This really gross person in all ways sent me a follow request on IG and I messaged him saying, Do not reach out to me again. It is very disturbing to hear from you again" Can he report me to the BON for saying this to him.
So I (32F) have significantly changed since 2021 once I turned 27. Before I turned 27, I used to be such a "ray of sunshine" according to former friends and my parents in the sense that I was always smiling and laughing, had a wonderful sense of humor, was very friendly to everyone I met, was always the first one to hit up a party and the dance floor, and honestly liked everyone and never had any enemies. I would used to make people laugh so hard. In addition, I would used so many guys, both good and bad as I had long curly hair and would always wear makeup.
Since turning 27 I feel my personality has completely changed. I don't know why it just has and honestly I love my new personality now. I dress very conservatively, do not wear makeup, don't make an effort to socialize or make new friends but I am polite, hate going to parties and hate dancing, don't have a sense of humor anymore, and look very serious in public. As I have changed I also noticed that I am able to weed out the wrong people early on. My parents, on the other hand, just had a conversation with me that they miss the old me as now I am very uptight, serious, unfriendly, don't go to parties or like dancing anymore, and get offended easily. They think I have depression but that is not the case at all. As I have stated earlier in this post I feel like I am taken so seriously now and have attracted genuine people. Why is it that they just can accept that I am no longer that person in the past.
I am now a 32-year old female and strongly reflecting that in the past up until I was 24 I used to attract and befriend very toxic and weird people. Like people who are very needy, have a poor reputation, high maintenance, manipulating, drama follows them everywhere, and those people that just have it bad(i.e: co-workers and boss hate them, friends ditched them or dropped them, have issues with their family) as well as men who literally only wanted me for sex and I specifically remember one really gross guy saying " When can I hang out with you so I can have sex with you?" I also remember these toxic girls that I would hang out with would keep saying patronizing comments like, "You're so cute" You're so adorable" "You're so loyal". As I reflect back I completely understand what the reason was: that I was a people pleaser, a doormat, untrue to myself, and lacked social skills and boundary setting skills. I also recall that all of the individuals, men and women, who had healthy and loving friendships and relationships were polite but would distant themselves from me. I also understand why too, You show me who your friends are, and I will show you who you are". This occured from grade school all the way up until the end of college. As I look back, my social life in college was a fantasy and I created castles in the sky about how close I really was with those people.
After age 24, I started getting close and hanging out with my now current friends friend group who were 180 degrees opposite from those people listed above. Very loyal, remembering birthdays and major life events, will drive out of their way to see me, and will pick me up from the airport at 2 am. And I definitely have and continue to reciprocate all these things. I decided at age 24 to take action by starting to take prerequsites to get into Nurse Practitioner school and getting closer to my group and make better friends. At the same time I sent ALL of my old and toxic "friends" a text message telling them off and that I don't want to have contact with them anymore. They respectfully accepted it and some just left me on read lol.
Fast forward today, I am a successful NP who is very respected at work and among people that I meet. I am still close with my friend group that I have maintained my friendship with even though we are in different states, we frequently facetime. However, I am still haunted by my past and the fact that I missed out on so many opportunities to meet the right type of fraternity men ( I was in a sorority) as many of the right type of fraternity would look down upon me and kept their distance from me. I have tried seeing a therapist for about 5 sessions but it hasn't improved anything. I am on meds for depression. Not to be a drama queen, but this is actually causing my body to flare up with physical pain.
I am now a 32-year old female and strongly reflecting that in the past up until I was 24 I used to attract and befriend very toxic and weird people. Like people who are very needy, have a poor reputation, high maintenance, manipulating, drama follows them everywhere, and those people that just have it bad(i.e: co-workers and boss hate them, friends ditched them or dropped them, have issues with their family) as well as men who literally only wanted me for sex and I specifically remember one really gross guy saying " When can I hang out with you so I can have sex with you?" I also remember these toxic girls that I would hang out with would keep saying patronizing comments like, "You're so cute" You're so adorable" "You're so loyal". As I reflect back I completely understand what the reason was: that I was a people pleaser, a doormat, untrue to myself, and lacked social skills and boundary setting skills. I also recall that all of the individuals, men and women, who had healthy and loving friendships and relationships were polite but would distant themselves from me. I also understand why too, You show me who your friends are, and I will show you who you are". This occured from grade school all the way up until the end of college. As I look back, my social life in college was a fantasy and I created castles in the sky about how close I really was with those people.
After age 24, I started getting close and hanging out with my now current friends friend group who were 180 degrees opposite from those people listed above. Very loyal, remembering birthdays and major life events, will drive out of their way to see me, and will pick me up from the airport at 2 am. And I definitely have and continue to reciprocate all these things. I decided at age 24 to take action by starting to take prerequsites to get into Nurse Practitioner school and getting closer to my group and make better friends. At the same time I sent ALL of my old and toxic "friends" a text message telling them off and that I don't want to have contact with them anymore. They respectfully accepted it and some just left me on read lol.
Fast forward today, I am a successful NP who is very respected at work and among people that I meet. I am still close with my friend group that I have maintained my friendship with even though we are in different states, we frequently facetime. However, I am still haunted by my past and the fact that I missed out on so many opportunities to meet the right type of fraternity men ( I was in a sorority) as many of the right type of fraternity would look down upon me and kept their distance from me. I have tried seeing a therapist for about 5 sessions but it hasn't improved anything. I am on meds for depression. Not to be a drama queen, but this is actually causing my body to flare up with physical pain.