you can clearly see what's my condition in friendship what you expect in relationship

And btw thanks to listening to my chitter chattering,Best wishes to all who reading this post, if comfortable wish me luck 🤞,I am in need of it please

Hi i am 18m an introvert.I am kind of timid and and get clumpsy sometimes.I am looking for a friend anyone who wants whether girl or boy can massage me ,around the same age preferable ,I am a deep thinker and highly sensitive person i guess,relax not too much , looking for someone who is committed towards friendship if our vibe matches together and we become comfortable with each other

My interests

Love to overthink for the good things

Many times I get zoned out in sone places, I told you na I get clumpsy sometimes

He it's me just a newborn trader but thankful that internet showed me both the good and bad sides of trading to make me humbled, I heard one person that someone got the taste of they never forget, but yeah so where should I start, in equipment only a phone not even a laptop 😅

Hi i am 18m an introvert.I am kind of timid and and get clumpsy sometimes.I am looking for a friend anyone who wants whether girl or boy can massage me ,around the same age preferable ,I am a deep thinker and highly sensitive person i guess,relax not too much , looking for someone who is committed towards friendship if our vibe matches together and we become comfortable with each other