My loctician said it would take 10 years for my hair to loc
▲ 139 r/locs

My loctician said it would take 10 years for my hair to loc

I started my locs a little over a year ago. I'm super happy with them and love how they're developing. At my last retwist, my loctician told me it will take ten years for my hair to fully loc. I know my hair isn't fully loc'd yet, but ten years is much more than I was thinking. I was thinking about three. My loctician is great, won multiple awards for their work, so I trust them, but this just took me by surprise. How long did it take your hair to fully loc? Photo is my hair right now.

u/ChaoticXGoth — 4 days ago

Shocks and Struts off Ebay

I need to get shocks and struts for my car, a 2005 Nissan Altima SE 3.5L. I found these on Ebay and wanted to make sure this was the correct thing to get. Ebay says they'll fit, but I want to make sure i buy the correct things.

u/ChaoticXGoth — 13 days ago

Google form in response to recent HRL post

After reading the recent post about how Guy Sanders responded to a student regarding serious issues with Tower Village, I made a Google form to collect the experiences of students with not just Guy Sanders, but the living experience in residence halls. My goal is to share this with not just the school administration, but outside groups to raise awareness to the living conditions and force action from HRL and the UNCG administration as a whole. If you can, please share and fill out the form. Hopefully this helps end the multiple issues with residence halls and HRL

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 21 days ago

How would you describe my style?

I always have a hard time trying to figure out what style I like. I'm non binary, but leaning female. I usually just say afro goth, but I can never narrow it down in my head enough to know what to look up when shopping. What would you call my style?

u/ChaoticXGoth — 27 days ago

Working with the triple goddess

I've been working with Hekate for a while now, but I keep getting dreams and messages that seem to suggest that other deities may be reaching out. I believe that Hekate is speaking to me, but other female deities are there. I suspect one may be Selene as the most recent dream I had I kept saying Salena which from what I could find means moon goddess in Greek. I'm feeling drawn to the idea of the triple moon goddess, but I'm unsure how exactly to work and practice since it's not 1 deity, but 3 and I'm not sure which 3. Any suggestions on where to begin?

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 28 days ago
▲ 4 r/Hecate

What color does Hekate appear in for you?

I've had a few occurrences of "seeing Hekate". When I first reached out to her, she appeared as a woman in a red cloak and dress with a torch and a black dog. About a month ago, I went through a really rough patch and ended up breaking down and calling out to her and when I went out of my room, my entire house had a blue glow. I went to my bathroom and saw a woman's face wrapped in a blue head dress who promised to protect me. From what I know, she's associated with red, but when i asked my tarot if it was her, she said yes. What color does she appear to you in?

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 1 month ago

Not sure about how to go about ear piercing set up

I've wanted to get a ear set up for a while, but I feel like my inner ear shape may make it difficult. It just seems very awkward to pierce. I'm not sure how they would fit comfortably. The main ones I wanted were a helix and/or industrial, upper lobe, daith, rook, and conch. I'm not even sure some of these are possible with my ear shape or would look good. Wanted to get some other opinions on it. Photos labeled of which ear is which.

u/ChaoticXGoth — 1 month ago

Information I could find on North Carolina Connects

I saw the North Carolina Connects ad last night in support of data centers in North Carolina and decided to look into them.

From what I could find, it sems very shady. Their website is minimal and sites facts mainly from one report on the impact on data centers in the United States from 2023-2024. The information is practically copied and pasted into their website, with some lines actually being copied and pasted.

Decided to look for anything about them and found a Facebook page created on June 16 of this year owned by a company called Creative Direct LLC.

Looked up Creative Direct LLC, and they advertise as political consultants. However, they seem to only work with rebulican canidates. A map on their homepage shows that they claim to have helped elect rebulicans in Presidential, Governor, Senate, Congress, State Senate, and State House positions in North Carolina.

I looked into their spending, and based on data from Open Secrets.org, they were the numer one donor to the Rebulican Party of North Carolina in 2024, donating $6,806,244.

I'll be fact-checking their claims on their website as well. Based on the report they used, most of it is true, however; they left out in their claim of "Generate more than $1.39 billion in state and local tax revenue–enough to fund nearly half of North Carolina’s education services" (that was copied and pasted from the report) the rest of the sentance that says "[... ]other than elementary, secondary, and higher education, based on the latest available government spending data (2023)." I'll be looking at other reports from that time and seeing if they back up their claims as well since it seems very one-sided.

For now, don't trust the ad. It's coming from a political advertisement company trying to push a narrative based on one report. Links to my sources below.

North Carolina Connects Website:

https://northcarolinaconnects.com

North Carolina Connects Facebook Page:

https://www.facebook.com/northcarolinaconnects/

Report Used by North Carolina Connects(PDF also accesable by clicking on their data) https://static1.squarespace.com/static/63a4849eab1c756a1d3e97b1/t/6a04986aac382850dcd9d637/1778686058456/Data+Center+Economic+Contribution+Study+2026\_Final.pdf

Creative Direct Website:

https://creativedirect.net

Creative Direct Open Secrets Page: https://www.opensecrets.org/campaign-expenditures/vendor?cycle=2004&vendor=Creative+Direct

Rebulican Party of North Carolina Open Secrets Page-

https://www.opensecrets.org/political-action-committees-pacs/republican-party-of-north-carolina/C00038505/expenditures/2024#vendors

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 1 month ago
▲ 2 r/Depop

Even with lower shipping cost Depop shipping still raises prices too much

I found a really cute ear wrap for a great price. Got a offer from a seller for $2.25 USD. I'm going to buy it and with shipping, taxes and fees it's now $5.42 USD. Now this is not at all a bad price, but a jump in cost over $3 from mainly shipping? For a ear wrap? When I sold on mercari, something like this could qualify for .49 cent shipping. It just seems kinda wild. As a seller, now that free shipping has ended, sales have been extremely slow. If my prices for things that are marked at the lowest shipping are going up a extra $3 USD at checkout, I can see why. The lower shipping is still a improvement, but still have a long way to go to getting to a decent cost.

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 1 month ago
▲ 13 r/cults

Was my childhood church a cult? Everyone I speak about it to says yes

I grew up in the United States in North Carolina. The church I grew up in is national and does a lot of work around the world. A main place is Kenya where they helped build a church/school. I grew up and attended for most of my life and still occasionally go when my mom asks me to ride with her since she's nervous driving alone. What first made me suspicious was another girl who grew up in the church mentioning she found articles where the church was referred to as a cult. I found one that went into detail. It included names of people I had personally knew. I brought this up to my mom and she said she was aware of the accusations back when she joined in the 90's. I left it alone for a while after that.

Fast forward a few years, I'm in college and have distanced myself from the church. I'm speaking to my partner at the time and they keep saying how it sounds like a cult. Over the past few days I've brought up my concerns more and more with my mom, and she ignores and dismisses it. She says that all those things were proven false, that people admitted to lying and making up stuff because of fear. I told her if a lot of people are saying it at multiple locations, then there may be some truth to it.

What really makes me uncomfortable and see it as a cult is my moms mindset. She has no independence or self value, instead everything is tied to God. She doesn't take credit for anything she accomplishes, if anything good happens to her it's because of God. She told me today that she was looking at herself in the mirror and seeing different things that bothered her. She had multiple surgeries last year so she had scars that makes her self conscious. She said she prayed for God to make her see herself as beautiful and now she feels beautiful. This rubbed me the wrong way. I asked her why she can't feel beautiful to herself and why she needs to rely on God to feel that way. Her response is that all things good come from God and that she feels beautiful because God allowed her to. She says other similar things to my questions like why she can't accept that she plays a role in her own accomplishments. She has a good job and always says she doesn't know what to do or how she does anything there and that it's all because God allows her too. Keep in mind she's been there for 5+ years and has gone through multiple trainings and has received praise from various higher ups and coworkers. She takes no credit for it. I encouraged her to speak to her therapist about her reliance on God for so many things and she laughed it off.

A few things have happened over the years that made me suspicious of the church. A couple are

  1. They don't refer to themselves as Christians, but disciples

  2. They don't speak on encourage any research of the Bible and changes/edits that have been made. My mother a follower since the 90's didn't even know the Bible had edits and changes made and denied it and still does even after I googled it and gave her a example of a translation that may have been incorrect

  3. A speaker they had made the claim that the Bible had no edits or changes and was the exact same as when it had been written, no one questioned it

There are others, but these are a few that set me off over the years. I've somewhat accepted my mom won't change, but it makes me upset. Her words to me when I told her my concerns and lack of interest in becoming a discipline was that "every knee will bow one day." Am I overthinking or are these genuine concerns?

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 3 months ago

Career suggestions for English major

I am a rising senior in college and I'm researching possible positions within a law firm that I could apply my English and African American studies degree. I would be looking for a position that doesn't require attending law school. I was looking at positions such as being a paralegal, librarian, or copywriter. Would these be a good choice? Any other recommendations? Any advice is welcomed.

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u/ChaoticXGoth — 3 months ago