r/enby

HIII! I really wish there were more spaces specifically dedicated to nonbinary people loving nonbinary people (exclusively or not). I see a lot of nblw, wlnb, nblm, and mlnb related content which is, of course, AMAZING and I love seeing it — but I’d love to see representation and discussion of nonbinary people loving other nonbinary people! I feel like the constant emphasis of romantic/sexual love (or any kind of love, really) only existing in the gender binary is a bit excessive. To me (and, I’m sure, others out there), love goes beyond the gender binary and that’s exactly the meaning of nonbinary. I’d really love to see more of it and have spaces where love for nonbinary people from other nonbinary people is emphasized!

Just a quick vent/rant because I need it. I'm an abrosexual/aroaceflux person that loves making stories. I mostly identify as non-binary and gay/omnisexual, but I have moments. Because of this, I just tell people who ask my pronouns that I'm either "non-binary," or "it depends on the day". Plus, my mother has made fun of my identity multiple times, and it's making it a lot harder for me. Not to mention that I've had partners also break up with me over this. It's gotten to the point where I feel like no matter what, I'm just a loser who can't even keep a relationship because they don't fully know their identity. Maybe it's because I just started my journey, or because I don't know my place in the world yet, but I feel like I should know. Any tips?

Hey everyone, i'm Noise.

I've been going through a ton lately, to the point where I've been suicidal again (yay 41% smth smth), and having to deal with sh problems again.

Im pretty young (18), and I think i am visually good looking, in terms of my face and whatnot.. The problem is, everytime that I undress I genuinly get the urge to self harm, because I despise my body to a point where I want to leave it. To the point where I only shower in the dark to not see anything- It's horrible.

I was born male, and my body is sadly an absolute brick, i'm 6,2 and even though I have a relatively femme face, I hate the way my body is structured. I am definitely not trans, because I know for a fact that female genitalia or a feminine role in society wouldn't change this, but I still have horrible dysphoria, especially about my shoulders, and height. I've known that i'm nb for almost five years now, through the entirety of male puberty, which has ravaged my wonderful androgynous body that I used to have, and I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be a woman, I don't want to be a man. I want my body to be as fragile and small and hurt as I am.

Apart from therapy, which I am trying to get (you try in germany, seriously), what is there to do for me ? I've been thinking about microdosing diy hrt, but I dont want to lose function of my genitalia, which I've heard can happen, and the more I think about it, the more I realize that I don't think it would make me feel any better.

Anyway. Thanks y'all.

Dysphoric and depressed

Noise (It/They).

I was planning on coming out as non-binary to my parents and, after testing the waters for a few months, I decided to do it. But, before I could do it, a few days ago they told me they noticed me being upset (I was really worried about coming out) about something and decided they had enough and forced me to spit it out. After being cornered for over an hour, guilt tripped as Hell for "not thinking about their feelings" and being treated like a suspect in a crime movie that has to confess, I broke and came out. I try to explain them and what do they do? They laugh because "I was worrying about nothing", they tell me that I am not and I'm just confused and "reasure" me that I don't have to question because I'll always be their boy. But I wasn't questioning, I know what I am and, especialy my mom, negated it like she always does. Every single issue or difficulty I open out about, is made up and doesn't exist acording to her. They didn't even let me explain propely and kept switching the argument to sexuality and how it doesn't matter who I love but it wasn't the point at all. I tried to explain my experience and I was called confused, I tried to explain dysphoria and I was told to accept myself. I tried to explain how I didn't want to be nor boy nor girl and she said it's not possible while my dad remained in silence. Today they saw me even more upset and tried to do the same thing again but I managed to fake a smile and slip away. I hate all of this. I HATE IT!

Hey everyone. New to this channel. For probably 3 years now (roughly since starting university) I (21 AMAB) have been trying to find a label (don't know if that's the right word) that best encapsulates my gender.

I feel male most of the time but I also get waves of feeling feminine and girly in varying intensities. Sometimes it is closer to make sometimes it's strong enough to wonder if HRT would be a good thing to do.

I stopped using boy or male to describe myself in my thoughts, I tend to use guy as my gender in a neutral way but I have been trying to find a label for myself.

I thought about non-binary but it doesn't feel right and I don't want to use gender-fluid or genderflux because I don't feel like those fit either. I recently discovered the terms demigirl and demiboy and I feel like demigirl resonates with me but looking into its area I'm the gender spectrum I feel like it does not encapsulate the masc side of my expression.

My question is, can I use demigirl in conjunction with guy or male and would it make sense?

Thanks y'all