u/Aryore

Say for example, I’m chatting briefly with a work acquaintance and they ask me if I’ve had lunch yet. In this scenario I haven’t had lunch, because I was too busy and forgot, but I don’t want to make a thing out of it, like if they started fussing over me e.g. “you should take care of yourself”. So I just say that I had a burger.

I feel like most people would agree that is a pretty socially acceptable lie with very few consequences. But I would still get kind of stressed out about it and feel bad.

And if I ever have to lie for any reason that’s bigger than that I would get so stressed and down on myself thinking I’m a terrible person, and worrying that the other person would find out and they would hate me.

Hell I even get stressed about telling the truth but worrying that it could be read as a lie, or intending to tell the truth but finding out later I was wrong. I always try to go back to the person and correct myself but if I can’t do that e.g. it was a stranger I bumped into briefly I just feel so bad for misleading them.

Also I’m not a good liar, especially if the lying has to be spontaneous rather than practiced beforehand. The scenarios where I say a white lie e.g. “I had a burger” are already “preset” in my brain so it’s less difficult to pull them out. But if it’s a situation I’ve never encountered before I find it extremely difficult to come up with something on the spot, I would stammer a lot or pause awkwardly trying to think of what to say.

Also I absolutely hate being lied to, for any reason except the most benign, like a little prank that gets immediately corrected after.

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Do people still call first years jaffies