u/Aromatic_Pick_5429

Idk how to get this shitty feeling off my chest, I just feel like I’m tired of my body, I’ve been on a weight lost joinery since last May 30 and no where where I want to be, I have lost 35-40 pounds (fluctuates) but it’s been almost a year and I should have lost more, I still have about 30 pounds to go and it’s so frustrating, but I just feel like everything this tied to looks and money. I hate having a chubby baby face so much, every time always thinks I’m innocent and you get then my age, I could do the most disgusting thing and people would still not take me seriously it’s a blessing and a curse

I know this probably sounds irrational, but I’ve been extremely anxious lately and wanted to see if anyone has experienced something similar. Last summer, on July 24th, 2025, I went to the ER because I had severe abdominal pain and was diagnosed with a complex ovarian cyst. Around two months before that, I had gotten the Copper IUD (Paragard). Since then, my periods have become much more painful and heavy, but I assumed it was just because of the IUD.

Recently, though, things have felt different. Last month I had my period twice, and then again this month. I’ve taken pregnancy tests and they’ve been negative, but I still feel worried because I have sex frequently and my partner finishes inside me regularly. I know the Copper IUD is highly effective, but my anxiety has been spiraling because of some of the symptoms I’ve been having.

During my periods, I get extremely bloated — to the point where I genuinely look pregnant — along with intense cramps, fatigue, and lately severe constipation, which is unusual for me because I normally get diarrhea on my period. I also feel a strange fullness/pressure on the left side of my abdomen where I previously had issues with the ovarian cyst.

I’ve been reading online about things like cryptic pregnancies and ectopic pregnancies, and I’ve seen stories of women saying they still had bleeding or what seemed like periods during pregnancy, which has honestly made my anxiety worse. I know online stories can be misleading, but it’s hard not to overthink everything.

I do have a gynecologist appointment scheduled for July 6th, but I’m wondering if anyone here has experienced similar symptoms with an IUD, ovarian cysts, cryptic pregnancy fears, ectopic pregnancy, or anything else. I’m trying to figure out whether this sounds more like hormonal/reproductive issues or if my anxiety is making me catastrophize.

Last summer on July 24th, 2025, I went to the ER because I was having severe abdominal pain. It was so painful that I was crying on the floor alone in my dorm room. I stayed on campus over the summer and had no roommates there at the time. I remember sitting on the toilet for almost 2 hours hoping the pain would pass, but it didn’t. Eventually I took an Uber to the hospital.

At the ER, they told me I had a complex ovarian cyst. I had gotten the Copper IUD (Paragard) about two months earlier, around May 30th, and I’ve always wondered if that may have contributed to it. They told me that if I experienced more pain in the future, I should come back and get checked again.

It’s now been almost a year since that visit. Since then, my periods have become increasingly painful, but I tried to ignore it because I was warned that Paragard can cause heavier periods and worse cramps. I accepted those side effects because I specifically wanted a non-hormonal birth control option. I liked that I wouldn’t have to remember a pill, that it lasts long-term, and that I would still get regular periods. I considered Nexplanon, but personally the idea of not having periods or having irregular bleeding makes me anxious.

Fast forward to now: last month I had my period twice, and then again this month. Pregnancy tests have been negative. During my periods, I experience extremely intense bloating and cramps for the first 3–4 days. The bloating gets so bad that I genuinely look pregnant. I also feel exhausted and lately I’ve been unusually constipated, which is strange because during my periods I normally have diarrhea. Even with eating more fiber, the constipation hasn’t improved.

Another thing worrying me is that when I press on the left side of my abdomen, it feels like there’s something there or some kind of pressure/fullness. My mom scheduled me an appointment with a gynecologist for July 6th, but I’m honestly wondering if I should try to be seen sooner because the symptoms have been getting worse.

I know nobody here can diagnose me, but I wanted to ask if anyone has experienced something similar with ovarian cysts, Paragard, endometriosis, fibroids, etc. I’m trying not to panic, but I’m worried that the cyst may have grown or turned into something more serious.

I know it sounds weird, but I love when it rains at night. I’m not really a “rain person,” but it’s one of the only things that doesn’t leave me feeling overstimulated. There’s something comforting about knowing that when it’s pouring outside, most people are staying in too, so I don’t feel as alone for wanting to be inside. When it’s hot and sunny, it feels like everyone is out with their friends, and it makes me feel like I should be out doing the same.

I know it sounds weird, but I love when it rains at night. I’m not really a “rain person,” but it’s one of the only things that doesn’t leave me feeling overstimulated. There’s something comforting about knowing that when it’s pouring outside, most people are staying in too, so I don’t feel as alone for wanting to be inside. When it’s hot and sunny, it feels like everyone is out with their friends, and it makes me feel like I should be out doing the same.

21F, I love psychology and I can’t imagine myself being in a job that doesn’t involve that type of work. I am aware that for my type of major I need to go to grad school but it’s looking like I won’t. Credit wise I’m a sophomore and have a 3.1 GPA (and when my professor finish putting in my grades it’s going to go down even more) I plan to take 2 summer classes this summer which could hopefully raise my GPA but technically I’m supposed to be a junior and didn’t do well this semester so my GPA went down a lot. It’s the summer and I’m looking for a job, I only have research experience from an online program I was in during the semester and at my old school but that was pretty much it. I want to go into social work but I’m still figuring things out because I also want a career where I can do deep research and psychoanalysis I also want to analyze criminals and their backgrounds and what type of person they are and work with domestic violence victims ect but I know that a undergrad degree alone won’t do much. I went from psychology to nursing and back to psychology and now I have no idea what I’m doing with my life. I don’t have a car or a job or savings, and haven’t really accomplished much. Worried that most my 20s will be spent in school but not doing well academically due to severe ADHD, clinical depression, and trauma. I fear that if I don’t make a good financial decision at 22-23 that will later affect me being able to find a husband, get married have kids, travel ect. I just don’t have it in me anymore or the energy to try harder, I feel like a part of me died as a teenager all my hobbies, interest and confidence, died due to depression and living with toxic parents, but at the same time I felt the most creative back then, now I don’t feel anything.

I tend to approach life in a very calm, low-pressure way. Whether it’s cleaning my room, submitting assignments, or starting something new, I usually don’t operate from a place of urgency unless I absolutely have to. For example, with bigger school projects, I may wait until closer to the deadline instead of rushing to finish early. If I were to lose a job, I wouldn’t immediately panic and start applying everywhere right away, I’d probably take some time to rest, enjoy being out of school, recharge mentally, and then begin looking for my next opportunity.

When it comes to weight loss, I take a more balanced and realistic approach rather than being extremely strict. I still weigh myself every day to keep track of my progress, but instead of obsessively counting every calorie, I focus on eating fewer but filling meals, allowing myself desserts in moderation, and I usually still see the scale go down steadily.

At work, I’ve noticed I can take a little longer than others to fully adjust or master new tasks, it may take me about a month to feel completely confident, but once I get there, I adapt and keep moving forward. I’ve also realized that I don’t stress over small imperfections the way I used to. If I’m a few minutes late, get a lower grade than I wanted, or miss a day of medication, I don’t spiral over it. I still care and try, but I no longer put extreme mental pressure on myself.

At the same time, I’m resilient in my own way if one job or relationship doesn’t work out, I don’t stay stuck on it for long. I accept it, learn from it, and move forward to whatever comes next.

21F Everyone is talking about summer plans and I have no plans, no job, no car, single and have nothing going for myself except being in school. Most of the people I do know or talk to once in a while are atleast 30-1 hour away, and most have cars to drive. I’m just so over everything. I’m not hopeful for the future either, I only started hooking upwith like 2 other people to help, after breaking up with my boyfriend of 4 years after he cheated, now I’m going to be home for the summer with toxic family members and I’m scared for my future. Once I’m out of college who will I have?? What will I do??

Being lonely is painful enough but being lonely and unemployed is a slap in the face. I’m 21 and I recently got fired the first week of April from my job after getting hired mid February, I wasn’t there for long but they sat me down and told me that they didn’t think the job was right for me. I absolutely loved that job, got along with everyone, and they the staff and customers loved me as a server but because I wasn’t fast enough and missed small details I got fired… and now I’m back to square one but this time everyone that was close to me is out of my life. I transferred schools to be close to atleast the 4 people I thought I would and I lost 3 of them.. it’s like something doesn’t want me being happy.

I don't know why, but it's just so comforting, lying in bed is like someone's giving me a hug that I needed all day. I know my beds are not going to leave me, and it gives me comfort and peace. I don't have to prove anyone anything. I love being in solitude and living by myself, and I've always imagined myself in a couple of years living in a cottage all by myself.