u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264

A few days ago, I had just left university. I'm 19 years old. It was 5 pm, so I went to the bus stop to go home. While I was waiting peacefully, a car stopped right where I was. I thought he was picking someone up, but he looked at me and seemed like he was going to talk to me and I just looked away, ignoring him. A few seconds later, he drove off.

Now that I think about it, I think he thought I was a prostitute. It's worth noting that I was wearing a simple t-shirt, oversized jeans, and a denim vest for warmth, with makeup on. I wasn't showing any skin, and I wasn't wearing anything vulgar, so I can't understand how he could have insinuated or assumed that, since I didn't flirt with him or say a word to him at any point.

I hope it doesn't happen to me again...

I can't seem to connect with anyone. They say I speak in a very rigid or structured way. I also haven't found anyone who's my type. I actually connect more intellectually, then emotionally, but generally people don't have the patience for that; they prefer "chemistry" to stability. When it should be the other way around: with stability you build something, then chemistry naturally develops. If it's the other way around, chemistry doesn't guarantee a stable relationship. What do you think?

I don't know if it's because 5sx types tend to be the most extroverted among 5s, but I generally work better with ENTJs.

What I like about working with ENTJs:

1. They are direct and efficient, which makes communication easy.
2. If an idea is logical and efficient, they usually accept it and follow through.
3. They have initiative and a strong drive to move things forward.
4. They’re good at structuring the solutions I propose.

What I don’t like about ENTJs:

1. They sometimes assume everyone processes information the same way they do.
2. They can explain everything at once without adapting to others’ reasoning, which can be overwhelming and counterproductive.
3. Some are impulsive.
4. They tend to compete even when it’s not necessary (usually with people they see as capable, but it still feels like a waste of time when there’s work to be done).
5. Once they think they have the result, some don’t double-check for errors, which can lead to mistakes.

What I find difficult when working with others in group settings:

1. Lack of initiative.
2. Not asking questions or proposing ideas when they don’t know what to do.
3. Preferring to work alone even in group tasks.
4. Not respecting others’ time while expecting their own to be respected.
5. Leaving everything to the last minute.
6. Not following through even when asked to do something in order to finish on time.
7. Needing constant reminders.
8. Complaining even when someone else has done most of the work.
9. Prioritizing fun over achieving important goals.

In general, regardless of MBTI, I value initiative and efficiency above all else in group work. As an INTP 5, their emotional intensity doesn’t usually affect me (5 + lower Fe). I just focus on the task. I had heard before that INTPs and ENTJs make good team players, and now I’ve confirmed it.