u/BoxFar6969

▲ 1 r/tall

I'm so jealous of shorter people. I don't know what to do atp.

*Obligatory yeah I'm not THAT tall. This is just my experience as the tallest person I know in my day to day life

I'm tired of being taller than everyone. Tired of standing out. Tired of looking like a giant. When all my friends are at least 10cm shorter than me. Tired of having to lean down to hear my friends. Tired of feeling so exposed. I see the cute 165-170cm boys in my area and I get so jealous. They're so well proportioned and they're more face-to-face with the girls, more in touch with the ground, and they can blend in, I'm an eyesore. I'm also very thin, so people make sure to tell me that a lot. But the fun part is that my rib cage is on the larger side so somehow I look bulky/boxy and skinny at the same time. Wtf.

Once my friend pulled me by my waist and positioned me next to him in a boyfriends-style pose for a joke picture. But he's 10cm shorter than me, and he asked me to squat so he'd look taller, and thus the dominant one. It was a joke, but damn it felt weird, like I have to adjust something I can't control to play a certain role. Again, I felt like a stick just looming over everybody and unable to be included.

I've had thoughts of starving myself to induce osteoporosis and become shorter. It was like a light bulb moment but fortunately or unfortunately food is not that easy to abandon.

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u/BoxFar6969 — 1 day ago

THE ACTORS GET COSMETIC PROCEDURES AND THAT'S OKAY. Huge pet peeve

I've been experiencing lots of second hand embarrassment from the fans of this show when it comes to the appearances of the actors. I've been nooticing a classic case of people painting ALL cosmetic work as morally wrong, fake, or harmful. But when the end result actually looks good, suddenly it's "aging like fine wine".

Classic case is Candice and Kat, who look almost exactly like they did in their 20s, and people constantly say "omg they're real vampires 😍" "it's the genes 😍" "it's the self care 😍" "they're so beautiful 😍"

I'm sorry to burst your bubble but no one naturally looks like they're frozen in time by the end of their 30s (and absolutely no shade to Candice and Kat).

When Nina started looking way different, people started speculating she got plastic surgery, and how bad it looked, and how beautiful she was before, and how much it has aged her. Now, she suddenly looks younger again, like her older self, and everyone is posting pictures of her thirsting over her, and people are saying "omg it's because she left her toxic ex 😍" Girl.

Women can seriously never win. This is why they don't open up about plastic surgeries.

But goddamn it if I see the "they're actual vampires!" comment again.

Celebrities are rich, and they can also be insecure, and they face pressure to look a certain way. They age, they lose. They get plastic surgery, they lose, unless it looks flawless and you never tell anyone you got plastic surgery.

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u/BoxFar6969 — 4 days ago

I tried hooking up and it couldn't have been more boring and gross, I almost thought I was asexual

I'm fairly young and in the process of finding myself. Well what happened today shocked me. I was always very attracted to men, and I WANTED this, but all of that got turned off during the hookup. All I could think about was how gross licking the salty skin was, getting a hair or two in my mouth, and the kissing especially was disgusting and ruined my perception of kisses. It's so bizzare how much more in the mood I was fantasizing or looking at pornography rather than being in it. I hated everything about it

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u/BoxFar6969 — 8 days ago
▲ 61 r/4tran4

I hooked up with a man and I'm misandrist now

No I wasn't before. I made him finish 4 times and he made me finish 0. I was not a partner I was the condom compliance officer because he couldn't put on a condom correctly to save his life. Thankfully he had erectile dysfunction so I didn't have to feel that pathetic piece of disappointment inside me. I don't know how sex workers do it

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u/BoxFar6969 — 8 days ago

Proof sexuality is not a choice because I would never willingly put myself though this again

I had sex with a man for the first-ish time. It was so underwhelming and boring I just wanted out. It was like all my nerves and erogenous zones got switched off. Asexuals say kissing feels like kissing a wall. Well it felt like a wet vacuum cleaner. His mouth tasted weird af. I had bombarded his messages about condoms. I even watched a condom tutorial video myself just in case. Well the mfer couldn't put on a condom correctly to save his life. And I would make points to use new ones after he contaminated the other ones and to wash correctly (he didn't lol). Guess how many he made me finish. 0. Guess how many times I made him finish. FOUR. FOUR TIMES.

When it came to him penetrating me I was praying for this all to stop because the outside of the condom was probably dirty. I think the angels heard my prayers because he would go soft every time he tried (anxiety?). I was so ecstatic inside, and I assured him multiple times that it's okay and we don't have to do it and I'm happy (lol). Well at one point he took off the condom and rubbed my intimate area with his penis. After all the work I had done to avoid any STDs and worse, HIV (I then read it's unlikely for it to spread this way). I put a stop to it immediately and the session finished soon after. Also every time he would finish he would go to rinse his pp but not use soap, so any organisms were only taken off mechanically, when soap could disrupt the microorganisms.

The only attraction I feel right now is for myself because I lead the conversation perfectly to not do things I didn't want to and to go home quickly. Oh also he revealed he had a wife and a son. He then started talking about a next time. AHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA bye

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u/BoxFar6969 — 8 days ago

Lifelong housewives who can't cook for shit

Of course, I'm not talking about the women that have been forced into marriages and genuinely hate their lives. Let's make that clear.

I'm talking about that grandma or that one aunt who are crazy for these recipe magazines and stare into your soul to tell them what you think of their cooking.

I have found that a lot of them, even though they're spending their entire lives cooking, don't really know the science of cooking. My grandma for example, always tells me pseudoscience about food, uses an enormous amount of oil every time, and wastes a lot of food as well. She doesn't even know how to warm up food correctly.

I guess it's shocking to me that people never question the things they're doing every day. You really eat that and you're satisfied? Is every cooking session just hoping on luck?

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u/BoxFar6969 — 11 days ago
▲ 39 r/4tran4

I don't think you're faketrans if you have sex with your natal genitals.

We don't even know what causes transsexuality. The brain is plastic, it changes all the time, and things exist on spectrum. Like how most people have narcissistic or antisocial traits, without having full blown NPD or ASPD. Those categories are artificial, human constructed models to decipher and predict the world. Just like physics, chemistry and biology. But they stay just that, predictive models that don't have the full picture. Transsexuality arises from hormonal, and/or genetic, and/or environmental factors. There are literally SO many different factors that can go wrong in the human body. I think it's reductive to try to fit people into boxes. There are trans women and trans men who have sex with their natal genitals that are also happy when they get bottom surgery. They don't get "reverse dysphoria" or anything (which I also think is lazy and easy pseudoscience to predict the world). Additionally, dysphoria is a SYMPTOM that can feed off of many fragile factors, because human existence is complicated. Those factors include genetic all the way to social.

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u/BoxFar6969 — 13 days ago

I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE MET A MORE TOUCH STARVED GROUP. YOU GIVE THEM A SPECK OF ATTENTION AND SUDDENLY YOU HAVE 14+ DMS FROM DIFFERENT FEMBOYS THAT GIVE YOU THEIR DESCRIPTION AND QUALIFICATIONS LIKE IT'S A JOB APPLICATION. IT'S LIKE THE CAT DISTRIBUTION SYSTEM WHERE YOU FIND ONE STRAY CAT ON THE STREET AND SUDDENLY YOU'RE SURROUNDED BY CATS. BUT NOW IT'S THE FEMBOY DISTRIBUTION SYSTEM OR SOME SHIT. THOSE FUCKERS CAN SMELL ATTENTION FROM KILOMETERS AWAY. EVEN IF I POST A SMALL COMMENT ON A VERY NICHE SUBREDDIT TALKING KINDLY OF THEM SUDDENLY THE DMS START POURING. NO I DON'T WANT TO DATE YOU. NO PLEASE DON'T SEND ME DICK PICS. I'M NOT A PIMP. LEAVE ME ALONE.

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u/BoxFar6969 — 18 days ago

I found myself missing proprietary programs again because of this. There is a lack of supply of graphic designers in FOSS spaces? Yeah I can tell. And these FOSS programs are very capable, they're just unusable. An example in libreoffice writer: I wanted to add an outline to text and there wasn't any clear way to do it. The top bar, which theoretically had all the functions for text concentrated in one place, didn't have an option for outlines. I searched online and it turns out you can add outlines; by going to Format > Text > Outline Font Effect. Now, the option to change the color of the outline seemed to be a separate battle so I didn't bother looking into it. FOSS programs have this issue a lot where multiple settings for a single thing are spread out everywhere. I keep finding new places that have settings for libreoffice's user interface. It just requires going online to search where your stuff is located again and again. They're not where they should be.

I guess I could also add KDE Plasma but I haven't had the chance to reeeaally settle into the DE because I always encounter random bugs and friction that make me want to erase my partition. But Plasma and KDE's programs in general tend to be more of an eyesore. They really just dump settings anywhere if there's space. Its not so much the lack of pretty colors Im complaining about, I just cant do my work because the UX is horrible.

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u/BoxFar6969 — 23 days ago