u/Character_Force3570

Hi everyone. Ever since I was a child, I've had a tendency to scream or yell at the top of my lungs whenever I feel trapped, cornered, or pressured.

I actually remember how this behavior developed. I'm naturally a very calm person. I love having gentle conversations, connecting with people, and communicating peacefully. I was the same way as a child, too. However, I grew up in a controlling and oppressive family environment, and over time, I learned to react this way when I felt pressured or overwhelmed.

As I got older and became better at expressing myself verbally, I gradually learned to communicate my feelings with words instead of reacting this way. For a long time, I thought I had mostly overcome this pattern. But recently, something happened that triggered me, and I found myself screaming again.

What upsets me the most is the disconnect between the person I am in everyday life and the way I react in those moments. Normally, I'm calm and enjoy peaceful communication. But when I feel cornered, it's as if all my ability to communicate disappears, and I revert to a reaction I developed as a child.

I've been reading about EMDR and how it can help people process distressing past experiences and their effects on present-day reactions. I suspect this response may be a learned survival mechanism from my childhood.

I'd really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences:

• Has anyone experienced something similar and managed to overcome it?
• Can EMDR help reduce automatic reactions like screaming or yelling when triggered?
• Is it possible to work through the underlying childhood experiences and change these deeply ingrained responses?
• Is it safe or effective to try EMDR on my own, or is it something that should only be done with a trained therapist?
• Are there any techniques I can practice to help myself stay calm and communicate when I feel pressured or trapped?

My goal isn't simply to suppress my screaming. I want to be able to stay grounded, express myself, and feel safe even when I'm under pressure. I want to understand this childhood pattern and stop feeling like I'm losing control whenever something triggers it.

I'd especially love to hear from anyone who has gone through EMDR or found other approaches helpful for similar reactions.

Thank you for reading. ❤️

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