Hey guys quite new here. I am around 178cm and weight 90kg (bmi of 28). Would it be possible to loose the fat pad around the dick because now it is roughly 4cm thick and I was wondering if my dick would appear bigger and also would be closer to it's potential due to the blood flow aspect and the fatloss
How do I change myself and my life?
Thank you in advance for your comments and for taking the time to read this. I'm 19, almost 20, and like almost everyone else, I've struggled with problems in my life. I grew up without a father figure, in poverty, and suffered from anxiety and a constant fight-or-flight response, which has affected my personality and behavior today. I have very low self-confidence and self-esteem, which leads me to put others before me and give everything, even when I should be taking care of myself. Because of this lack of a father figure, I haven't been able to build a real connection with a male person, which is something a boy growing up needs. For my family's sake and because I didn't know what else to do, I finished high school and am starting an apprenticeship this year, which I'm really looking forward to. The problem is that I'm actually very ambitious and want to achieve great things, but I keep lying to myself and not following through on what I set out to do. Whether it's sports, studying, or changing my behavior, I never follow through on anything. Last year, I had my first girlfriend at 18 and had a really great time, but it ended because of my behavior. I realized then that I tend to blame everyone else for my problems just to avoid looking bad. Until yesterday, when I started thinking about whether I might be the problem myself. I wanted to go to the gym, build a physique, but I lied to myself every day about not having time, etc. I said I was going to lose weight to get back in shape, but I was making excuses. I said I was going to focus on getting my driver's license until I failed the test two days ago due to a lack of observation... I hate myself for that, and also because I'm sabotaging myself. Support? I usually avoid it because I somehow lack the ability to genuinely feel empathy, which makes me seem strange to many people. I just want to completely change myself and my life, ideally by 180 degrees, but I don't know why. I make plans, but I forget them because of friends or other things, since my friends don't encourage me to work on myself, go to the gym, or focus on my career and maybe achieve something great. I know I'm 19, and many will say I'm still a child, and to be honest, I wish I were more mature, both physically and mentally, because I'm often perceived as younger and don't feel as mature or grown-up mentally either.
I hope to find a solution soon because it's getting me down more and more each day, and I'm falling into a slightly depressive mood.
Thank you for your time.
I wish you a nice day and hope I can answer your questions here if needed, or give me suggestions or further tips.
Thank you.
Thank you in advance for your comments and for taking the time to read this. I'm 19, almost 20, and like almost everyone else, I've struggled with problems in my life. I grew up without a father figure, in poverty, and suffered from anxiety and a constant fight-or-flight response, which has affected my personality and behavior today. I have very low self-confidence and self-esteem, which leads me to put others before me and give my all, even when I should be taking care of myself. Because of this lack of a father figure, I haven't been able to develop a real connection with a male person, which is something a boy growing up in this situation naturally lacks. Out of concern for my family and because I didn't know what else to do, I finished high school and am starting an apprenticeship this year, which I'm really looking forward to. The problem is that I'm actually very ambitious and want to achieve great things, but I keep lying to myself and don't follow through on what I set out to do. Whether it's sports, studying, or changing my behavior, I never follow through on anything. Last year, I had my first girlfriend at 18 and had a really great time, but it ended because of my behavior. I realized then that I tend to blame everyone else for my problems, just to avoid looking bad. Until yesterday, when I started thinking about whether I might be the problem myself. I wanted to go to the gym, build a physique, but I lied to myself every day, saying I didn't have time, etc. I said I was going to lose weight to get back in shape, but I was making excuses. I said I was going to focus on getting my driver's license, until I failed the test two days ago due to a lack of observation... I hate myself for that, and also because I'm sabotaging myself. Support? I usually avoid it because I somehow lack the ability to genuinely feel empathy, which makes me seem strange to many people. I just want to completely change myself and my life, ideally by 180 degrees, but I don't know why. I make plans, but I forget them because of friends or other things, since my friends don't encourage me to work on myself, go to the gym, or focus on my career and maybe achieve something great. I know I'm 19, and many will say I'm still a child, and to be honest, I wish I were more mature, both physically and mentally, because I'm often perceived as younger and don't feel as mature or grown-up mentally either.
I hope to find a solution soon because it's getting me down more and more each day, and I'm falling into a slightly depressive mood.
Thank you for your time.
I wish you a nice day and hope I can answer your questions here if needed, or give me suggestions or further tips.
Thank you.
Thank you in advance for your comments and for taking the time to read this. I'm 19, almost 20, and like almost everyone else, I've struggled with problems in my life. I grew up without a father figure, in poverty, and suffered from anxiety and a constant fight-or-flight response, which has affected my personality and behavior today. I have very low self-confidence and self-esteem, which leads me to put others before me and give my all, even when I should be taking care of myself. Because of this lack of a father figure, I haven't been able to develop a real connection with a male person, which is something a boy growing up in this situation naturally lacks. For my family's sake and because I didn't know what else to do, I finished high school and am starting an apprenticeship this year, which I'm really looking forward to. The problem is that I'm actually very ambitious and want to achieve great things, but I keep lying to myself and don't follow through on what I set out to do. Whether it's sports, studying, or changing my behavior, I never follow through on anything. Last year, I had my first girlfriend at 18 and had a really great time, but it ended because of my behavior. I realized then that I tend to blame everyone else for my problems, just to avoid looking bad. Until yesterday, when I started thinking about whether I might be the problem myself. I wanted to go to the gym, build a physique, but I lied to myself every day, saying I didn't have time, etc. I said I was going to lose weight to get back in shape, but I was making excuses. I said I was going to focus on getting my driver's license, until I failed the test two days ago due to a lack of observation... I hate myself for that, and also because I'm sabotaging myself. Support? I usually avoid it because I somehow lack the ability to genuinely feel empathy, which makes me seem strange to many people. I just want to completely change myself and my life, ideally by 180 degrees, but I don't know why. I make plans, but I forget them because of friends or other things, since my friends don't encourage me to work on myself, go to the gym, or focus on my career and maybe achieve something great. I know I'm 19, and many will say I'm still a child, and to be honest, I wish I were more mature, both physically and mentally, because I'm often perceived as younger and don't feel as mature or grown-up mentally either.
I hope to find a solution soon because it's getting me down more and more each day, and I'm falling into a slightly depressive mood.
Thank you for your time.
I wish you a nice day and hope I can answer your questions here if needed, or give me suggestions or further tips.
Thank you.
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Ich bedanke mich schonmal im voraus für die Kommentare und die Zeit die ihr aufwenden werdet um das hier zu lesen. Ich bin 19 werde bald 20 und habe bisher in meinem Leben wie allzu jeder Mensch mit Problemen zu kämpfen. Ich bin ohne Vaterfigur aufgewachsen, in Armut während ich auch unter Angst und im ständigen Fight or Flight Modus leidete was sich auf meine Persönlichkeit und mein Verhalten heute auswirkt. Ich habe ein sehr geringed Selbstbewusstsein und Selbstwertgefühl was mich dazu bringt andere Menschen vor mich zu stellen und alles zu geben auch wenn es mal angebracht wäre auf mich zu achten. Durch diese fehlende Vaterfigur habe ich auch keine wirkliche Verbindung zu einer männlichen Person aufbauen können was einem aufwachsenden Jungen natürlich fehlt. Ich habe meiner Familie zu liebe und aus unwissen was ich machen soll mein Abitur beendet und fange dieses Jahr eine Ausbildung an worauf ich mich wirklich freue. Problem ist dass ich eigentlich sehr ambitioniert bin und großes schaffen möchte , ich aber mich immer wieder selbst anlüge und nicht das durchziehe was ich mir vornehme. Sei es Sport,lernen oder Verhaltensänderung, nichts wird von mir durchgezogen. Letztes Jahr hatte ich dann meine erste Freundin mit 18 und hatte eine sehr schöne Zeit die jedoch durch mein Verhalten zuende ging. Dabei habe ich erkannt dass ich dazu tendiere die Probleme bei allen anderen zu suchen nur um nicht schlecht dazustehen. Bis ich gestern darüber nachgedacht habe ob ich nicht selbst das Problem bin. Ich wollte ins gym , mir einen Körper aufbauen aber ich habe mich jeden Tag selbst angelogen dass ich keine Zeit habe usw. Ich habe gesagt ich würde Gewicht verlieren um wieder in Form zu kommen aber ich habe Ausreden gesucht. Ich habe gesagt ich würde mich auf meinen Führerschein konzentrieren bis ich vorgestern aufgrund fehlender Beobachtung durchgefallen bin...
Ich hasse mich selbst dafür und auch weil ich mir selbst im Weg stehe. Support ? Darauf verzichte ich eigentlich in der Regel da ich irgendwie nicht die Möglichkeit habe glaubwürdig Empathie zu empfinden was mich bei vielen als Komisch dastehen lässt. Ich würde doch nur wollen mich selbst und mein Leben am besten um 180° zu ändern aber ich weiss nicht warum. Ich nehme mir Sachen vor aber durch Freunde oder sonstiges vergess ich diese da meine Freunde auch nichts davon halten an sich zu arbeiten , ins gym zu gehen oder sich auf seine Karriere zu konzentrieren und vielleicht großes zu erreichen. Ich weiss ich bin 19 und viele werden sagen ich bin noch ein Kind und um ehrlich zu sein wünschte ich erwachsener zu sein sowohl körperlich als auch mental ,da ich einfach oft auch als jünger wahrgenommen werde und mich auch vom Kopf her nicht so reif oder erwachsen fühle...
Ich hoffe bald eine Lösung zu finden da es mich von Tag zu Tag immer mehr runterzieht und in eine leicht depressive Stimmung verfalle...
Vielen Dank für eure Zeit
Ich wünsche euch einen schönen Tag und hoffe hier eure Fragen beantworten zu können falls es dies benötigt um mir Vorschläge oder weitere Tipps zu geben.
Danke
This might not be a typical post here but i just want to ask u guys if you smoke in general ? I am 19 and i am used to smoking but i am scared of health issues and even how it is affecting my d and the erection down there ...