u/Big_Somewhere_620

I write to you my fellow non nutters about the massive step forward about the dog in this house. I apologise if it's a long post.

I've posted before about the issues I've had since I've moved in with my boyfriend. We had constant fights about it but we've discussed it prior to today and while he tried to understand we just weren't on the same page and the arguments continued. I felt I was insane. I felt horrid I felt anxious and I feared the state of my relationship. I was frustrated because this mutt only did these behaviours to me and wouldn't do it around others.

But slowly because I distanced my self from her, the behavior spread out to not just me having the issue with her. I felt maybe it's because I didn't baby her like my partners ex did.

Last few weeks though, she's stepped up from what she did to me to trashing rooms, been on tables, not listening to commands she knows in training, she also started slipping under the fence and harassing the people and kitties next door.

My partner has been steadily getting frustrated with her behaviour, we are now on the same page. He's done with her behavior and before he use to say about rehoming and I just couldn't let it happen as I know it would have hurt his son and also it would have strained our relationship more as he didn't understand my POV (again she only did it to me)

I heard him today saying if she keeps this behaviour up he will find her a new home and said to me he is getting sick of her to. I'm happy the behavior has been sighted and my feelings are known and accepted. But I still don't want to make a kid heartbroken, I don't want his child hurting over this, I wanted to be heard and maybe the behavior could be rectified by reenforced good training. I maybe living dog free soon and I feel so guilty for feeling happy about that fact when i know a child will be hurt.. Hence bittersweet post.

I'm happy my partner and I no longer need to argue about this damned dog but why couldn't she just be the decent "good" dog that others know and see, why does a child need to be hurt in this situation?

She's the reason I absolutely hate dogs and have a fear of them now, and I will maybe finally feel at ease in my partners home but it still comes with a heartbreaking price

With the amount of dog nutters out there you would think dog schools would already be a thing world wide.

I'm stuck in a 2 story house with a shit beast (literally, it shat in the kitchen this morning) and there is no where to put it when I need to do house work. It bitches and barks if you put it out side, gets up to naughty behavior if you leave her in house to hang washing.

I did get a near days break from it and the amount of house stuff I got done was massive so I want her to go to a dog school for the days.

For dog lovers they sure do charge an arm and a leg just to walk the stupid things, if I loved something I'd be happy to do it for free. Benifit all involved

I still have my rainbow foxs, Avi but I lost my big white ghost, Tum Tum and my little wolf, Wolfie Ghost Stuffie.

They are still here but they represented the security and comfort I got from my boyfriend.

He and I had an argument and now I lost those feels with him and them. I don't feel safe anymore, secure, comfort. I feel cold and empty and very alone.

Sorry about the depressing post I just have no where else to turn

In late 30s...didnt really have anyone to learn from growing up and as an adult most education came from books and shows. I learnt about peri on a TV show called working mom's.

My period this cycle came on the 7th, due on the 13th, but I'm not getting a normal heavy flow, but getting more moody.. 2 full days (started on the 7th evening so didn't fully add that) but it's like it's my 3rd or 4th day

Low flow (not heavy) I have been stressed due to issues in the house, am sexually active, but since it's been hot here I've been getting flushes but not anything beyond its hot weather. My sleep hasn't been the best but with the stress it can be accounted to. I would post on the peri page but want to get understanding here first.

Well I had a talk about the shit beast here, it got heated, I got blamed, I got called a not so nice name. I ended the relationship because of shit beast (no the break up is 100% on me because shes just a dog - a phrase I fkn loathe) we made up but now I don't even want to leave the room, I don't want to eat or wash my clothes because princess refuses to be brushed. I don't want to go down and do the chores because I'll be bricked by her, her piles of dog hair everywhere. I don't want him touching me knowing he's touched her. This is the beginning of the end of not just my relationship but my life as I have no moves left after this, im homeless, familess, countryless. This shit beast is the reason I'm choosing to unlive. But it's all on me because she's just an innocent dog and it's not her fault her toxic behaviour has caused so much fear and anxiety within me, it's all my fault 100%, I'm the dick head and she's just a dog....

As title says... Besides the fact I had to lose my bf for most of the day, it was wonderful! I made them take the shit beast for a huge walk and I was able to do some housework with out her underfoot constantly, moving her from room to room. I got the kitchen floor clean after she covered the entire floor with mud and shit. Today I realised how much I appreciated the time away from her, it stinks down there again and she's worse then the bad smells she makes (hair and general dog smell) she sticks like a fly to her shit, the constant whinging and barking... I don't want to be homeless but it sounds better then dealing with the stink princess shit stain.... I'm going to talk to my bf again about her been rehomed, not to use my anxiety and fear but the fact no one wants to walk her coz she doesn't want to stick to her training or wants to brush her coz she doesn't like been brushed. She is used when the child wants to play but won't do anything to keep her and the only reason I wanted her to stay was for the child. If he's done then I am as well lol

I hope I did this right... So I finally watched the finale, still collecting my thoughts on it, but at one point I swear I heard Boyd say they've lost 3 already which I know 2 are Elgin and Marimeth. Who was the other? Was before he went back to the cave so may have been when he was talking to Acosta and Sara at the sheriffs office /post office

As the title says. I have done dishes, swept and sorted rubbish, have house to self for the first time in days... Should I continue to do chores or chill (game, binge watch or try and nap)

TL;DR Chores or Chills

(for the mods I hope I did this right as is first post here and I sometimes don't understand the rules in some subs)

It's a heatwave where i am, so everyone is on edge and irritated. I can't leave or I'll get heat sick. The dog won't stop walking around and jumping off the sofa and on a good day coz I'm constantly at the house it drives me nuts... Yesterday and today I will unlive if she pushes to far.

This dog has made me fear dogs when I use to lije dogs and now I see the many flaws they have. It's constant and is driving me insane.

This thing has dogged me bricks me and shits acts all innocent to her owner but behind his back she's aggressive towards me. Has caused many arguments as he doesn't see her behaviour just my reaction.

It needs to be walked and brushed. Because of her last owner she learnt she can do what she wants damn anyone else. So last argument I said I'll walk her for a child's sake so she can stay. I was made to feel guilty due to "she's just a dog but I've made up my mind she's getting rehome" which would break the child's heart.

No one walks her as she pulls, the child (pre teen) refuses to do anything with out a fight (due to the mother who trained the shit beast) no one can brush her because she hates it so there is constant hair every where especially my underwear! I have a pure hate of hair I can't stand it on me or in my food to the point I make it a mission to make sure I'm hair less but on my head and eye area.

Why am I trying for a dog who will only expect more and not remember her good training and when no one else can be bothered with her. Rehome the idiot, it will make life a lot easier and better here... I'll be able to cook, I'll be able to breath, I won't have to sweep rooms which is like 90% dog hair, I won't have to keep checking my clothes and body or my food. I'll be able to clean the house and not worry about dog shit and fur and crumbs and kibbles everywhere. I won't have to be driven to the point of wanting to unlive myself, the gate can come off the door so we don't have to keep stepping over, I can leave a door open with out worrying she's gonna go in the room and shit out of pure spite and punishment!

Why should I keep trying when no one else will?

It's hot, I'm irritable and I'm over this damned dog and have no where else to word puke!

(I can't leave unless I am going to unlive, I can't go back to my home country as my only step there is to unlive anyway. This house is my last chance and that horrid shit beast is pushing me constantly but acts sweet and innocent so only my reactions are seen...

Not sure where I'm meant to post as I am newish to reddit.

Also I struggle with wording and communication so please bare with me!

There is a lot around this situation so I'm going to keep it as short as possible.

I moved in with my boyfriend last year who has full custody of his child and dog. I am not and do not claim to be his step momma, we are friends.

I adore the kiddo, I'd protect him with my life I get the heart attacks, I break for him when he hurts and would do near any thing for him

BUT

Is there a line where I can still do things for him but not fall in to the parent coddling thing?

You know where parents are lenient to a point to soften the blow of the break up and all the hell they need to endure?

His mother causes so much hurt for him so I don't mind doing extra for him, but it's gotten to a point where he (12yrs)wont do anything with out an argument. He expects things like dishes to be taken down stairs, cleaning his room, cleaning old food out of bowls, picking up clean and dirty washing, brushing and walking his dog etc etc.

As I said I don't mind doing things, ill wash clothes, dishes, sort out the rubbish when it gets to the kitchen. I scrub the bathroom clean as well things like that. But his dad works full time and most of the chores are left to me and I'm good with that but isn't there an age where a 12 Yr old should be doing certain things. I get getting them to brush teeth and shower is difficult but we are getting there. I have loads of responsibilities but no power to ask if he can say collect his washing from his room to take to kitchen so I can wash.

If I was a momma I'd be teaching my kids to do these small things, for when they get older. Dogs not the nicest, she does what she wants damn others and her training. So I'm a non momma doing all these parent type things and it seems to be piling up worse.

Am I bad for feeling like this isn't my place to be "mamma" and not wanting to do the things a 12 Yr old can do, I don't want to be yet another person saying it's ok rely on others (this is his mother's attitude, she makes a choice and walks away leaving others to clean up the messes)

Or if I am correct in just wanting what's right for this amazing kiddo? How would I approach this with my partner?

I always get hate for my distrust of Sara.. Not sure why as we have been shown she can't be trusted (maybe because she doesn't have a whiney voice or something silly to hate on, but an actual real reason that's why my distrust doesn't count)

Anyway my thoughts have grown, I feel she and others need to be separated from the others, for every ones safety.

They are not "bad" but they are threats

People like:

Sara (she's under GiD/MiY control)

As are:

Henry

Clara

Also throw Fatima and Boyds son in there as she's an unpredictable threat.

Then there are possible threats like

Randell (for the 3 and because the monsters claimed him)

Marimeth girl

Julie (last 2 for the 3)

The townies have so many threats but I'm so scared it's not going to be the bad threats that will be their undoing, it will be the trust of those around them will be their undoing

Today is an actual warm day for where I live (summer but rains most of the time) and my partner, his child, family member and my self went to the beach and show ground area (still not sure what it is as I'm new here but it's like a show or carnival with rides, arcade and food right near the beach)

I wasn't feeling to well at the show ride area, was over heating and the loud noise was hitting my anxiety but still had a good time been around the family member and my partner and his child.

We finally left the area and I started feeling better but still off, family member brought lunch down at the beach.

Laws state no dog can be in this area during summer months, signs posted, but you know nutters...

Anyway my partner found us seating so I was able to sit not facing the mutts.

I was struggling to eat my lunch as I have anxiety eating around loads of people, but I felt safe with who I was with and have felt comfortable with FM and eating around her the first time I met her.

I go grab a chip from my container and there's a mutt hair! I know it's a small thing and it's not the mutts fault, but I have a huge thing about hair to the point I make sure I have none touching me except for certain areas, and because I have issues with eating (ED with eating around people) I can't have it in my food, I feel instantly nauseous. So money down the drain, as I said I know it's a small thing and FM didn't mind, I feel so so awful! It's a common thing though with nutters and their dogs, one of their actions make me feel bad and guilty for how it makes me react. Stupid small rant about nutters again thinking them and their mutts are entitled and superior thinking they are above the law while the rest of us cater or deal with the consequences of their choices

Summers coming up and we all know what that means... More nutters bringing their mutts out more.

I feel like we are forced to be locked in the house while dogs have the run of the world.

I have finally got the confidence to wear dresses and I'm terrified of been violated just because this is a dog eat human world now

How long do we need to wait? What's the new episode going to be like etc and waiting even a day is as bad as waiting for a week lol

Stacy is who I strived to be and I love seeing a true artist at work. One day I'll write up my experience with scammers but for now I need the latest Stacy and... Episode!

Huge shout out girl we love your work!

Sorry if the title seems misleading, I'm not sure the title I should be using. I am not a foster parent, but a terrified momma needing advice. I can't go into much detail but please don't judge, I had to make choices that I never wanted to make and am trying anything to give my son a future (hopefully with me but just in case)

I had to flee my country due to abuse and fear and homelessness etc. My son, 12, lives with my mother (she was verbally and emotionally abusive to me and I can't be around her or she will make life nasty for my son. His father.. Well his father lives in a dilusion as I did (it's almost cult like and one of the reasons I had to flee) his father isn't trans ill make that clear he thinks he is a women's soul stuck in my sons father's body.

My mother has recently started doing the same abuse to my son as she did to me, I am trying to obtain asylum in the UK, and hope to bring him over as there is no safe place there for him (Australia)

I live with my partner and his son and have met my partners family. His mum is a brilliant foster parent and the boys I have met are good kids ones just come back to visit from university.

My question is if I can't obtain asylum here (Australia is extremely unsafe for me and I can't force my child to the street with me) am I allowed to sign my custody over to my partner and his mum? I know this is the safest possible route I can take, but is it legal? Can partners mum foster my son?

Please no judgement I'm terrified of both our futures I just want my baby to have a chance 🥺

I keep seeing that From won't be returning for 2 weeks? If that's the case they owe us for not storming the set for answers lol

I suggest they release 2 episodes on the 2 week or finally get rid of Sara... Either one I'd be happy about 😅

Also im not sure if I dreamed this, watched this or read it, but I feel BiW is a pro story walker and it's Ethan, that's why he's helpful but needs to be cryptic about anything he tells them. I probably dreamt it lol

Long shot but could be worth it!

Looking for a movie starring Rey Mysterio called Wrestlemaniac, set in a ghost town a dangerous wrestler is locked away and a group of teens (OK now that just sounds like nearly every other movie lol) stop in the town and get taken out by the wrestler.

Also in need of new watches as horror is getting a tad 🥱 I'm finding certain sci fis are catching my attention for horrors now, like dystopian future movies (what could happen in this world) things like Handmaidens Tale not so much Alien

Thank you in advance