I'm preparing for SQL interviews and was wondering if there's a good website to practice SQL problems like we use LeetCode for DSA. Looking for interview-style questions and hands-on query practice.
Any recommendations?
I'm preparing for SQL interviews and was wondering if there's a good website to practice SQL problems like we use LeetCode for DSA. Looking for interview-style questions and hands-on query practice.
Any recommendations?
I'm preparing for SQL interviews and was wondering if there's a good website to practice SQL problems like we use LeetCode for DSA. Looking for interview-style questions and hands-on query practice.
Any recommendations?
Hi everyone,
I'm preparing for my first CS internship interview and wanted to hear about your experience.
What kind of questions were you asked? Was the interview mainly based on your resume and projects, or did they focus more on CS fundamentals like SQL, DBMS, OOP, DSA, OS, CN, and coding?
If you've interviewed for a backend/database-related role, I'd especially appreciate your insights. Also, what's one thing you wish you'd prepared better before the interview?
Thanks in advance!
Hi everyone,
I'm preparing for my first CS internship interview and wanted to hear about your experience.
What kind of questions were you asked? Was the interview mainly based on your resume and projects, or did they focus more on CS fundamentals like SQL, DBMS, OOP, DSA, OS, CN, and coding?
If you've interviewed for a backend/database-related role, I'd especially appreciate your insights. Also, what's one thing you wish you'd prepared better before the interview?
Thanks in advance!
Hi everyone,
I'm planning to start learning Oracle SQL and PL/SQL from a beginner level to improve my job prospects as a fresher.
There are many courses on Udemy that offer certificates after completion. Are these courses actually worth buying? Do recruiters or employers value these certificates, or is the real benefit mainly the skills you gain?
If you've taken any good beginner-friendly Oracle SQL/PLSQL courses on Udemy, I’d really appreciate your recommendations.
Thanks!
Trying to apply for revaluation, but the KTU portal has been showing 502 Bad Gateway since yesterday night. The last date is 10 June. Is anyone else facing this issue ?
Hey everyone,
I'm a recent CS engineering graduate and I've decided to start focusing seriously on upskilling. Right now, I'm thinking of learning Python first and then moving into AI/ML.
I'd really love to hear from people who have already been down this path.
If you were starting from scratch today, what roadmap would you follow? Which resources, courses, projects, or habits helped you the most? Also, were there any mistakes or time-wasters that you wish someone had warned you about earlier?
I'm not necessarily looking for the "best" course. I'm more interested in hearing real experiences—what worked for you, what didn't, and how you went from being a beginner to becoming confident in Python, AI, or getting your first opportunity in the field.
Thanks in advance to anyone willing to share their journey. I genuinely appreciate it!
Hi everyone,
I'm a recent Computer Science Engineering graduate from India and I'm currently looking for my first job.
Lately, I've been feeling quite uncertain about my career direction. I enjoy technology and want to build a successful career in the field, but I'm struggling to figure out what I should focus on during this early stage of my career.
One of my long-term goals is to potentially work abroad someday, but I've never been abroad before and don't have a clear understanding of what paths are most realistic for someone starting from my position.
Right now, I'm trying to understand what would be the best use of my time and energy over the next few years.
Some questions I have are:
I'm genuinely interested in learning from people who have already gone through this stage. If there is anything you wish you had known when you graduated, I would love to hear it.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I appreciate any advice or experiences you're willing to share.
Hi everyone,
I'm a 22-year-old Computer Science Engineering graduate from India.
I've recently completed my degree and am currently looking for my first job opportunity. For some time, I've been interested in the possibility of living and working in the Netherlands in the future, but I'm still trying to understand what realistic pathways are available for someone in my position.
I've never been abroad before, so I don't have firsthand experience of living, studying, or working outside India. Because of that, I'm finding it difficult to evaluate which route would be the most practical and worthwhile.
At the moment, I'm open to different options, including:
A few questions:
I'm genuinely looking for guidance and would be very grateful to hear from people who have made a similar move or have experience with studying and working in the Netherlands.
Thank you for your time and advice.
22F here. I feel like I’m slowly losing my mind over something that probably sounds “small” to other people, but it affects me very deeply emotionally.
My parents have recently been pressuring me to sleep in the same room as my 10-year-old sister even though we have another room available in the house. My sister had actually started sleeping alone already, but now my parents suddenly feel bad seeing her sleep alone and are unnecessarily creating conflict over it.
I love my sister deeply and this is NOT about her at all.
The problem is that growing up, my home environment was very strict and emotionally stressful. There was a lot of yelling, fear, control, occasional DV between parents, constant anxiety about getting scolded, etc. My childhood and early teen years honestly felt emotionally exhausting. The only thing that gave me some sense of emotional safety growing up was finally having my own room after my sister was born. It became the one place where I could calm down and mentally breathe.
Even now at 22, if I feel like I’m losing that space/privacy, I become emotionally overwhelmed very quickly. Especially because if my sister sleeps with me, my parents constantly come in and out since she’s still school-going and young, and it starts triggering old feelings from childhood again. What makes it harder is that my parents genuinely do not understand emotional boundaries or privacy at all. To them:
“What’s the big deal?”
“She’s your sister.”
“Why are you overreacting?”
Last year they even allowed me to see a counsellor they trusted, and the counsellor explained why personal space was important for me mentally. I honestly felt relieved finally being understood for once. But afterward my parents dismissed it and acted like I somehow manipulated the counsellor. I think another painful part is seeing my younger sister’s feelings treated much more gently and patiently than mine ever were growing up. I know it’s not her fault, but it still hurts. I don’t hate my parents either, which makes everything emotionally confusing. They’ve also supported me in many ways and I know they love me in their own way. But at the same time, I feel emotionally suffocated at home sometimes.
I’m currently trying to get a job and become independent, but until then I still have to live at home.
For people who grew up in similar Asian family dynamics:
I’d really appreciate hearing from people who understand this kind of environment because I feel very alone in it sometimes.
22F here. I’m struggling with something at home and wanted advice from women who may have dealt with similar family dynamics.
My parents have been pressuring me to sleep in the same room as my 10-year-old sister even though we have another room available. I love my sister deeply and this is not about her. The issue is that growing up, my home environment was very strict and emotionally stressful at times. Over the years, having my own room/privacy became extremely important to me because it was the only place where I felt calm and mentally at peace.
Now whenever I feel like I’m losing that space, I become emotionally overwhelmed very quickly. Especially because if my sister sleeps with me, my parents constantly come in and out since she’s still young and school-going, and it brings back a lot of stress from childhood. The hardest part is that my parents genuinely do not understand why privacy or personal space matters to me. To them, it’s just:
“What’s the big deal?”
“She’s your sister.”
Last year they even allowed me to see a counsellor, and the counsellor tried explaining that personal space was important for my mental wellbeing. I felt relieved finally being understood, but afterward my parents dismissed it completely. I think another painful part is seeing my younger sister’s emotions treated with much more gentleness and understanding than mine were growing up. I don’t hate my parents. They’ve also supported me in many ways, which makes this emotionally complicated for me.
Right now I’m trying to become financially independent, but until then I still have to live at home.
For women who grew up in strict or emotionally controlling homes:
I’d really appreciate hearing from women who’ve gone through something similar.
Edit: Forgot to mention — my sister had actually already started sleeping alone on her own, but now my parents suddenly feel uncomfortable/guilty seeing her sleep alone and have started pressuring me to sleep with her again even though another room is available.
22F here. I’m struggling with something at home and wanted advice from older women who may have dealt with similar family dynamics.
My parents have been pressuring me to sleep in the same room as my 10-year-old sister even though we have another room available. I love my sister deeply and this is not about her. The issue is that growing up, my home environment was very strict and emotionally stressful at times. Over the years, having my own room/privacy became extremely important to me because it was the only place where I felt calm and mentally at peace.
Now whenever I feel like I’m losing that space, I become emotionally overwhelmed very quickly. Especially because if my sister sleeps with me, my parents constantly come in and out since she’s still young and school-going, and it brings back a lot of stress from childhood. The hardest part is that my parents genuinely do not understand why privacy or personal space matters to me. To them, it’s just:
“What’s the big deal?”
“She’s your sister.”
Last year they even allowed me to see a counsellor, and the counsellor tried explaining that personal space was important for my mental wellbeing. I felt relieved finally being understood, but afterward my parents dismissed it completely. I think another painful part is seeing my younger sister’s emotions treated with much more gentleness and understanding than mine were growing up.
I don’t hate my parents. They’ve also supported me in many ways, which makes this emotionally complicated for me. Right now I’m trying to become financially independent, but until then I still have to live at home.
For women who grew up in strict or emotionally controlling homes:
I’d really appreciate hearing from women who’ve gone through something similar.
Edit: Forgot to mention — my sister had actually already started sleeping alone on her own, but now my parents suddenly feel uncomfortable/guilty seeing her sleep alone and have started pressuring me to sleep with her again even though another room is available.
I’m 22F and my younger sister is 10. There’s an 11-year age gap between us.
Recently my parents have been pushing me to sleep in the same room with her because they feel bad that she sleeps alone sometimes. The thing is — we DO have another room available in the house, so it’s not a space issue.
I want to make it clear that I love my sister deeply. She’s genuinely a sweet kid and this is not about hating her or not caring about her.
The issue is more personal to me.
Growing up, my home environment was emotionally stressful at times (strict household, yelling, family conflict, a lot of control over my life, etc). My childhood and early teen years honestly felt emotionally exhausting for me. The only time I remember feeling a bit of relief or freedom from constant pressure/control was after my sister was born because some of the focus shifted away from me. Around that time, my room slowly became my “safe space” where I could calm down and emotionally regulate. Even now, privacy and having my own space feel extremely important to me emotionally.
Last year my parents were pressuring me heavily about this too, and I somehow convinced them to let me meet a psychologist they trusted. Even the psychologist tried explaining to them why personal space/privacy was important for me mentally, and honestly I felt so relieved finally being understood for once. But afterward my parents dismissed it, joked asking me “what medicine did you give him to convince him?” and also complained that I wasted their money. I know this might sound dramatic to some people, but growing up I constantly felt anxious about being controlled, monitored, or getting scolded unexpectedly. Even now I sometimes wake up anxious hoping the day won’t begin with criticism or conflict.
The biggest issue is that if my sister sleeps with me, my parents constantly come in and out because she’s still school-going and young. And weirdly, it starts triggering old feelings and flashbacks from childhood all over again. It makes me feel emotionally trapped and overwhelmed in a way that’s hard to explain. I’m trying my best to become independent and move out eventually, but I just finished college and don’t have a job yet, so right now I’m stuck living at home.
The frustrating part is that everyone around me acts like I’m being selfish or overreacting because “she’s just your sister” and “what’s the big deal?” I genuinely feel guilty because she’s innocent in all this. But at the same time, losing the only space where I feel emotionally safe makes me feel like I’m losing my mind. I don’t hate my parents either. They’ve also done many good things for me and supported me in many ways. That’s part of why this situation feels emotionally confusing.
AITAH for not wanting to share a room/sleep with my younger sister?
TW: DV, childhood abuse
22F here. I grew up in a very strict and fear-based household. My dad had a difficult background himself, and while I understand that more as an adult now, growing up with him was still emotionally very hard for me.
He was loud, impatient, unpredictable, used physical punishment “for discipline,” and there were periods where I also witnessed domestic violence between my parents. At the same time, he also loved and cared for me in many ways, which honestly makes everything more confusing emotionally.
As a child I became very quiet and emotionally shut down because I learned that reacting, crying, or speaking up usually made things worse.
Over time things improved financially, and my dad has changed a lot compared to before. He’s calmer now and supportive in many ways. But even now, after arguments or yelling at home, I suddenly feel like a scared child again.
One thing I struggle with a lot is guilt:
What scares me the most now is how much my childhood affected my ability to feel emotionally safe.
I’m constantly afraid of ending up with someone worse than my dad or repeating unhealthy family patterns without realizing it. Sometimes I avoid emotional closeness completely because fear kicks in very quickly.
I think the hardest part is that I don’t hate my dad. I love him, and I know he changed in many ways. But my body still reacts with fear sometimes, and I don’t know how to reconcile those two things.
I guess I just wanted to ask:
Please be kind. I’m still trying to process a lot of this.
TW: DV, childhood abuse
22F here. I really want to hear from other women who grew up in homes with fear, yelling, control, or domestic violence because I feel very alone in this.
I grew up scared of my dad from as early as I can remember. He was strict, impatient, loud, unpredictable, and used physical punishment “for discipline.” I also witnessed domestic violence between my parents multiple times growing up.
The hardest part is that he also loved me. That mix of love + fear completely messes with my head even now.
As a child, I learned very quickly to stay quiet, not cry, not react, and not make things worse. I basically shut down emotionally.
When I was around 11, my younger sister was born. Around that time, I got my own room, and it became my safe place. Even today, after arguments at home, I still go there and instantly feel “shielded.” It’s like my nervous system still treats that room as protection.
Things improved financially over time, and my dad has changed a lot compared to before, but the fear never fully left me.
There were other stressful things too — moving away from friends, isolation, my sister needing therapy for speech delay/suspected autism, constant tension at home, academic pressure, control, etc. I felt overwhelmed for years.
One thing I carry a lot of guilt about:
I never consistently stood up for my mom during the DV. I wanted to, but I was scared. I was just a kid, but I still feel guilty about it.
I also feel guilty about my sister. I love her deeply, but during my teens I was emotionally overwhelmed and pushed her away sometimes. She was just a child too.
Another thing I feel horrible admitting:
My parents are much gentler and more patient with her than they were with me. Sometimes I feel jealous of the childhood she got compared to mine.
Now I’m 22, college is over, and being back home has triggered so many flashbacks. After fights or yelling, I suddenly feel like I’m a scared little kid again instead of an adult.
I also struggle a lot with trust and emotional safety because of how I grew up. I’m often afraid of becoming close to people or ending up in unhealthy dynamics, so I either avoid emotional closeness or become anxious very quickly.
What confuses me is:
I do love my dad. He’s calmer now and supports me in many ways. But my body still reacts with fear sometimes, and I don’t know how to reconcile those two things.
I guess I just want to ask women who grew up similarly:
Please be kind. I’m still trying to process all of this, and this is the first time I’ve fully written it out.
TW: DV, childhood abuse
22F here. I really want to hear from other women who grew up in homes with fear, yelling, control, or domestic violence because I feel very alone in this.
I grew up scared of my dad from as early as I can remember. He was strict, impatient, loud, unpredictable, and used physical punishment “for discipline.” I also witnessed domestic violence between my parents multiple times growing up.
The hardest part is that he also loved me. That mix of love + fear completely messes with my head even now.
As a child, I learned very quickly to stay quiet, not cry, not react, and not make things worse. I basically shut down emotionally.
When I was around 11, my younger sister was born. Around that time, I got my own room, and it became my safe place. Even today, after arguments at home, I still go there and instantly feel “shielded.” It’s like my nervous system still treats that room as protection.
Things improved financially over time, and my dad has changed a lot compared to before, but the fear never fully left me.
There were other stressful things too — moving away from friends, isolation, my sister needing therapy for speech delay/suspected autism, constant tension at home, academic pressure, control, etc. I felt overwhelmed for years.
One thing I carry a lot of guilt about:
I never consistently stood up for my mom during the DV. I wanted to, but I was scared. I was just a kid, but I still feel guilty about it.
I also feel guilty about my sister. I love her deeply, but during my teens I was emotionally overwhelmed and pushed her away sometimes. She was just a child too.
Another thing I feel horrible admitting:
My parents are much gentler and more patient with her than they were with me. Sometimes I feel jealous of the childhood she got compared to mine.
Now I’m 22, college is over, and being back home has triggered so many flashbacks. After fights or yelling, I suddenly feel like I’m a scared little kid again instead of an adult.
Relationships are hard too. I constantly fear ending up with someone like my dad, or even worse than him, so I either avoid people or panic emotionally.
What confuses me is:
I do love my dad. He’s calmer now and supports me in many ways. But my body still reacts with fear sometimes, and I don’t know how to reconcile those two things.
I guess I just want to ask women who grew up similarly:
Please be kind. I’m still trying to process all of this, and this is the first time I’ve fully written it out.