u/Charlottegirlxo

Je suis une femme trans originaire du Royaume-Uni et je viens de passer du temps à Paris et à Marseille. L'une des principales raisons de mon voyage était que j'apprends le français, et j'ai donc également suivi un cours de français à Marseille.

Je voulais partager mon expérience et demander si d'autres personnes trans ou expatriées ont vécu quelque chose de similaire en France, car cela m'a vraiment surprise.

Malheureusement, ce voyage a été l'un des plus difficiles que j'aie faits.

À plusieurs reprises, aussi bien à Paris qu'à Marseille, j'ai entendu, le plus souvent de la part de jeunes filles ou de femmes d'âge moyen, des remarques comme « c'est un homme » lorsque je passais, accompagnées de rires. J'ai aussi reçu beaucoup de regards insistants et désapprobateurs. Cela est arrivé suffisamment souvent pour que je devienne anxieuse à l'idée de sortir, au point de rester chez moi en dehors de mon cours de français.

Je mesure 1,80 m et je ne m'attends pas à ce que tout le monde pense que je suis une femme cisgenre. Ce qui m'a le plus choquée, ce n'était pas forcément d'être perçue comme trans, mais le fait que des gens semblent si à l'aise pour faire des commentaires à voix haute en me voyant passer.

On dit souvent que le Royaume-Uni est un pays difficile pour les personnes trans, mais, personnellement, mon expérience y a été bien meilleure que celle que j'ai eue en France. Au Royaume-Uni, j'ai déjà vécu des expériences négatives, mais elles sont généralement beaucoup plus discrètes. En France, cela m'a semblé beaucoup plus ouvert et assumé.

Je suis sincèrement curieuse de savoir si j'ai simplement eu énormément de malchance ou si d'autres personnes trans ou expatriées ont vécu quelque chose de similaire en France.

Pour information, j'ai des photos de moi dans certaines de mes publications récentes sur Reddit, si cela peut aider à comprendre à quoi je ressemble.

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i’m a trans woman from the UK and have just spent time in both Paris and Marseille. One of the main reasons for my trip was that I’m learning French, so I also attended a French language course in Marseille while I was there.

I wanted to share my experience and ask whether this is something other trans people or expats have experienced in France, because it honestly surprised me.

Unfortunately, this ended up being one of the most difficult trips I’ve had.

On multiple occasions, usually from girls or middle-aged women, I heard comments like “c’est un homme” as I walked past and people laughing. I also received a lot of obvious stares and dirty looks. It happened often enough that I became anxious about going out and i stayed home apart from the course.

I know I’m 5’11” / 180cm and I don’t expect everyone to assume I’m a cis woman. What really shocked me wasn’t necessarily being clocked—it was how comfortable people seemed to be openly commenting on me as I walked past.

People often describe the UK as a difficult place to be trans, but my experience has honestly been much better than what I experienced in France. In the UK I’ve had negative experiences, but they’re usually much more subtle. In France it felt much more open and brazen.

I’m genuinely curious whether I was just incredibly unlucky, or whether other trans people or expats have experienced something similar in France.

For context, I have photos of myself in some of my recent Reddit posts if that helps.

Je suis une femme trans originaire du Royaume-Uni et je viens de passer du temps à Paris et à Marseille. L'une des principales raisons de mon voyage était que j'apprends le français, et j'ai donc également suivi un cours de français à Marseille.

Je voulais partager mon expérience et demander si d'autres personnes trans ou expatriées ont vécu quelque chose de similaire en France, car cela m'a vraiment surprise.

Malheureusement, ce voyage a été l'un des plus difficiles que j'aie faits.

À plusieurs reprises, aussi bien à Paris qu'à Marseille, j'ai entendu, le plus souvent de la part de jeunes filles ou de femmes d'âge moyen, des remarques comme « c'est un homme » lorsque je passais, accompagnées de rires. J'ai aussi reçu beaucoup de regards insistants et désapprobateurs. Cela est arrivé suffisamment souvent pour que je devienne anxieuse à l'idée de sortir, au point de rester chez moi en dehors de mon cours de français.

Je mesure 1,80 m et je ne m'attends pas à ce que tout le monde pense que je suis une femme cisgenre. Ce qui m'a le plus choquée, ce n'était pas forcément d'être perçue comme trans, mais le fait que des gens semblent si à l'aise pour faire des commentaires à voix haute en me voyant passer.

On dit souvent que le Royaume-Uni est un pays difficile pour les personnes trans, mais, personnellement, mon expérience y a été bien meilleure que celle que j'ai eue en France. Au Royaume-Uni, j'ai déjà vécu des expériences négatives, mais elles sont généralement beaucoup plus discrètes. En France, cela m'a semblé beaucoup plus ouvert et assumé.

Je suis sincèrement curieuse de savoir si j'ai simplement eu énormément de malchance ou si d'autres personnes trans ou expatriées ont vécu quelque chose de similaire en France.

Pour information, j'ai des photos de moi dans certaines de mes publications récentes sur Reddit, si cela peut aider à comprendre à quoi je ressemble.

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i’m a trans woman from the UK and have just spent time in both Paris and Marseille. One of the main reasons for my trip was that I’m learning French, so I also attended a French language course in Marseille while I was there.

I wanted to share my experience and ask whether this is something other trans people or expats have experienced in France, because it honestly surprised me.

Unfortunately, this ended up being one of the most difficult trips I’ve had.

On multiple occasions, usually from girls or middle-aged women, I heard comments like “c’est un homme” as I walked past and people laughing. I also received a lot of obvious stares and dirty looks. It happened often enough that I became anxious about going out and i stayed home apart from the course.

I know I’m 5’11” / 180cm and I don’t expect everyone to assume I’m a cis woman. What really shocked me wasn’t necessarily being clocked—it was how comfortable people seemed to be openly commenting on me as I walked past.

People often describe the UK as a difficult place to be trans, but my experience has honestly been much better than what I experienced in France. In the UK I’ve had negative experiences, but they’re usually much more subtle. In France it felt much more open and brazen.

I’m genuinely curious whether I was just incredibly unlucky, or whether other trans people or expats have experienced something similar in France.

For context, I have photos of myself in some of my recent Reddit posts if that helps.

I’m honestly exhausted.

Over the last few days in Paris I’ve been referred to as “a man” multiple times by strangers, including being called “sir” twice.

Today I heard a girl say to her boyfriend twice, “it’s a man.” I stopped and asked if she was talking about me, and she replied, “No, sir.” Does someone in a flowery dress look like they want to be called sir??

I genuinely don’t know what else to do. Yesterday I thought maybe it was because I was wearing a more fitted top that emphasised my height and broad frame (I’m 5’11”), so today I made a conscious effort to dress in a way I thought would help. It didn’t seem to make any difference.

I’m at the point where I dread leaving the house because it feels like this happens wherever I go. Part of me is wondering whether I should just start boymoding in public again while continuing HRT and saving for further surgeries.

Any advice?

I’m honestly exhausted.

Over the last few days in Paris I’ve been referred to as “a man” multiple times by strangers, including being called “sir” twice.

Today I heard a girl say to her boyfriend twice, “it’s a man.” I stopped and asked if she was talking about me, and she replied, “No, sir.” Does someone in a flowery dress look like they want to be called sir??

I genuinely don’t know what else to do. Yesterday I thought maybe it was because I was wearing a more fitted top that emphasised my height and broad frame (I’m 5’11”), so today I made a conscious effort to dress in a way I thought would help. It didn’t seem to make any difference.

I’m at the point where I dread leaving the house because it feels like this happens wherever I go. Part of me is wondering whether I should just start boymoding in public again while continuing HRT and saving for further surgeries.

can anyone relate and how do you deal with this?

Hi all

I was wondering if you know if any social groups for meeting other theatre lovers in London?

I was looking at making a group on Meetup.com earlier as I’m really looking to meet some like minded friends in London but it costs like £40 a month to host a group on there!!

Thanks
Charlotte

Hi

I’m a trans woman who has had FFS and I still get frequently clocked. I’m 5’11 and been clocked multiple times the last few weeks.

Today had a group of school kids “that’s a man” and was called sir quite a few times while on holiday, and people looking at me or telling people in their group that I’m a man.

It makes me much more reserved in social situations and makes me not want to put myself out of my comfort zone due to fear of being misgendered.

How do you cope with it?

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Hi

I’m a trans woman who has had FFS and I still get frequently clocked. I’m 5’11 and been clocked multiple times the last few weeks.

Today had a group of school kids “that’s a man” and was called sir quite a few times while on holiday, and people looking at me or telling people in their group that I’m a man.

It makes me much more reserved in social situations and makes me not want to put myself out of my comfort zone due to fear of being misgendered.

How do you cope with it?

X