u/CharizardOfFury

They literally threatened to kidnap me if I tried leaving and I can’t find anyone else because of my appearance since they disfigured me

Oh, a group of 4B activists harassed a trans woman into dropping out of an all-women’s university? Don’t be ridiculous sweaty, they weren’t real feminists

What’s that? A prominent feminist activist made a novel attacking trans people? Well don’t worry sweaty, even though she actually did tons of activist work in championing women’s rights, she’s not practicing real feminism

Oh there was an entire all-women’s music festival that existed for 40 years that actively excluded and harassed trans women? Well, clearly they were never doing this with feminist intentions!

/uj I’m genuinely so tired of people using the “No true Scotsman” fallacy as a defense against the VERY REAL and troubling trend of transphobia in feminist spaces. Like, is it really so hard to believe that an ideology often misused for sowing gender divisions could be warped by bigoted people into an excuse to lash out at more marginalized groups? The only thing denying the transphobia in feminist spaces does is allow these spaces to never have to confront their own bigotry by pretending that all of the bad actors are disingenuous, even though, if I may be brutally honest, a lot of them aren’t. Like, Michfest was a real thing, a music festival that harassed trans women and embraced terf ideology, and we are only a decade removed from it, which isn’t a lot in the grand scheme. I just don’t buy that every single terf was secretly some grand bigot grifting off feminism for decades ghetsis-style, especially when most of them lash out at us from a place of trauma.

For context, in an episode of Family Guy, it’s explained that the reason why the family uses Meg as their punching bag is because she’s the “lightning rod” for their anger, and that if she ever stood up for herself, the family would fall apart.

Genuinely, I feel like the reason why TERF ideology is on a rapid rise is because cis women who are traumatized lash out against us because we are easy targets for their pent up anger. They don’t see us as women, but as our AGAB, and because of that association, they essentially use us as a punching bag for all the frustration, hatred and resentment they harbor towards cis men. To use another cartoon comparison, there’s an episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog where a cat hates dogs because of her trauma from a dog abusing her friend, but she takes it out on Courage, who’s done nothing wrong, simply because she’s afraid to fight back against the root cause of her problems. That’s essentially what’s going on with cis women, they’re lashing out at us en masse in response to the increasing amounts of grievances they have with cis men because we make for an easy target that they won’t be punished for hurting.

This by no means excuses their bigoted behavior, but it does really explain a lot about why cis women are so actively hostile towards us, and why they often exclude us from their spaces. And unfortunately, there really is nothing that can be done about it. As long as cis men continue to exist and act the way they do now, we will be caught in the crosshairs of traumatized people lashing out at us as a coping mechanism. Really, the only thing I can do about this is to distance myself from spaces primarily dominated by cis women so I’m not caught in the crossfire of it all, because at this point I feel like peaceful coexistence is impossible.

I will NEVER fuck you because you were born with an evil scary y chromosome that makes you the most dangerous animal in the world with your gross smelly rapestick

Your rapestick on your gross fat chromosomal chimera body makes you fundamentally incompatible with me and no matter what you do you will always have one so I will always reject you sweaty. Your excessive bulk and mass makes me viscerally triggered and disgusted because you’re a jabba hutt who could potentially use your greater weight to overpower and rape me. What’s that? You’re only such a bulging bulky monster because you stress ate to cope with your abusive parents and had to go on antidepressants as a teen? Well maybe you should have run away and become homeless sweaty then you’d be nice and thin like a real lesbian

Oh? You say you only have a gross chromosomal chimera body because you’re too poor to have surgery? Well even if you did get surgery it wouldn’t be a REAL beautiful pure vagina sweaty

You are fundamentally disgusting and your body makea me want to throw up because of how inherently mannish it is, how hairy, fat, wide, bulging and bulky it is. Your mannish body inherently activates my fight or flight response because it’s triggering my primal instinctual fear, so that gives me the right to demean and exclude you from any space intended for REAL women, because you’ll never be a real woman, just a half-way half-formed Quasimodo, like if the little mermaid had her transformation stopped halfway and her tail became some freaky leg-fishtail monstrosity that pleases nobody, like the starbucks logo. Sorry sweaty, maybe you should have thought about how inherently triggering species with a y chromosome are before you transitioned because you will never be a real lesbian

/uj Should I be concerned that I have multiple voices in my head that talk exactly like this 24/7 and they’re keeping me trapped in a relationship that is making me miserable

I genuinely don’t feel safe dating anymore so I can’t really find someone else