u/BusyInspector95

I literally posted today about how MIL kept posting photos after I told her to stop. And asking advice how people set the boundaries about grandparents posting.

My parents luckily don't have social media and FIL as well. So I basically had to have the talk with MIL AGAIN! (Father of LO is an asshole and a mama's boy and just says yes to everything his mother wants. That's why I'm not turning to him to talk to his mother. )

I told her firmly I will not tolerate her posting photos of my baby. She came back with the most shit response. If she can't post photos of the baby then they'll be missing out on seeing the baby grow up.

I was like excuse me how is your math mathing? I didn't say I'm not sending you photos anymore. I'm asking you to use your brain and stop posting photos on your social media.

She then came up with this thing about if we still send her photos over WhatsApp the location can still be tracked so she doesn't understand why I don't want her to post photos if I keep sending them.

I send her 99.9% of the photos. I told her of she keeps giving me these shit answers and trying to cross my boundaries she'll never see a single photo of my baby again because her son DOESNT TAKE PHOTOS OF THE BABY or send her. He asked me to do it every time.

She came up with something else. Like how are all her family members going to see. And I said Sheila you're done (name not Sheila). You've just lost the privilege of photos to your grand child until you can tell me you understand my boundaries.

I even sent her videos on this. Of the porn that's being made with these photos and she still comes with this shit .

So now I'm apparently very mean and cruel and I said fuck you and blocked her again. I'm so mad right now. Why is it that they don't understand our boundaries

My ...... I don't know what he is anymore. But any MIL is post happy. I don't have social media but I was recently informed AFTER I discussed it with her that she still posts on Facebook LO photos. Her most recent photo she posted was one of me mere hours after giving birth. One I did not consent even to be sent to her. I don't know why this woman thinks it's okay to post my or my child's face on social media.

How did you handle continued crossing of boundries? Her son will still probably send her stuff so not sending her stuff won't work.

My fiance and I have a 4 month old son. Unfortunately like so many he changed so unbearably much once the baby was born. And I'm done. I can't anymore. It's been coming for a while anyway.

But what can I do?

He lost his job recently and we're stuck living with my parents.

What are my legal rights with my baby and everything. He keeps threatening to take my baby away because he doesn't like my parents and what they do.

I don't want to take the baby away from him but he's also a drunkard and I don't want the baby to be left with him unsupervised.

Do I have to go to court to fight for custody? Does it have to get legal?

I think I'll have to make it a legal thing. Because he threatens the police as well.

I don't know what to do. I feel so devastated and lost. We don't have any assets that are both of ours. Just baby.

I also want to change my baby's surname to mine.

Can anyone give me any advice

My sister bought me and LO matching shirt and onesie saying our first mother's day. She gave it to us a few days before. Partner thought it very cute and sent photos to his mother (without us in it).

On mother's day MIL video called us. (She lives in another country) Low and behold she has on the EXACT same shirt as the one my sister got me. (Sister bought it from Temu. So it was very easy for MIL to get the same shirt and they deliver really quickly in her country. Before anyone tells me it's sweat shops and and and. This isn't about that right now)

I was flabbergasted. Partner was surprised too but laughed and said the shirt didn't fit her at all.

She asked him, because I left the room but I could still hear her. To send her a photo of just him in the onesie so she can 'AI it so that it looks like they are together and that they are matching'. Partner said he'll ask me cause his phone cracked. They even called on my phone. Partner asked me. I said I'm not doing that and he just said ok. He thought it was weird. Asked him why he didn't tell his mother that. Said he didn't want to cause trouble on mother's day.

The day went by without anything much. Monday aswell didn't hear anything. But yesterday MIL messaged me. Saying how disappointed she was in. Me that I didn't sent her a photo of him. She wanted to do a special MD photo with him and I robbed her of it. I just told her its my first mother's day with him she can't just steal everything. She sent a ton more messages but after that I blocked her. Partner said he's not even going to go get his phone fixed.( He does have a business phone he uses until he can get to the shop to fix his personal but Mil doesn't have that number) Because he knows he'll have 100 messages complaining about something stupid.

My sister(28f) is my (30f) baby's godmother. She doesn't have any kids of her own. This was my first mother's day with baby. So my mom's first as a grandmother and my sister's first as a godmother.

I obviously got my mother something. My husband got me something too. And then I was surprised to receive 2 gifts from my sister and one from my mother. I wasn't expecting that.

My mother then asked where my sisters gift is because she's his godmother and this is her first mother's day as such. I was like omw I didn't know I should buy her something because in my mind she's not a mother and I'm not her child nor her partner.

My mother then said but she got you something and I said while I appreciate it she bought it out of her own free will and I didn't ask her to get me anything.

My mother said I'm an asshole for speaking Bout my sister that way and to make up for what I said I should buy her a gift

I just.... Don't want too. Her birthday is also next month and I have a big surprise for her the. Which is already a huge chunk of money for me. And now I have to get her something because she's godmother too???!!!!

I suddenly hate my husband even going in for a hug. It's the most frustrating and sad feeling I've ever felt. I hate when he cuddles me in bed or when we do smexy time. I hate him holding my hand or even breathing close to me. I absolutely hate having him in my personal space these days. Even when I play with baby and he's there I hate it

I hate feeling trapped by his arms in a hug or a cuddle. I would much rather sit with my baby screaming in my ears than being lovenly touched by my husband.

I'm curious to know. I've been EP from the beginning (so four months). The longest I've pumped was 45 Min but that was when the milk just didn't stop flowing. So now I just pump between 15 to 30 Min. Depending on my time.

I'm a just enough-er so the milk kinda just stoops at 25 Min anyway