u/CapitalHoneydew7060

A friend forwarded me an article about a woman who was raped during surgery in the US and said that, as a woman, you never know during surgery whether you’ve been assaulted, only a DNA test could rule that out. I told her she was overreacting and that, of course, such cases do sadly exist, but operating rooms are regulated and almost everything is documented and staff is around. I also told her she was needlessly making herself feel guilty over something like that.

She then took offense and said I had portrayed her as crazy or paranoid - I never used those words. I apologized if my reaction came across as too harsh but I had to speak up. Total silence ever since from her

Has anyone noticed how a pwBPD tends or likes to generate attention through strangers on social media? Often, they think they are "friends" with those strangers, often immediately and never met that person irl. Just because they are in the same fandom of a celebrity or play the same online game.

They also triangulate you, vent to that online friend about any issue they have with you and tell you "X, shares my view too", "X never judged me for it" to justify their behavior. Once, pwBPD blocked me and that online friend sent me a message from BPD, like a mail carrier. I was totally furious, how PWBPD values a stranger more than a real life friend that she had known for many years.

Once, we're at a concert and pwBPD gets into a convo with a stranger that plays the same game. They spoke there for 30 mins. pwPWB was like a totally different person, bubbly, sociable and funny. They exchanged game info and hugged each other.
I had to interrupt because we would miss our number. She got mad after and said, "You're jealous that I made a new friend!" but accused me during her discard that I'm the reason she has no friends. Not even as a teenager she had any friends.

Plot twist: she belittles everyone in her life as having NPD, being toxic, even accused some of being a p** or SA and say's she has CTSPD also, her reactions are just trauma. She's just diagnosed with BPD.

Found out from a friend that my WP (he married his AP, 2 yrs in the marriage now with a baby) went bankrupt with his wannabe DIY company. He's now looking for someone to buy his brand new company car, because he realized the lease is too high compared to what he's actually earning - close to 0.

I'm so glad I left that circus. His AP thought she saved him from his toxic wife, that she got a smart and financially stable man. She's stuck as a SAHM because she has no degree and relevant professional experience. The funniest part is also, that he owes me still money and I will sue him (can't right now, long story) and many couples fight over money or broke up about it.

Did your cheating WP ever get Karma or ruined his life? if yes, how? 🤣

A date once told me he found me intimidating at first because he’s fluent in three languages and I’m fluent in six. That got me wondering… 🤔

Context to the link: Pete Davidson is known for being open about his BPD. Every relationship failed.

Just a reminder: Don't feel bad about leaving a pBPD or staying NC with them. Even if they holler at you or flying monkeys contact you, ignore them, don't react. It's just a test to check if you are still available for their cruel mind games. Remember that snakes shed their skin, but they're still a snake.

They rarely change, they just change the person. The behavior and coping mechanisms stay the same. They often become desperate when they age, realizing people are done with their games and they are left alone.

Am I delusional with the whole plan and timeline? Has anyone else experienced something similar?

Hi, everyone. His toxic parents always had an issue with me, they weren't happy that I wouldn't focus on kids but on becoming a lawyer and I had boundaries with them, didn't let them walk over me. We were sadly (can't get that time back) 6 years married.

January - March: He spent more & more time on his phone in the bathroom, deleting messages with his parents, etc., buying new, different-looking clothes, becoming rude & distant towards me, picking small fights, and saying he has "financial issues" but was always sending money to his parents that used and abused him. Putting his phone always in front of him backwards, never leaving it alone!

Suddenly he gets a new rose tattoo next to our similar tattoo that we got once together (I know). Biggest red flag. Spending a lot of money for a tattoo while complaining he has financial issues?!

April - He tells me he doesn't love me anymore, he has no feelings for ANYONE (weird wording!) and tells me he wants to divorce fast and kicks me out. I leave immediately because I never felt secure with his abusive, manipulative and narcissistic ass and go to my parents.

3 weeks later, I see on social media his affair put a picture of them up and added a love song to it that had on the cover a rose. She used to work at the same place as the mother of the guy his sister married. I believe they set them up because that guy's mother and his parents lived closely and spent time with each other. His mother spread lies in his family six months before that I was cheating on her "poor son"

It still makes me crazy that I wasn't able to get proof for his cheating, no messages or anything earlier. I got a new job back then and was exhausted and missed all the signs, he kept his phone always with him. I feel used and dumb; they did everything behind my back, and I was just served the "final result" by him discarding me for his affair