u/BabyCake2004

Hi, I’m only TTC right now but somehow this is already my biggest stress. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder, generally people can’t tell and I handle day to day life pretty well with a few accommodations (loop earbuds being the main thing I take everywhere). However hospitals are different, I’ve had some bad experiences in hospitals with people disregarding pain and ignoring my symptoms because I don’t present how typical people do. They are also generally quite triggering for me due to how loud the sounds can be and how bright the lights are. With all that in combination I sometimes struggle to say what I mean when doctors or nurses ask questions. Because of this I will currently not attend a hospital without someone present as a support person who can help me speak.

With post giving birth I’m especially worried about not being allowed to have a support person after the actual birth. I don’t know how I’ll cope having just pushed out a baby and then expected to care for it while also being in an unfamiliar place with bright lights and lots of noise and people I don’t know probably touching me. I’m wondering if anyone else in the public system was able to get a post birth plan that required their partner staying? If so what’d you have to do to get it approved?

Hi, I’m currently trying to conceive. I’m also autistic and my current special interest is birth. My mother is a midwife so I’m use to knowing every bit of what happens in depth (and also everything that can go wrong), but I want to know the birth side of it in as much detail as possible. I already own the complete Australian guide to pregnancy and birth, and it was great from a what to expect in the system front and for like showing others experiences and what choices you might have to make. But I felt it didn’t focus on what your body is actually doing during birth enough.

I want a book with photos and graphs of the different stages of birth. I want to know how the baby moves in a “typical” vaginal birth. What your body is actually doing during that to push it out. I just pretty much want a book just all about birth with no filter. Does anyone have any recommendations?

Hey, I'm 22 and grew up here. I was diagnosed with autism at 12 through the public system, but like only kind of. The doctor added it to my medical files and let my school know, but a proper assessment is 3 appointments and a huge paperwork write up. I only had 1 and no paperwork. Basically what this means is every medical professional knows, but I have 0 legal rights to request accommodations at work, seek NDIS support when I'm struggling due to autism symptoms, and adult education services provide me with 0 help.

I was told the reason I didn't get a full proper diagnosis is because the government wouldn't cover me because I wasn't struggling enough, and my parents couldn't afford it out of pocket. I've since found out this is untrue and it would have been completely free because I was under 18.

I'm currently looking into a proper assessment as I really need the supports available. But it seems like the only options are telly health stuff which I'm super uncomfortable with. Does anyone know anyone within Tasmania that does in person assessments? It also really sucks how much this seems it's going to cost but I've accepted there's no way around that.

Hello everyone. I'm an autistic individual with a very odd diagnoses (previous post all about that for if anyone in curious) who pretty much never got a level. But I've always assumed I'd be level 1 until more recently when my Sister in Law invited me to read through her diagnosis and I realized there were lots of things I did that were autistic things that I never noticed (she's level 2). But after reading it I kind of brushed it off and didn't think more of it.

I'm currently studying a course in autism studies (post grad) both because I work with autistic children at a school for only children with autism, and because I wanted to learn more as an autistic individual myself. We're currently talking about diagnostic criteria and I'm realizing I 100% do not fit into level 1. Like from reading through all this people with level 1 seem "normal" to me. Obviously they are not and they have their own struggles that I don't want to downplay. But on a personal level it's odd to realize I'm not as low support needs as I thought I was.

I was just wondering if anyone else had any similar experiences or any thoughts?

So long story short, my husband has failed a university class because of things that may or may not be his own fault.

He did fail his final assessment for certain. The reasons for this are completely him not taking it seriously enough. He has a habit of doing this then just scraping by and it annoys me so much but I let it go because I truly love him and know nagging just makes me and him unhappy but doesn’t change anything.

The part that might not be his fault is the overall unit fail states he didn’t participate at all. When in fact he has. Repeatedly participated, he submitted all the assessment, even the final one he failed is absolutely not a 0%. His first assessment was an A, and the second was a C. Considering you only need 50% to pass it’s very unlikely he actually did. Even if he did fail, he didn’t get a none participation result. Issue is despite me saying to him multiple times to check his results he didn’t. So he might be past the date he can request a grade review.

I’m so angry and frustrated with him. But also trying to be supportive and understanding too, how do I cope with this? I think the worst part is I know he can do better, but he didn’t.

Does anyone have any advice?
Tl;dr Partner failed a class. How do I support him and deal with my own disappointment at the same time?

Hey looking for colouring apps where I can pay once to completely remove ads. Everything I see has subscriptions or doesn’t completely remove apps. I prefer colour by number apps that are none pixel art. Any suggestions?

Hey, I’m a registered nurse with 5 months experience who has now been looking for a nursing job in my area for 11 months with 0 luck. Occasional I see posts by people who can’t get a nursing job straight out of grad going into agency. I know it’s not the safest thing in the world and people typically say it’s a bad idea, but like, it’s a job. What agency is taking these people? I am so desperate for a position I’d absolutely love to do short term contracts in absolutely anywhere in Australia.

I know there’s no technically “correct” answer for this but I really want other autistic peoples opinions. Mods please remove if not allowed, but I’m hoping it is. I’d like to clarify that I am not asking for opinions on if I am autistic, just if I am diagnosed.

So I have a very odd quite unique scenario. When I was 12 my younger brother was referred for a free autism assessment because he was very behind in school. My parents decided to bring me along too because they had suspicions about me (my dad is diagnosed and I’m exactly like him). So the phycologist spent one whole 2 hour session just focusing on me under my brothers name so my parents wouldn’t have to pay.

At the end of the session he told my parents I was definitely autistic but because I wasn’t struggling academically the government wouldn’t pay for the full write up report for me so my parents would have to pay 2k out of pocket. My parents couldn’t afford that so he did a brief write up (not legally a diagnostic report and doesn’t legally protect me from discrimination or allow me accommodations or get any disability funding) that was given to my gp and school.

Here’s where things get confusing, he also added an ASD diagnosis to my medical history that every medical professional I’ve ever interacted with can see. I was also referred to autism specialist phycologist and am treated as autistic by them too.

I’m not worried about weather this diagnosis is correct, it clearly is if you meet me. I’m also currently perusing an actual proper diagnosis. I just want to know weather it’s been correct for me to call myself diagnosed?

Hey guys, just looking for some advice and thought you guys would probably know more than me.

I’m a transgender man (born female, identify as a man) that’s been on testosterone for 4 years now. I’ve recently stopped my T temporarily so my husband and I can have a baby. Surrogacy is illegal here and adoption is very expensive so this is the easiest way for us to have kids, + it’d be cool to have a kid that looks like the both of us. So to start trying I need my T back into female levels which could take awhile.

Previously I was seeing hormone specialist who’d give me forms to get my bloods done for free. But they can only do it once every 6 months and have it covered by medicare and I’d kind of like to do it monthly. My other option is going to a different doctor, but no doctor here bulk bills so I’m looking at 120$ to just get a blood test form. So I’ve been looking into paying out of pocket.

Just wondering what the cheapest option is? I only need Total T, no free T or anything else that typically comes with the sports panels. Is there anywhere I could get that done for like 40$? I’m also a nurse so interpreting results is something I can do myself. Thanks!

Hey, I've noticed recently there's been a lot of people on this sub who are considering detransition due to social pressure, or are struggling with non-supportive parents, or are struggling to get their T, etc. Just lots of struggling. I really don't want this post to feel like I'm dismissing those very real struggles, I'm glad this place is a safe place for people to express themselves and how their feeling and get good advice. I just want to share some positivity by sharing everything good in my life.

For some background, hi I'm 22 and I've been on T for 4 years. I currently work in pathology collection but I'm about to start a new job as a teachers aid in a school for autistic children, and I'm so excited!!! They have a child there who wants to start an LGBTQIA+ group and I'm going to be one of the adults helping to run it. The school has no uniform for the adults and we are actively encouraged to wear clothes that are easy to move in and express ourselves. I'm so excited to wear nerdy stuff and be openly queer in a way that really makes a difference.

Besides that I've been getting really into swimming. I'm pre-top surgery and I don't bind while swimming for comfort reasons, so it's been a big thing getting into a pool. I wear women's black swim shorts (because men's don't fit around my hips) and a singlet with a sports bra underneath it and it's been such a relif to find I completely pass to the point I'm able to safely use the men's toilets. The pool is so relaxing and it's quickly becoming a safe place for me. I swim there enough now I haven't showed at home in 2 months XD. If anyone else is planning on doing the same my biggest advice is use moisturizer after showering from the start. The chlorine really dried out my skin at first. Now I use a good body butter I love and I smell so good post showering.

I've always had a bit of neckbeard, but this year it's thickened and turns out it's very very red hair. It looks super cool. I'm finally getting a bit of hair on my top lip, even though it's a bit ugly right now I'm so proud of it.

The biggest bits to share though is I got married to my lovely husband this year and I'm so happy with how I look in the photos. It was my dream wedding. We've just now started family planning so as of next week I'm off T. I know for many people here that sounds like hell, and I'm not going to say I'm excited to be off T either. But I'm so excited to have a baby!!!

Hope this post has given some people some happiness. For anyone whose made it all the way to the end, let me know something good in your life at the moment!!!

Hi! I've decided to post on here because I need to talk about how excited I am to someone but my husband is working.

So we're about to start TTC. I'm going to be a FTM x2, female to male and first time mum, well kinda, my baby will call me dad. I've been on testosterone for 4 years and I've just ceased it entirely to prepare for being pregnant. I'm just so so excited. I've started a diary to document my experience as not many transgender men decide to have their own children. The actual being off hormones is going to suck. It's going to be very weird having a period again (hopefully not too many of them before conceiving). I won't actually start trying until blood tests show my levels in normal female ranges, which could take many months. But I'm just so excited to have a baby!!!

I've had a long time to think about this so I have so many plans. I want an unmedicated birth in a hospital, but I'm open to other options if things are going wrong. I haven't had any breast surgery because I want the option to breastfeed if I decide I can do it, but admittedly I just don't like them being touched or looked at (which even though I'm trans I know people here can relate), so I'm going to wait and see. Current plan is to pump for the first 6 weeks then switch to formula and go back on my hormones.

My husband (a gay man) is super excited too. We are just so thrilled and excited. I can't wait to see my baby and watch them grow and laugh and cuddle and play with them. This pregnancy will be so worth it.

For anyone wondering, yes this is safe for my baby! I had lots of consultations with fertility doctors and hormone doctors before transitioning for exactly this reason. It also shouldn't effect fertility as any effects the hormones have had on my ovaries and uterus will reverse. You can actually even still get pregnant while on the hormones, it's just not good for the baby.

Happy to answer any questions people have, but I right now just want to hear what the cutest thing your baby ever did was? That and any tips you have?