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I purchased two pairs of Joy Cons from ZenMarket as the controllers are so much cheaper in Japan and I already had items I needed to be shipped from the warehouse so I figured I'd just add them on. Well, ZenMarket is completely incompetent when it comes to shipping controllers. I selected Avia to ship the items and then they changed it on me to surface because Avia won't ship batteries apparently. I then changed it to ECMS Express, payed for it and two days later get a message from ZenMarket saying they cancelled the shipment because ECMS only allows two batteries per shipment and this parcel contained four.

Ok so remove one item from the package. They do that and tell me to repay for the shipment. I go to pay for it and it's stuck on "we need to make some changes. please wait." I message them again. No one knows why it's stuck on this. Now all of a sudden they're telling me that I can't ship via any of the cheaper shipping options because none of them ship items with batteries in it. Every single rep I speak to tells me something different.

It has been OVER two weeks at this point and my parcel is still sitting in the warehouse because they can't figure out what they're doing here. All of a sudden they're telling me there's a fifth battery in the parcel in another item which is not true... I created this parcel on 7/29 and today is 8/13. Lastly, I asked ZenMarket for a shipping discount via ZenPoints for this debacle and they are refusing to take any responsibility for this situation. Whatever you do, do NOT ship anything with batteries via ZenMarket.

I saw a tweet in passing with a quote from Michael Ouweleen regarding the future of reboots. Saying how they’ll only reboot something if the original creators are on board. Can’t seem to find it now… can someone share the link if they have it? Thanks!

I posted on here once before but last fall my grandpa (now 92) was diagnosed with dementia. Unfortunately, he's gotten significantly worse since then and is forgetting more and just not paying attention when people speak. It's like he's in a daze at times and has the shortest attention span. He barely watches TV anymore which used to be his favorite pass time. Now he just sits on his iPad watching Shorts and stares out the window. His personality is absolutely miserable and he keeps complaining about life. The worse part is he gets so aggressive and starts screaming at the top of his lungs at least 4-5 times per month. I live on the floor above them so it's really taking a toll on me because I just hear manic screaming and have no escape. Was going to watch a show tonight and all of a sudden the screaming starts and goes on for 20 minutes. My grandma definitely has the worst of it as it's all directed at her.

I'm really at a loss for what to do with him at this point. He has a neurologist who we've been seeing but she said that medication isn't really an option with him because of his age. She's told us multiple times that his medicine is to go on walks and go to a senior center for entertainment and socialization. He refuses to do either. He just sits and says he's waiting for death and acts miserable all day every day. Some days he's great and his personality is back but those seem to be few and far between at this point. I barely visit them anymore cause I just can't bear sitting with him. There's either 0 acknowledgement from him or he starts yelling over something. It's always the dumbest crap too. He was screaming at my grandma tonight because she left the room to get ready for bed and he was sitting alone. This morning he yelled at her because she didn't want a slice of cheese with her breakfast. He's just absolutely miserable and doesn't realize what he's doing half the time. He screamed at me a few weeks ago and then my mom talked to him after and he said he has no recollection of yelling at me.

I used to be so close with him and I really miss the old him. I used to sit for at least an hour a day with my grandparents and enjoyed it but now it's hard to stay for more than 5 minutes. The other night we invited them up for dinner and my grandpa came up yelling because he had to go upstairs for dinner. It was ridiculous. I went out and picked up food for all of us and he's screaming cause he had to go up a flight of stairs. He's not incapable physically at all. He is just always in a mood. He complained for the entire meal and the moment he finished eating he went back downstairs. My grandma ended up staying up for two hours which was really great for her. She got a break from him and had a nice time with us.

What can we do in this situation? He brings the entire house down all the time and even my aunt doesn't come over as much because of how he acts. The worst part is he doesn't care who's here or not. He's blown up three times in front of our family friend who is now scared of him. He comes over and avoids my grandpa at all costs. He won't even enter his floor at all. One time he went in for something, saw my grandpa and ran out.

I've been going to a lot of events lately and in turn have been getting a lot of phone numbers. I don't know if it's just me, but the post getting your number response wait is grueling. It's just so annoying because it's always like ok well did this person give me their number cause they're interested or because they don't know how to say no? The more time that passes, the more it looks like the latter. For example, I got someone's number last night. Asked her if she'd be interested in going out and we exchanged numbers. I'm very interested in this person and am now sitting here wondering if she is or not. I get it, this is just part of the process and what not, but it becomes rather frustrating and tbh kind of deflating when you're putting yourself out there, getting numbers, to then get ghosted. I know that this is just how things are with dating, but it's so frustrating. I feel like there used to be (and should be) excitement surrounding getting someone's number. It's like you had a nice time talking to them in person and want to explore getting to know them further. There used to be joy and jubilation for me whenever I got someone's number but now it's just like ok, now let's see if you're actually interested or not and in most cases it's not. And the more it happens, the more you can't help but feel like every interaction is heading that way. It's like, regardless of how good the in person interaction was, it doesn't really guarantee a response back from that person. And even if they do respond back, are they actually interested in going on a date? In most cases the answer is no.

Like last week, I got four phone numbers. One ghosted me. One said she didn't feel a connection and wished me the best. One said she's focusing on her career atm. And the last sent me a message back saying "It was so wonderful meeting you last night". We kept talking and then eventually, I asked her out. She told me she's in a show for the next few weeks and isn't able to go out while the production is ongoing. So then I asked her about the production and if she'd want to go out after it's over and ghosted. It's like ok then... I feel like the problem is as well is people sometimes lead on that they're interested when they're really not. The girl who ghosted me spent so much time talking to me at the event we were at and even invited me to another event afterwards. And then she ghosted me... Then the other girl tells me it was so wonderful meeting me to telling me why she can't go out this week to then ghosting me when I try to plan for after her play is over.

It's just overall very frustrating. I don't know if anyone else feels this way but I feel like the joy of meeting people is taken away when there's no follow through

I went out this evening and ended up getting two numbers. So far neither have responded, which I know it's still early but in my experience if I don't hear back that day then 95% I don't hear back at all. I even got another number last week and she never texted me. So it's making me wonder, how often is it that people actually respond to someone they gave their number to? I know people give numbers to protect themselves from aggression or just are afraid to say no all the time and then ghost, but I'm finding it very frustrating that so many girls give me their number and don't respond. I know no one reading this is there, but I am a very respectful and intentional guy. The conversations we had in these three instances were really good and flowing well. One of the girls even had her friend with her who walked away to give us some space after she saw we were vibing... so I just don't get it.

I am fed up with dating... our generation has absolutely no social skills and is cooked. I feel like everyone I match with on dating apps, meet in person, etc. are all the same. It's like regardless of how great the connection is, people get cold feet, don't know what they want, or are just playing games. No one in our generation is consistent.

For example, there's this girl I met back in October that I asked out on a dating app. I had met her in person and later saw her on Hinge. We started talking and she eventually ghosted me after I asked her out. The next month I saw her in person again, and I didn't approach her but overheard her talking about me. She eventually approached me as I was leaving and said hi giving me a hug. I saw her again in December, and she was being really flirty and touchy with me. I was like ok so this girl is interested but why did she ghost me when I asked her out? I decided not to make a move given that she had just ghosted me a month and a half prior. I'd most likely be seeing her again next month anyways. I didn't see her in January or February so I end up adding her on insta and she DM'd me. We start talking and after a while I asked her out again. She didn't say no but she didn't say yes either. She kind of dodged the question. I ended up seeing her later that month at an event and asked her what was up. She said she's been waiting for me to ask her out in person which I thought was the dumbest logic but whatever. She gives me her number and we plan a date. The day before the date she cancels because "she didn't realize I wanted to date and isn't looking for anything right now". I ended up finding out a lot more about her from a friend that I'm not going to post on here but it's a whole mess of a situation that I walked away from.

Back in March, I went on a date with this girl who seemed really nice. We had a nice time and I could tell she was way more into me than I was into her. I was interested but wasn't sure if this would go anywhere. She was going to be out of town for 8 weeks so we've been texting since our first date. On our date, she talked about ghosting and told me that she hates it and if for whatever reason I lose interest, to just be upfront with her. I agreed and told her I hate it too. Well... guess who got ghosted. I went away a few weeks ago and she messaged me during my trip to see how it was going and I sent her some pics from it and we were going back and forth for a while. All of a sudden she just stopped responding and I followed up once I got back home and haven't heard back. It's been almost two weeks at this point...

Speaking of that trip, I noticed on it that the problems with out generation go beyond dating. We just lack social skills in general. Where I was had a TON of Gen Z workers at the restaurants and what not. They were all friendly and all but I noticed something interesting. There were three places I went where the workers were in their 50s-70s. I had some of the most memorable interactions from my trip with these people. They were so nice and had full blown conversations with me about life and things changing in the area that I was at. I used to have family there and was visiting after my family moved away from the area 10 years ago. I did some reflecting after the trip and realized that our generation doesn't know how to talk to people beyond surface level interactions. It's like we freeze up or just don't want to talk. I just feel like everyone has been so isolated that if they don't have a prior relationship with you (i.e. as friends and what not) they're not going to interact more than anything surface level. I'm not even talking about in terms of dating but just in general.

It's really sad because I feel like this is where the majority of our dating struggles stem from. Absolutely no one knows how to communicate and is so caught up in whatever they're into that they forgot about the real world and people around them. I've experienced this with friends, people I've dated, and passerby. I've told this to friends and family but there is going to be a point where things come to a head. We're not getting any younger and eventually people are going to realize that they've been wasting precious time on things that don't matter. How many hours they've spent gaming, on Instagram, on TikTok, or whatever they're involved in. Life is about the people we connect with, the people we interact with, and I'm afraid that our generation is going to realize that when it's too late.