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Okay, So i cleared my foundation and intermediate in first attempt and pursued my articleship in big 4 in Statutory audit domain (moved away from my hometown for this and worked really really really hard). CA was not really my first choice. idk how or why i even started it in the first place. Now I feel like, it was maybe just sheer luck to clear my foundation, then inter and then get articleship in big 4.

Now fast forward, i gave my first final attempt, in may 2024, i didnt clear, which is fine bcz i didnt really gave enough efforts cz i was going through some personal issues around that time. I left the firm and came back to my hometown post articleship and went down the rabbit hole. I find distractions and cannot bring myself to study. I start my studies, focus for a little while and then relapse into negative thoughts or other distractions like an addict. I lack concentration and cannot do online study. But i also dont think we get the option of offline coaching centres for CA finals.

I am 24f and i feel old and behind and i need to be financially independent soon otherwise i will end up being married (which i dont want for now).

I dont understand what to do to fix this. Shall I just move out of my hometown to study, to give myself a change of scenery ? or get a job ? drop CA ? prepare for CAT and pursue MBA ? Continue CA (i dont think i can do it like this) ? or chose any other career path ?

I feel like I wasted all these years of my life. I feel like I wasted lots of good opportunities just because I was sad. I feel like maybe I just chose a wrong path. Maybe I should have pursued MBA when I was 21. I would have gotten job by now. Or made my career in something else ? I personally find job easier than studies.

I don't know what to do to fix this. To stop feeling like a failure. I am confused b/w giving up and not giving up. One side of me is too tired for all this to continue and another side feel like if I give up now, then all the sacrifices, all the efforts, all the sleepless nights, all the grinding, all these years mean absolutely nothing. It will become worthless, maybe exactly how I feel like right now.

(Edit: Men feel free to stay away from the post. It's not a ragebait. All I want to do is create awareness for my fellow other Indian women in the sub. Stop getting triggered. And its not about Husband and his family should not get a share in wife's assets. Its more about how unfair it is for women to know that her parents have legal rights over her assets after her husband's entire heirs lineage including mama, mami, chacha and all. The post is created to create educational awareness to know their rights and make a choice or decision to decide who should get their wealth / assets in case of their death.)

I just found out something that honestly made my blood boil.

If you're a Hindu married woman and you die without a Will, the Hindu Succession Act decides who gets your self-earned assets and streedhan.

The order is:

✅ Husband & children

⬇️ Then...

✅ Your husband's heirs (depending on who is alive, this can include his parents, siblings, nephews, nieces, uncles, aunts, chacha, chachi, mama, mami, bhua, fufa, cousins and other relatives who are legally recognized as his heirs under the Hindu Succession Act).

⬇️ Only AFTER THAT... (This too happens in a rarerest of rare case)

❌ Your own mother and father.

Read that again.

Your husband's legal heirs come before the parents who raised you.

So if you spent your entire life earning, investing, buying jewellery, building wealth, and you assume, "If something happens to me, at least my parents will get some part of it," that's not what the law says.

And here's the part that feels deeply unfair:

Your parents do not become heirs to your husband's property just because they're your parents. But your husband's legal heirs are placed ahead of your parents for your property.

Why?

Why should the family you were born into rank below your marital family when it comes to the assets you earned?

A Will fixes this.

If you want your parents to inherit some part of your hard-earned assets, don't rely on default succession law. Make a Will.

Most women have never been told this. They should be.

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This isn't just a theoretical law. It has actually happened.

In Omprakash v. Radhacharan (2009), a woman named Narayani Devi became a widow just 3 months after her marriage.

She was driven out of her matrimonial home by her in-laws.

She went back to live with her parents, who educated her, supported her, and helped her rebuild her life.

She got a job, earned her own money, built her own savings, accumulated bank deposits, and PF. These were her self-earned assets, not property inherited from anyone.

She never remarried.

Then she died without making a Will and had no children.

Her mother claimed the assets.

Her in-laws also claimed them.

The case reached the Supreme Court.

The Court held that under Section 15(1) of the Hindu Succession Act, her self-acquired property would not go to the parents who raised and supported her after she was widowed.

It would go to the heirs of her deceased husband because, under the statutory order of succession, the husband's heirs rank before the woman's own parents.

Whether you agree with that law or not is a separate debate.

But every independent Hindu woman should know it.

If you don't want the law making that decision for you, make a Will.

I am watching SATC for the first time and i am at s4e16 where Aidan is moving out of Carrie's apartment and I feel like ugh, I dislike Carrie so much for hurting Aidan for the second time.

Big was not that good and her chemistry with Big seemed forced onscreen.

But with Aidan it looked so real. Big was her bad habit, who took her for granted. But Aidan was real, someone who wanted Carrie out of her bad habits (Smoking), he brought good in her unlike Big, helped Miranda at her apartment when she had neck strain, was kind and welcoming towards her friends, improved her home, fixed the flaws in her home when Big was someone who only wanted to spend their time at his apartment cz he thought his apartment was better somewhere in his mind whereas Aidan was the perfect definition of the perfect Boyfriend.

Carrie just wanted things and people she could not have. Easy.

Aidan was giving her everything that she wanted from Big so effortlessly and all she did was took that for granted.

Hi Guys !!

I will be travelling soon to NZ with family of 5 for like 40 days.

So I was hoping if you guys can suggest any cost saving ideas, because with a budget of 70,000 NZD, if all the payment processing charges additionally charges surcharge from 1.2% to 3%, it becomes unnecessary additional expense !!!

So if someone have local tips, please let me know !!

Why do we feel alone in a crowd ? Like. I am surrounded by all these people - Friends and Family and yet why no one can see the true me. Like. Why do we have to have to beg someone to treat us right or better ?

Rachel's first appearance in the entire series is literally her running into Central Perk in a wedding dress. For a character whose journey was so tied to love, growth, fashion and finding herself, it would've been poetic if her final scene was also in a wedding dress.

And realistically? Ross and Rachel were both ridiculously wealthy by the end. Rachel's dad basically offered to arrange her wedding at the Plaza Hotel when Rachel told him about her pregnancy. So that was something that was totally attainable.

The airport reunion was iconic, but after 10 seasons of breakups, reconciliations and "we were on a break," I wanted to actually see them get married. !!!! It would've felt like a full-circle ending.

Anyone else feel robbed of a Ross & Rachel wedding episode?

ALSO, I BELIEVE THEIR WEDDING WOULD HAVE BEEN TOTALLY ICONIC IN THE HISTORY OF TELEVISION IN THEIR TIME !!!

Hi Guys !!

Actually i am looking for a destknation wedding location or resorts to get married at ?

Like. I want to have a mountain wedding or mystical foresty vibes or entirely in nature kind of vibes.

Preferably in North India. With a maximum of 100 people.

And it should be pinteresty and if it is a temple wedding, it is better.

I want to have a wedding filled with hindu cultures and rituals and make me more close to my heritage.

Budget will be around 30 lacs for 100 people and for 2 days.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

Why do we feel alone in a crowd ? Like. I am surrounded by all these people - Friends and Family and yet why no one can see the true me. Like. Why do we have to have to beg someone to treat us right or better ?