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I moved into an apartment in mid-2025, and my fellow tenant moved in last month. There's a third person on the lease who has been there for years. When I moved in, there was no deposit required, as it remains with the lease until the whole unit has been vacated. We'll call my two roommates Denise and Becca. Denise convinced me when I moved in that I should send her $900 for the deposit, as she had paid it and I needed to pay her back. So I did.

When Becca moved in, she replaced Hannah. Denise told Becca that she should give her (Denise) $1200, so she could pay Hannah the deposit back. Kind of like an intermediary.

Turns out Denise and Hannah didn't pay a dollar in deposits, as the deposit was paid years ago (like in 2018) by a person who's long gone.

Becca told Denise to return the money she stole, and Denise began screaming and crying, and said it's defamation to accuse her of stealing it. She also said she won't return the money.

What do we do?

I just moved out at the end of an apartment, and so did both my other two roommates. Entirely vacated unit. I'll call them Stephanie and Chelsea. Stephanie had WiFi in her name, and Chelsea and I were supposed to pay her for internet every month by sending her a third of the bill. Stephanie never shared a password for the bill, nor screenshot, etc. confirming the cost.

Stephanie texted me just now asking for half the Verizon WiFi bill, claiming that they charged her for another month, and it's the previous month. I have no idea if Verizon actually charges for the previous or upcoming month, as Stephanie has never shared any of that info with us. So she's claiming it's for the month we just finished.

She's asking me for half the bill as Chelsea won't pay her for third of it. So Stephanie wants me to split the bill with her. Should I send her money? There was nothing in the lease that had rules for splitting bills not charged by the apartment complex.

This was her text to me: Hi (name redacted), Verizon charged me another month of internet bill. I called them and they said the cycle is from June 11, and even if we cancel the service, we still have to pay for the whole month. Can we share the cost of the bill? Thank you.

Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to? Also I blocked her.

I'm wondering if I was out of line by blocking her

Reposting with more info if you recognize this post!

I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in March because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also.

The situation caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. I was getting headaches, etc, and spent time touring places that I would have otherwise spent on other things. I also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. Feels like it doesn't make sense to move again so soon.

My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's commitment from the tenants. I moved in late March, and feel like it would be weird to move back in with the person who forced me to move out.

The former roommate did ask me if I was interested in living with her again, and I said I was open to relocating again, but this seems so fast. I didn't think she meant now. I thought maybe she meant in a year.

And I'm wondering why she's leaving this new place of hers so soon. Also: She told me she's touring the building that I was forced to move out of! This seems crazy. I wonder if the people she was living with asked her to move out? Also she suggested I move in with her into a 1 bed 1 bath, and I take the living room and she takes the bedroom.

I decided to block her on Facebook and her phone number. Probably for the best. By the way, this is another story, but she was also taken to small claims court by the third roommate last sprint. She had collected a "security deposit" from me and the the third roommate, when there wasn't one required. She claimed she was reimbursing the person(s) who moved out, but turns out she pocketed the money. She only returned the money after the judge ordered her to. Not when she was caught pocketing it. Couldn't she have given it back and said sorry it was a misunderstanding or something?

I just moved out at the end of an apartment, and so did both my other two roommates. Entirely vacated unit. I'll call them Stephanie and Chelsea. Stephanie had WiFi in her name, and Chelsea and I were supposed to pay her for internet every month by sending her a third of the bill. Stephanie never shared a password for the bill, nor screenshot, etc. confirming the cost.

Stephanie texted me just now asking for half the Verizon WiFi bill, claiming that they charged her for another month, and it's the previous month. I have no idea if Verizon actually charges for the previous or upcoming month, as Stephanie has never shared any of that info with us. So she's claiming it's for the month we just finished.

She's asking me for half the bill as Chelsea won't pay her for third of it. So Stephanie wants me to split the bill with her. Should I send her money? There was nothing in the lease that had rules for splitting bills not charged by the apartment complex.

This was her text to me: Hi (name redacted), Verizon charged me another month of internet bill. I called them and they said the cycle is from June 11, and even if we cancel the service, we still have to pay for the whole month. Can we share the cost of the bill? Thank you.

Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to? Also I blocked her.

I'm wondering if I was out of line by blocking her

Reposting with more info if you recognize this post!

I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in March because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also.

The situation caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. I was getting headaches, etc, and spent time touring places that I would have otherwise spent on other things. I also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. Feels like it doesn't make sense to move again so soon.

My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's commitment from the tenants. I moved in late March, and feel like it would be weird to move back in with the person who forced me to move out.

The former roommate did ask me if I was interested in living with her again, and I said I was open to relocating again, but this seems so fast. I didn't think she meant now. I thought maybe she meant in a year.

And I'm wondering why she's leaving this new place of hers so soon. Also: She told me she's touring the building that I was forced to move out of! This seems crazy. I wonder if the people she was living with asked her to move out? Also she suggested I move in with her into a 1 bed 1 bath, and I take the living room and she takes the bedroom.

I decided to block her on Facebook and her phone number. Probably for the best. By the way, this is another story, but she was also taken to small claims court by the third roommate last spring. She had collected a "security deposit" from me and the the third roommate, when there wasn't one required. She claimed she was reimbursing the person(s) who moved out, but turns out she pocketed the money. She only returned the money after the judge ordered her to. Not when she was caught pocketing it. Couldn't she have given it back and said sorry it was a misunderstanding or something?

Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to? Also I blocked her.

I'm wondering if I was out of line by blocking her

Reposting with more info if you recognize this post!

I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in March because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also.

The situation caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. I was getting headaches, etc, and spent time touring places that I would have otherwise spent on other things. I also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. Feels like it doesn't make sense to move again so soon.

My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's commitment from the tenants. I moved in late March, and feel like it would be weird to move back in with the person who forced me to move out.

The former roommate did ask me if I was interested in living with her again, and I said I was open to relocating again, but this seems so fast. I didn't think she meant now. I thought maybe she meant in a year.

And I'm wondering why she's leaving this new place of hers so soon. Also: She told me she's touring the building that I was forced to move out of! This seems crazy. I wonder if the people she was living with asked her to move out? Also she suggested I move in with her into a 1 bed 1 bath, and I take the living room and she takes the bedroom.

I decided to block her on Facebook and her phone number. Probably for the best. By the way, this is another story, but she was also taken to small claims court by the third roommate last sprint. She had collected a "security deposit" from me and the the third roommate, when there wasn't one required. She claimed she was reimbursing the person(s) who moved out, but turns out she pocketed the money. She only returned the money after the judge ordered her to. Not when she was caught pocketing it. Couldn't she have given it back and said sorry it was a misunderstanding or something?

It's like no one has any clue how to act in public. No one gets out of the way. People leave the refrigerator and freezer doors open. They leave their carts in the middle of the aisles. And why do people need so much ice cream? Seriously, I've had people buy close to $50 dollars of it because of this sale.

Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to? Also I blocked her?

I'm wondering if I was out of line by blocking her

Reposting with more info if you recognize this post!

I lived with this person for two years. I was essentially forced to move in October 2025 because she moved due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also.

The situation caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. I was getting headaches, etc, and spent time touring places that I would have otherwise spent on other things. I also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. Feels like it doesn't make sense to move again so soon.

My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's commitment from the tenants. I moved in late September, and feel like it would be weird to move back in with the person who forced me to move out.

The former roommate did ask me if I was interested in living with her again, and I said I was open to relocating again, but this seems so fast. I didn't think she meant now. I thought maybe she meant in a year.

And I'm wondering why she's leaving this new place of hers so soon. Also: She told me she's touring the building that I was forced to move out of! This seems crazy. I wonder if the people she was living with asked her to move out? Also she suggested I move in with her into a 1 bed 1 bath, and I take the living room and she takes the bedroom.

I decided to block her on Facebook and her phone number. Probably for the best. By the way, this is another story, but she was also taken to small claims court by the third roommate last sprint. She had collected a "security deposit" from me and the the third roommate, when there wasn't one required. She claimed she was reimbursing the person(s) who moved out, but turns out she pocketed the money. She only returned the money after the judge ordered her to. Not when she was caught pocketing it. Couldn't she have given it back and said sorry it was a misunderstanding or something?

2024 was the worst year of my life. It all went downhill really when I lost my full-time job, and had to take one that paid far less. This was at the beginning of May, and I'd been considering moving when my lease was up in September. Due to my financial situation, I had no choice but to stay another year. I was living in a three person unit, and one person who I was living with decided to move at the end of the lease rather than renew.

The person who replaced her was very difficult. Made constant demands from the beginning. However, about a month into living with her, she had ascertained that the other of the three tenants (me, new tenant, longest tenant) had pocketed "security deposits" totaling $1900 from me and her combined. But the longest tenant, who collected the money, did not pay anything in deposits. The deposit remains with the lease, and whoever paid it left years ago. Unless the unit is vacated in its entirety, the deposit gets transferred to the new tenant(s) on the lease in a lease addendum. She had taken the money by deceiving me that she (longest tenant) had paid it and I needed to pay her back. She deceived the new tenant that she was taking it to serve as intermediary to reimburse the departing tenant. Both new tenant and I sent her the funds via zelle.

So new tenant took longest tenant to small claims court, and won. Longest tenant gave me my money back too, but deducted the money from the internet bill for the remaining five months of the lease in advance, as it's in her name. So I ended up getting about 85 percent of it back in one payment. By the way, never once did she share the bill with anyone. No recept or screenshot proving the cost.

All three of us moved out of that unit in September 2025.

Fast forward to December 2025. Longest tenant of the old place texts me on my birthday to say HB. She also mentions that my new lease is mtm right; do I want to live with her in the future? So I replied that I'm open to relocating again, and asked what does she have in mind. She said she'll text me if anything comes up, and let me know in advance. I truly didn't expect she meant the next month, and was trying to be polite.

Then she texts me on NYE:

Btw, I saw an apartment that looks nice and good price in the area where we used to live! Are you be interested in taking a look together this week? I think tomorrow is a holiday.

This seemed really fast, and I tried to figure out how to get out of this without being impolite. So I said I may be available, let me check my schedule. Then she bombarded me with text after text, and said there was some one month free deal if you move in during the month of January, there was in unit laundry, and a balcony. And the unit she sent me a link to was for a 1 bed 1 bath, $1849 total rent, and wanted to split it in half while I took the living room and she took the bedroom. Then a few days later she went to tour the place, and I got out of it by saying I was working. So she said no problem, but when would you like to move in? And I didn't respond, and she actually left me alone for a month. So I blocked her in the month of February, and that was the last text she sent me. I just was done dealing with her and all that drama. Was I wrong? I have no idea why she wanted to move again three months after moving into her new place.