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I was planning on coming out as non-binary to my parents and, after testing the waters for a few months, I decided to do it. But, before I could do it, a few days ago they told me they noticed me being upset (I was really worried about coming out) about something and decided they had enough and forced me to spit it out. After being cornered for over an hour, guilt tripped as Hell for "not thinking about their feelings" and being treated like a suspect in a crime movie that has to confess, I broke and came out. I try to explain them and what do they do? They laugh because "I was worrying about nothing", they tell me that I am not and I'm just confused and "reasure" me that I don't have to question because I'll always be their boy. But I wasn't questioning, I know what I am and, especialy my mom, negated it like she always does. Every single issue or difficulty I open out about, is made up and doesn't exist acording to her. They didn't even let me explain propely and kept switching the argument to sexuality and how it doesn't matter who I love but it wasn't the point at all. I tried to explain my experience and I was called confused, I tried to explain dysphoria and I was told to accept myself. I tried to explain how I didn't want to be nor boy nor girl and she said it's not possible while my dad remained in silence. Today they saw me even more upset and tried to do the same thing again but I managed to fake a smile and slip away. I hate all of this. I HATE IT!

I was planning on coming out as non-binary to my parents and, after testing the waters for a few months, I decided to do it. But, before I could do it, a few days ago they told me they noticed me being upset (I was really worried about coming out) about something and decided they had enough and forced me to spit it out. After being cornered for over an hour, guilt tripped as Hell for "not thinking about their feelings" and being treated like a suspect in a crime movie that has to confess, I broke and came out. I try to explain them and what do they do? They laugh because "I was worrying about nothing", they tell me that I am not and I'm just confused and "reasure" me that I don't have to question because I'll always be their boy. But I wasn't questioning, I know what I am and, especialy my mom, negated it like she always does. Every single issue or difficulty I open out about, is made up and doesn't exist acording to her. They didn't even let me explain propely and kept switching the argument to sexuality and how it doesn't matter who I love but it wasn't the point at all. I tried to explain my experience and I was called confused, I tried to explain dysphoria and I was told to accept myself. I tried to explain how I didn't want to be nor boy nor girl and she said it's not possible while my dad remained in silence. Today they saw me even more upset and tried to do the same thing again but I managed to fake a smile and slip away. I hate all of this. I HATE IT!

(Enby 16) It may sound stupid but I don't know if I should come out to my parents now. It's Summer and my parents really like to go to the beach and I kinda get dragged always. This Summer I managed to tell a few people I trust to build up courage to tell them and I feel almost ready now. But I feel guilty to ruin their Summer by explaining that I don't and kinda never felt comfortable going to the beach and thus they won't go there no more. As I said, it's stupid and silly but I really would like to know if I should tell them as soon as I'm ready or should I wait till November?

I'd like to come out as non-binary to them but I'd like to test the waters first. To do so I need something a bit specific if it isn't a problem:

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- Live action and not cartoon (they won't watch it otherwise)

- The enby character has to specificaly say at least once they do not fit gender (because my language, Italian, is to gendered and they would miss it otherwise)

- Is on Netflix or Prime Video

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I know it's a bit specific but I need this, please.

I'm 16 (17 in a few months) and I'm non-binary AMAB and I've been pretending cis since I started questioning. I started doing gender affirming things like growing my hair, exercising to lose weight and epilating often but I still feel a lot of distress about my body. Since I'm pretty sure coming out as non-binary is not an option since probably my parents won't understand nor accept it. But I was thinking that coming out as transfem could be a good idea so I could get to talk to a gender psychiatrist or someone that can help me figure out my doubts and also having an excuse to do more gender affirming acts that I'm not allowed for now. But at the same time I feel guilty for lying and pretending to be something I'm not. And I also feel that faking being transfem is wrong because I'm not. But I'd also really want to do something for myself. I'm still planning on going to a psychiatrist and changing a lot of things when I turn 18/19 and move out to live alone, but at the same time I feel so bad about what I'm now and I'd really like to do this things sooner. I don't know, I just want to understand what should I do. (Btw sorry for bad grammar)

I'm 16 (almost 17) and never had any friend during all of highschool and it sucked but this year (the 3rd) I finally managed to get a friend group. It was all good 'till yesterday. I (as the only queer) sent on the group chat a message wishing an happy Pride Month and 2 out of 3 of them started arguing how Pride is annoying, useless and gays are overreacting for no real reason. They also said that protests are useless and just violence while, while condemning the violence, I pointed out how most revolutions in history happened thanks to protests. While arguing they also tried to invalidate my identity (non-binary aroace) because "genders out of M/F make no sense" and "it's impossible you never had a crush or something". At that point I kinda lashed out but I still tried to be as respectful as possible and trying to explain things instead of just being offensive. And now they are pissed off at me and I don't know why because I tried to be as successful as possible, I didn't even bring out racial discrimination because one of my friends is black and it is still giving him problems at school. I even feel bad and don't know why because I think I was on the right, but I still tried to apologize to fix things.

I'm 16 (almost 17) and never had any friend during all of highschool and it sucked but this year (the 3rd) I finally managed to get a friend group. It was all good 'till yesterday. I (as the only queer) sent on the group chat a message wishing an happy Pride Month and 2 out of 3 of them started arguing how Pride is annoying, useless and gays are overreacting for no real reason. They also said that protests are useless and just violence while, while condemning the violence, I pointed out how most revolutions in history happened thanks to protests. While arguing they also tried to invalidate my identity (non-binary aroace) because "genders out of M/F make no sense" and "it's impossible you never had a crush or something". At that point I kinda lashed out but I still tried to be as respectful as possible and trying to explain things instead of just being offensive. And now they are pissed off at me and I don't know why because I tried to be as successful as possible, I didn't even bring out racial discrimination because one of my friends is black and it is still giving him problems at school. I even feel bad and don't know why because I think I was on the right, but I still tried to apologize to fix things.