u/AmSmolQueer

So to preface this, my social circle is incredibly small: only 1 friend of mine and my gf plus my gf's family and social circle when I'm invited to stuff that includes them.
My girlfriend, my girlfriend's family, and all, except 1 other person, in my girlfriend's social circle are all white, and I'm a latina. On top of that, I've spent my whole life in poverty and my girlfriend's family is well off. A realization I had recently is that with my girlfriend and her family and social circle, literally no matter, I always will be and always will feel like an outsider, I'll always stand out, it'll always be me stepping into their world as a guest whose not on equal footing due to the class and race differences of them being in the privileged group and me being in the unprivileged group. It'll always be me stepping into their world as an outsider and never the opposite of them stepping into my world and them being in my world as invited guests who are still outsiders. I'll always be a part of the out group and they'll always be a part of the in group when I'm around them, no matter what. Has anyone else ever experienced or felt this? How can I deal with it?

Long story short: I'm a latina transbian in a very majority white area in the US and I just want to find more queer and trans friendly communities with other BIPOC, because I want to be in spaces where I don't feel like I constantly stand out and am an outsider. I just want to be around other people who are like me and can understand what struggles I deal with due to my race.

Hello everyone,
I'm a recent split for my system, I split off this week. I've not been fronting a lot, however an issue I've run into while fronting is lack of stuff I'm interested in doing which is causing great boredom and makes passing the time hard. I want to find stuff I enjoy and that is mentally stimulating to fill time, but I'm unsure how to go about that. How do I find hobbies?
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I was limerent for my girlfriend for the majority of our relationship, like ever since the relationship started. I really tried not to obsess over her but I just couldn't help it. Well it happened anyway, and for a long time I kept it secret then one day, I told her I was obsessed with her and she accepted and the relationship continued without issue.
Anyway recently, my girlfriend told me that she was uncomfortable being obsessed over and that it made her feel unsafe. Hearing that must've changed something in me, must've flipped the off switch. Cause ever since hearing that, I've been steadily coming out of my limerent obsessive feelings towards her, I still love her but not to the point of obsession anymore. It feels weird, it feels like coming out of a haze, like something that was clouding my judgement, clouding my mind and sanity is starting to clear up. And I'm unsure how to be feeling. Relieved? Glad? I'm not sure, all I know is I'm no longer limerent towards her and I'm feeling like for once, I can actually focus on myself and what I want for me as opposed to my sole focusing being her and what she wants or what I think she wants or needs. Cause before, I thought about everything from the lens of what she wants or I think she wants, not from the lens of what I want and what I am comfortable with. It just feels weird being able to focus on myself for myself for once, as opposed to focusing on myself for someone else. Coming out of the fog that is limerence is weird.

Hey y'all, long story short is I have a tendency to get obsessed with people in a romantic sense. It started in middle school, I'm currently in my mid 20s. I'm currently obsessed with my girlfriend and she knows about it and she recently confided in me that she's uncomfortable being obsessed with and that this part of me scares me. I've never hurt her or anyone I've been obsessed with in the past, I've been actively trying to make sure my obsessiveness doesn't affect my behavior towards my girlfriend. Since that conversation, I've been wanting to recover and stop being obsessed, but I don't know how to stop. I have autism, DID, and BPD, the autism and BPD probably are doing the heavy lifting in me getting obsessed with people, along with my trauma history. I've worked on this with a therapist in the past, and she thought it was due to my childhood trauma and neglect leading to an anxious-avoidant attachment style. I'm currently in therapy with a different therapist, but I haven't brought this up with her. So my question is how do i get better? How do i recover from being obsessive?

Has anyone here recovered from being obsessive? Is it something that's even possible? Would it be possible for me to go from loving in the utmost extreme to loving in a normal capacity?

Obsession towards your romantic partner comes with extreme highs, but that means it also comes with extreme lows. I'm currently in one of those extreme lows. We had the chance to see each other today, but she didn't want to see me. It took everything in me for me to not go to her anyway, I knew I shouldn't so I didn't because her happiness and comfort is important to me so I didn't. But when she said she didn't want to see me today, I got extremely upset and started to have a full on panic attack, worrying I'd done something wrong even though I know I hadn't and she just needs alone time. I didn't get upset with her, I got upset with myself. I've been feeling awful all day over this, it feels like the worst rejection possible and feels like I've failed somehow as a partner and upset her, I know that's not the case but that's how it feels. And I don't know how or if I should express any of this to her, I'm scared it would scare her away if she saw this side of me. She knows I'm obsessed with her, but I don't know if she truly comprehends what that truly means. Especially cause when people think of obsession, they typically don't think of the extreme lows that it comes with, they only think of the extreme highs it comes with, they never think of the emotional state of the obsessed person and what they may be going through or what may be going through their mind.

It was only for 2 hours but it was still the highlight of my last 2 weeks, it had been around 2 weeks since we last saw each other. I'm still ecstatic over it, seeing her always drastically ups my mood. Seeing her, talking with her, interacting with her, it all always ups my mood. It helps remind me why I carry on, why I persist, why I keep trying despite life's challenges. She's my everything, I love her so incredibly much. Words alone aren't enough to express how much I love her. I'm so incredibly happy she's in my life and that she chooses to be a part of my life. She's the best part of my life, the most important person in my life, she's my most favorite person in the whole world.

Just curious if anyone else in this community is also disabled.

I'm personally ND (autism, DID, BPD) and mobility impaired (I use crutches to get around and have iffy hand function). My autism and BPD both definitely go hand in hand to cause my tendency to be obsessive.

I personally have several mementos of specific dates/important/notable events with my girlfriend, and I keep them in my wallet, with me perpetually. And I'm probably going to continue doing this, every time some new notable thing happens with her that I can keep a physical reminder of, I am going to keep a physical reminder of it.

Today, after 6 months of not being able to see her due to schooling, I finally got to see and spend time with my girlfriend (hopefully wife one day) today. It was amazing, I was so excited and giddy, I could barely contain my happiness. I love her so much, I feel so incredibly lucky to have her. It was probably written all over my face how excited I was to see her, but I doubt she was surprised by it cause after all it had been 6 months since we last got to see each other irl and she knows about and accepts my obsessiveness. I genuinely can't wait for when I get to see her next.

Anyone else here use writing as an outlet for your obsessive thoughts/desires/tendencies?
I've done it before in the form of fiction and I've found that it's helped a lot for me. It doesn't get rid of my obsessiveness but I do find fiction writing to be a good outlet and helps me keep my obsessiveness in check to ensure it doesn't affect my behavior around/towards my girlfriend too much

Hey y’all, posting here cause I can’t post on r/disability due to not having enough karma in that subreddit. So the issue I’m having is that I’m a writer, I do all of my writing on my iphone because I don‘t have a computer atm, I prefer using a physical keyboard and have A bluetooth keyboard. However, typing has been steadily getting more and more painful for me, so I need to find an alternative to my standard Bluetooth keyboard. Whenever I type on phone without using my keyboard, i use swipe typing because touch screen keyboards are painful for me aswell. However, voice to text isn’t a viable option for me because I’m speech impaired. So do y’all know what, if any, alternatives to typing on a regular keyboard might work for me?

Hey y’all, I have Fibromyalgia, which causes chronic pain that affects my whole body Including my hands. Over time, typing has been getting more and more painful for me, regardless of if I’m using a touch screen keyboard or a physical keyboard. I prefer typing on a physical keyboard, but whenever I type on my phone without using a physical keyboard, I use swipe typing. This has been rather problematic for me as writing is a hobby of mine, and writing using pen and paper is too painful for me to do as well. I’m well aware voice to text typing is an option however that doesn’t work well with me, regardless of what device I use, because I’m speech impaired. I don‘t have a desktop or laptop atm so I do all of my writing on my iphone. So are there any alternative options for typing that aren’t voice to text?