u/BallAccomplished1669

Something messed up happened at work and I spoke up about it, and because people started walking on eggshells around me and asking me if I'm okay I panicked and backtracked minimizing it, now I look like a liar who exaggerated and it feels awful, I should have just let it go, but now I'm just going to suffer mobbing and I'm probably going to be the laughing stock of the company, I ruined my credibility too and my relationship with the person who believed me (but shouldn't have said anything to other people on my back especially when I told her to not say anything).

I'm pissed, and sad, and heartbroken because I betrayed myself, but having people walking on eggshells around me was driving me crazy. I don't know what to think or feel about anything. I'm sad, I just felt like I was going to get fired and I just wanted to last ten more days.

What if people actually believed me and I fucked up by backtracking? What if this person doesn't get fired now? People are lying to me, they're telling me they're getting fired because of their job performance not because of that they did, what if I ruined the perfect plan?

TL;DR: I messed up by backtracking on a strong (and true) accusation against a coworker and now I feel I ruined everything.

I ended up at a workplace that I don't understand. People are super tight knit with each other which is great but for some reason they identified me as an "enemy" because... I dare to set boundaries? I talk with people from upper management professionally (what am I supposed to do, ignore them?), I talk freely to guests and I have a life outside the workplace? And I "dared" to ask to transfer to another location for personal reasons that have nothing to do with them? I dunno but for some reason I seem to be in their checklist of enemies idk 🤷🏻‍♀️

But it's annoying because these people are hyper paranoid. They think people are spying on them all the time, they think coworkers snitch, they see any new workers as enemies, plotting against them, I called upper management once to tell them someone came to the wrong location (I was alone in the shift no bosses or anyone) and they made a big deal like I shit talked then to Upper Management, super terrified of it, etc. They're constantly testing if you're "one of them" by crossing boundaries, causing reactions, bossing around and seeing if you act harmless or you talk back, tell someone from upper management or you act submissive 🤨 it's... insane.

And they make all sort of conspiracy theories about people, or they laugh on your back and try to discredit your name, or try to gather personal information and take it bad when you keep to yourself, it's super exhausting, I just requested a change of locations for personal reasons and that seems to be a sin for them. If they think you're an enemy for whatever reason they go full hostile against you, smearing your name or "testing" you with "pranks". It's... Insane :/

What the hell is going on here? How do you explain this environment? Everyone quits and of course I'd quit rn if I could afford it.

Nobody likes her, she doesn't listen, constantly tries to one up coworkers, bosses, people from different departments, micromanages her seniors and equals, makes lots of stupid mistakes every day and then gets offended when someone sets a boundary with her, asks advice or solutions and then throws the people giving them to her under the bus, acts condescending, talks back constantly, always tries to force things her way, constantly questions why other people do things, etc... 😂

Working with her is punishment and people don't like dealing with her at all 😂

Pues soy de un país hispanoamericano donde somos unos estirados políticamente correctos, nadie es transparente en el trabajo y se juega a los juegos mentales de ser tan correcto con el compañero de al lado como sea posible para quedar bien.

A los Balcanes donde vivo ahora les caga, ellos quieren que me siente con ellos y les diga "joder pues me enoja que me toquen, no me gusta que me pregunten sobre mi vida privada en el trabajo y solo estoy aquí por dinero" en frente de ellos y pues no me gusta jaja, me molesta porque eso es ser grosero y entregar munición contra ti de dónde vengo, pero para ellos es normal y es lo que quieren.

Para ellos es tan normal que directamente hablan de sus familias sus negocios en casa incluso a donde van que dirección donde viven, cuando de donde soy eso es entregarle a un desconocido tu seguridad jaja, y les caga que no les de la dirección de mi casa, entre otras cosas.

¿Y en España, cómo es allá?

The owner of the company is mobbing me (nothing strange, he does it personally to employees he chooses that he doesn't consider "loyal" enough) and now it's my turn to suffer after three years in this shit company 😂 I'm sending CVs like crazy because today I had a panic attack at work which is just going to turn into more mobbing and I deserve better than this.

But I'm frozen while writing my CV, should I put this company? Should I act like I've never worked a day here, maybe? The industry is small in this country but I can start at entry level without issues, I don't want my current mobber to contact my new place of employment and smear my name there.

He's an abuser 😂 not surprised he psychologycally hurts and forces people to quit each year, this year is my turn, but I don't want this old man to smear me at my new place, what should I put in my CV then?

Nada, eso. He perdido oficialmente la cabeza. Hoy literalmente tuve un ataque de pánico en el trabajo porque pensé que la compañera de trabajo (que nos parece creepy a varios incluyéndome, pero tampoco es para tanto) le puso algo a mi sándwich y quedé como una inestable mental en frente de mis compañeros de trabajo, mi supervisor se vio bastante incómodo y la pobre compañera de trabajo que estuvo conmigo un par de horas para calmarme me ve con otros ojos 😅

La realidad es que ya perdí mi profesionalidad, reputación, y soy el hazmerreír del trabajo por esto. Quiero renunciar pero este trabajo es lo que me mantiene como mujer sola en el extranjero en un país (Europeo) donde hablo poco el idioma.

Además de que el trabajo no ayuda, es un campamento en medio de la nada. Bah, mi inestabilidad mental se va a expandir como la pólvora porque acá vuelan las noticias y el chisme 😢

Siento mucha vergüenza y no dejo de llorar, estoy enviando currículum a otra compañía donde hay latinos, pero en verdad, el aislamiento pone muy mal a la gente mentalmente. Y bueno, ya perdí mi credibilidad en la empresa, ahora soy la paranoica que acusa a los compañeros de trabajo de cosas raras, supongo. Las cosas se han vuelto muy incómodas y quisiera darme de baja e irme de la humillación. Ya varias personas no se relacionan conmigo más por mi inestabilidad y sigo quemando puentes.

Jaja, ay 😢 ojalá tener otro lugar a donde ir, pero esta es la realidad de ser una extranjera sola en un país de Europa, he perdido la cabeza totalmente, he arruinado mis relaciones laborales y me he convertido en un hazmerreír, y no lo puedo ocultar. Estoy escribiendo el CV ya mismo para irme, pero la vergüenza es inexplicable.

Currently happening to me, can't speak up or I look like the problem while she just lays there chilling 😂

Currently stuck in a very toxic job for financial reasons, how to cultivate a life outside of it?

Radim s osobom koja je potpuno luda, stalno glumi žrtvu, krivi druge za svoje pogreške i ponaša se nevjerojatno snishodljivo pred klijentima. Izmišlja da je kolege napadaju i štošta drugo.

Šefica me stavila u sve smjene s njom jer se i sama boji raditi sama s njom, a vlasnik tvrtke je ne želi otpustiti 🙄 Molim? Nisam ovdje da bih bila psihički zlostavljana radeći s ludom ženom koja nasumično optužuje kolege za nevjeru i čak promiče pedofiliju (da, doslovno je počela spajati maloljetnika i odraslog radnika).

Mislite li da je kasni svibanj ili početak lipnja prekasno za pronalazak novog sezonskog posla? I koje bi vrste poslova mogle biti dostupne sada?

I've been a receptionist for three years in the seaside of an European country and they want to change me to housekeeping because they can't find cleaners. Oh I wonder why, minimum wage, no extra hours paid, no free days in the season, but at least the job includes free accommodation and food.

Anyways, they want me to clean 30² mobile houses with a kitchen, two bedrooms, two bathrooms and one living room in 2 hours, everything is cramped because the houses are tiny, and they want me to clean four of them a day.

How realistic is that? Apparently the previous cleaners were filipinos that quit, I'm personally not in the financial position to quit but I could start applying for other reception or cleaning jobs in other companies 🤔 what do you think?

Pun mi je kurac više. Ovo mi je treća godina u istoj firmi na recepciji, a sada me žele prebaciti u čišćenje. Na moje mjesto stavljaju ženu koja jedva shvaća koncept rezervacije, molim?

Mogu zaposliti čistačice koje su fizički navikle na taj posao i imaju iskustva u profesionalnom čišćenju, dok se moje tehničko znanje o programu, načinu na koji rezervacije funkcioniraju i sve ostalo, uopće ne cijeni i baca se u smeće

Koje sranje... minimalac, neplaćeni prekovremeni, bez slobodnih dana. Trebali bi biti zahvalni što itko želi raditi ovdje i što još nisam dala otkaz, ali očito misle da je zamjena iskusnih radnika, koji znaju kako stvari funkcioniraju, studentima ili starijim gospođama dobra strategija

Što da radim? Tri godine lojalnosti nagrađene su ovako, trebam li početi tražiti nešto drugo? Što ako me ova firma bude blatila dok se prijavljujem na druge poslove, kada me budu pitali o trenutnom iskustvu i zašto mijenjam firmu? Ne znam ni što bih rekla na intervjuima, koji je pravi razlog odlaska