u/Chayabiscuit

My friend texted that he is moving out of the country ,shared flight tickets and some message.

The moment I saw those messages, my mind immediately shifted back to something that happened 9 months ago with my narcissistic ex.I still don't know how i managed to overcome. But gladly i did.

Ik him for 10 years where last 4 yr was relationship. Toward the end, the relationship became emotionally exhausting and unhealthy, so I broke up with him. After 6 months he came back and said he was moving to abroad, so he asked a chance to sort things out. Before he depart , he started saying things like “we are not compatible to each other,” “even if we marry we’ll divorce thats how mentioned in our birth charts as he checked ” etc. I was at the denial moment and idk what was going on, because he made a emotional manipulation by sending his tickets and progresses.

After these conversations, he directly asked if we could sleep together "once" before he move, I already felt i have wasted my time of 5 years where i lost my money also now he planned to ruin me physically and he dint felt wrong to ask that. I was shocked and deeply hurt, it made me question whether the entire relationship had lost meaning for him long before it ended.

I also had a strong intuition that he was looking to date a woman over there and wanted a different life abroad, and eventually I trusted my instinct . After that I completely ended things. Even after the breakup, he kept breaking boundaries and still now contacting me repeatedly sending mails with give me a chance let me talk once. But i have decided that I can't be victim for his toxic ignorance.

I am still overcoming and healing ,but in this process i felt i lost myself. But still some part of me feel i don't deserve this , in this mean time my family seems okay even for love marriage and they even asked me directly And i just laughed, dk what to react.

TLDR: My friend moving abroad unexpectedly triggered painful memories of my narcissistic ex of 10 years. After reconnecting before leaving the country, my ex emotionally manipulated me, told me we were “incompatible,” then asked to sleep together “once” before he moved abroad. I realized he wanted emotional access without genuine commitment and was likely looking forward to a new life with someone else there. Even after the breakup he kept breaking boundaries and contacting me still now. I’m healing now, but the experience made me feel like I lost parts of myself in the process.

A close friend texted me today saying he’s moving out of the country for work. He sent his flight tickets.

The moment I saw those messages, my mind immediately shifted back to something that happened 9 months ago with my narcissistic ex.

We were together for 5 years. Toward the end, the relationship became emotionally exhausting and unhealthy, so I broke up with him. After 6 months, he said he was moving to abroad, so he asked a chance to sort things out. Before he depart, he started saying things like “we are not compatible for each other,” “even if we marry we’ll divorce,” etc. I was at the denial moment and idk what was going on.

After these conversations, he directly asked if we could sleep together "once" before he left. No emotional conversation, no respect for the breakup, just like that he asked . I remember feeling shocked and deeply hurt because it made me question whether the entire relationship had lost meaning for him long before it ended.

I also had a strong intuition that he was already emotionally looking elsewhere like to foreign woman and wanted a different life abroad, and eventually I trusted my instincts . After that I completely ended things. Even after the breakup, he kept breaking boundaries and contacting me repeatedly sending mails with give me a chance let me talk once. I can't be victim for his toxic ignorance.

Today’s message from my friend unexpectedly brought all of that back. I know logically these are two completely different people and situations, but emotionally my brain connected “someone leaving the country” with that painful period of my life.

I was texting to my friend where he shared his flight tickets and some words before he leaving this country. I was frozen and i have started to think where the same situation happened last year , narcissistic ex tried to hoover me with his flight tickets and melting words , made emotional manipulation. GLAD, i knew his game before and i got rid of him in my life.

But, i felt incredibly proud of myself of how i overcome and i have to say WE ARE THE STRONGEST INDIVIDUALS who are fighting against these demons. WE got this!!!

And I feel very sad for the version of us we used to be when our inner child felt safe, pure, and saw good in everyone because we didn’t even know people like narcissists exist.

me and my ex who have same dk- as mercury (retro for both) even after breakup of a year back ,still he contacts me where unfortunately , i mostly avoid but sometime i will put in that situation to call him /responding him which only happens on Wednesday. today it happened may be its 3+ time. I have involved myself in spirituality much but still don't know this pattern is repeating again and again.. is there any unsolved thing which drags me into this loop ?but i was clear i ended already i don't have bits and pieces

I was in a 4-year relationship with my ex and broke up with him on Jan 2025. Since then (1.5 years now), he has repeatedly contacted me through different phone numbers, (both official and personal) emails, and indirect methods even after being blocked multiple times.

I went on complete NC for the past 5 months. Recently, he even approached my cousin sister after she clearly told him not to contact me again.

I also tried handling this privately through family involvement, but he apparently said he doesn’t care about his family’s opinion or intervention regarding this situation.

At this point, I feel mentally exhausted and honestly anxious whenever new mails or unknown numbers appear. I’m considering sending a formal email to his PhD professor/university explaining the repeated unwanted contact and harassment, mainly because softer approaches haven’t worked.

And also i fear when he is returning our hometown, i feel he bug me and even i fear he will knock my door again.

I am using benzyol peroxide 2.5% and clindamycin niacinamide suggested by dermat.

I need a facewash which doesnt have much active in budget friendly and moistruiser for T-zone oily acne prone skin. Need suggestions, TIA 🫶🏽

I have completed in 2022 my bachelors in civil but I don’t have any knowledge or interest in pursuing core, as I wanted to chose maths background but I wasn’t allowed. I was selected in top Indian mnc as SE role but they dint call me for 2 years due to covid. In this gap, I joined as data analyst - operations in a Mnc where it was good salary but I wasn’t satisfied with myself doing the job just for money. so I quitted without job offer, as I was planned to do MBA in sustainability(I was genuinely interested and curious) even though I got a seat but the course was newly introduced in that uni and I was bit scared to take a risk. By self learning, I gained knowledge and did certifications on ESG, LCA, GHG accounting. With this I got a job but as intern in Delhi another financial services mnc ,but I wasn’t allowed to go. After a month I regretted much I couldn’t able to swallow this. After 8 months again I joined an environmental service - startup where it was not upto my expectation but I joined out of fear, but after some months I was treated badly and not allowed to learn. I was sidelined in every tasks. So I quitted. 

In the mean time , I got a chance to speak to financial service company's HR where as per JD I felt that I was qualified as skills but he said we can’t hire you as you dont have MBA(Finance). idk how still degree holds value more than skills!. I haven’t done mba as I had gap years and it will impact in placements and admission.

I don’t know what I am going to do and I am rotting in my room with my thoughts. Any suggestions is appreciated. I want to restart my career. TIA