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I grew up in a non-democratic country in the gulf due to my parents work etc. I had a really peaceful childhood and was very comfortable. There was no severe poverty that I saw at least not the way I’ve seen in western countries with homelessness, youth unemployment, youth crime/violence, mental health struggles, etc. I didn’t feel like my rights were being trampled on or anything. The only thing I’d want would be better labour rights in the workplace but then again corporations are very hard to go up against even in countries with unions.

I believe that if someone wants to live a certain type of way and it doesn’t affect anyone else we need to let them be. I’m sick and tired of people believing the Western way is the only way to thrive.

I moved a while ago to a new country by myself with my own money and I’ve been adjusting and considering going home because I’m homesick and it’s been tough living alone by myself. In this time I completed my masters so there’s a graduation coming up and my mother wants to come and I wanted her to be here. Now she’s saying she will stopover to visit an uncle I really despise who has been rude to me in the past.

She doesn’t see what’s wrong and she never really sees which family are being disrespectful to me. I’ve kept my move private from them because Asian family love to talk shit and during a call with her recently I found that she’s considering visiting him and telling him why she’s traveling and then coming over to see me.

Not only will the whole family find out through him but they will all talk about it and be shitty if I return home this year or next year. I had a whole fight with her about this…..

It’s just the lack of respect towards my wishes.

I had a dream that I was chased by an assassin who was coming to kill me. Apparently it was a woman. On top of that my dad who passed away was in the dream he was with me traveling g telling me what to do in my career and where to apply.

I just finished a masters program. I’m also moving soon. Maybe it’s connected to the dream? What does it mean?

I am an international student in New Zealand completing an Early Childhood Education qualification. I have passed all of my courses and am due to graduate in August. I have a meeting scheduled with my practicum lead this week to discuss feedback about a practicum placement, and I am looking for advice on whether providing that feedback could create any legal or professional issues for me.

During the final weeks of my practicum at an ECE centre, there were several incidents that left me uncomfortable.

The main incident occurred when I was walking with two young children while holding their hands. The centre owner, whom I had only seen once previously during the placement, approached and began speaking loudly and angrily about how I was holding the children's hands and stated that it was dangerous and not how things were done at the centre. I immediately let go of the children's hands and attempted to explain the situation, but he continued speaking over me and then walked away without asking any questions or seeking further information. Later that day, the centre manager told me that she had "calmed him down" and suggested that I forget about the incident.

What I found unusual was that there was no follow-up discussion, no investigation into whether a child had actually been harmed, and no further communication with me about the matter.

There were also other incidents during the practicum that I felt were unprofessional. Student teachers were regularly asked to perform non-teaching tasks, including extensive cleaning and preparation work. On one occasion, after I had spent over an hour washing dishes, the centre manager made comments to other staff suggesting that younger people were not used to domestic work. On another occasion, I heard comments that men were not good at chores or multitasking and that young girls were also "useless." While these remarks may have been intended as jokes, I found them inappropriate in a professional environment.

I completed the practicum successfully and did not raise formal concerns at the time because I wanted to finish the placement and pass my assessment. Now that I have completed all course requirements and am approaching graduation, I am considering providing feedback to my university about my experience.

My questions are:

1. As a student who has already passed the practicum and completed the qualification requirements, is there any realistic legal or professional risk in providing factual feedback about my experience?
2. Is it generally better to provide feedback verbally or in writing?
3. Should I focus only on incidents that I personally witnessed and experienced?
4. Would it be sensible to attend the meeting with my practicum lead and discuss the issues, or is there any reason to avoid doing so?
5. Are there any defamation or other legal concerns if I provide an honest and factual account of events that I personally experienced?

I am not looking to make accusations or seek compensation. I simply want to know the safest and most professional way to provide feedback about a placement after it has ended.

Location: New Zealand

Sooooooo I finished my masters this week (yay) and I gained around 15 lbs during this program. And my graduation is in August so I’m currently 80kgs 5’6 late 20s and want to be somewhere below the overweight BMI by August first week. How realistic is it? I’ve heard of an 800 calorie diet but I’m exhausted from my thesis work and don’t want to be sick. Has anyone tried Michael Moseleys 800 calories fast diet method?

There are jeans that don’t fully fit now and I’m so sad about that. So I’ll have to buy a new dress and some new clothes or rapidly lose weight.

Can someone offer advice. I used to be pretty slim before so I’m quite sad about this situation.

I’m finishing my masters degree next month. Well the graduation is next month I already finished it this month. I have one presentation and then I’m done this week. I did this as a career change and honestly I went through so much doing this degree. So many tears but I finished it! I can’t believe I finished it! I remember telling you about this and you said I should do it. Before my first semester you passed away.

I wish you could come see me graduate. I wish you could give me a hug. I wish so many things were different. I miss you so much. ❤️

I felt extremely mistreated and exploited during my placement. I finished my placement last week and will be graduating later this year. I want my university to know how I was spoken to and treated. Is it wise to give honest feedback?

I am currently working somewhere there are a lot of violations. I want to fill out a survey where we can give feedback honestly. Is there a way I can do that without it backfiring? I have had experiences in the past where it has backfired. Should I hold my tongue?

I entered ECE because I love children and enjoy caring for them. Anyway 2 years into this job coming from corporate because that was souless, I have caught every single cold, throat virus there is and it's always a virus so I get prescribed nothing. Two weeks ago we had an outbreak at the centre of HFMD and nearly everyone in our room of 23 caught it and we were open. I had a high fever and stomach ache and sinus pain suddenly last sunday and by Monday had spots on my hands and feet. So far nothing in the mouth and I see it's fading but my sinus pain is still there and I felt quite rotten.

I never had this as a kid and i'm very dissapointed that we kept being exposed to the virus. There were kids who were clearly showing spots who were not sent home because the parents couldn't come to get them and they had nap time with everyone else and of course 2-3 more kids were sick the next day. It is spreading to the parents and the siblings of these children still. I am so upset. I used to have ulcers in my mouth as a kid and I was terrified of getting those so hopefully now by day 5-6 if it hasn't happened it doesn't.

I'm still recovering but I hated the handling of the whole thing. It was like our lives didn't matter at all. Disclaimer I'm not in the US - I'm in NZ

I’m currently getting certified but I honestly may leave this profession and go back to what I was doing before. Nothing has made me more anti natalist than teaching.

Any other educators here?

I dreamt that I got a call and when I looked at my phone I couldnt answer it or see who it was but there was this sense of urgency. I started running towards what looks like my current accomodation and then entered a building and the elevator doors opened and my parents were there both my mom and my dad (who passed a year ago) and they looked annoyed like they were waiting for me for a while. Then we went up in the elevator and I woke up....It felt super real like he was alive.

I moved to NZ a year ago and I’ll be renewing my visa for 3 years. So far I’ve not enjoyed my choice of work. I chose to do a program in early childhood teaching and I’m hating the placement. It has involved very exploitative work such as dishwashing, cleaning and generally being mistreated overall. I used to work in an office role in Dubai (grew up there and all) and it was better. But going back there all things considered with global events might be dicey.

The cons are you never really become a citizen of the UAE but you can live and work there and retire elsewhere. I know people on Reddit have strong negative opinions on that place and love NZ/Aus but due to my situation I cannot fathom being trapped here doing this work.

I’m about to be 30 soon next year and want a busier place that’s more vibrant and active and NZ wasn’t that. I didn’t expect it to be but I really didn’t anticipate it to be this quiet.

Basically what’s the best way to make this decision?

I work with kids and do a lot of standing, bending and lifting (preschool) a few weeks ago I noticed my knee getting tight and stiff. I also noticed that I have knee pain on the outside and the top and recently it got kinda swollen on the top of the knee the place where the thigh is and when I fold the knee and notice that it stiffens. I started wearing a brace and it has helped a lot and the pain has gone but the swelling is still there a bit. It's my first time with knee pain.

I'm 29 F and I know I'm young but I've been single for a while figuring out my career, completing grad school, and figuring out if I want to continue living where I am or move etc. I only have to factor in my job and expenses. I don't have to think about a spouses career or a kids school term. Now at my age some people who are older lol say oh I hope you find someone great, you'll get someone soon etc. I used to say actuallt I'm not looking lol but now I just nod and smile and it stops the topic from becoming heated.

But, not a single one of the 40+ year olds are having a grand time. They have teenagers who hate them, they hate or despise their spouse and complain about them to ME. They hate the expenses they have for everything and if they're divorced with kids oh darling that's an entire rant on it's own based on when you meet them. Then some people also have the burden of aging parents so they look to me and say well it's coming etc and I already lost my dad to cancer. I kinda know that sucks but forcing people into married life isn't really the solution. I've never dreamt of being someones wife really. I wanted kids but that's looking like a big commitment as it is...

Anyway when I hear them talk in the break room I secretly am thrilled I can go home and take a nap lol.

It’s the fear of having a special needs kid. There are so many issues with that because what will they do when you’re dead? How will they look after themselves when you’re old? Will they get bullied at school? Will they become susceptible towards crime or being taken advantage of?

As a kindergarten teacher I have two non verbal boys who not only don’t play with others but also don’t get invited by literal 5 year olds to go on the slide or anything. They sit in a corner and play alone. They don’t speak (not because of shyness) they don’t make eye contact. One of them doesn’t greet their parents. I do strongly believe they should be in a different school where they get social attention.

One of the boys mother is having her second and another is one of 5 babies. I cannot imagine not stopping g after this happens. I wouldn’t trust that it won’t happen again. It’s concerning asf.

I don’t believe I could love a child like that… maybe I could love them but I’d be very disappointed they won’t play or interact with me. As a teacher we are constantly trying to ensure they don’t hurt themselves. They also bite and kick and scratch other kids and us. It’s just not something I want to spend my remaining life ( I’ve not had an easy one doing.