u/Choco-latte-66

Sorry ik its a lot of reading but please read it‼️

So I’m 20 F, punjabi, I came to canada when I was 14. I did my high school here and I don’t have a accent (well i mean i have a canadian accent now) So what I wanted to talk about was how kids that are born here talk a lot of shit about “fobs”. Tbh I myself agree with a lot of things that they be doing, like staring at girls and doing weird shit like standing in big ass group at random plazas trynna “pull” a girl. But because I was decently young when I came here, I see myself acting/dressing/speaking, doing almost everything just like any kids that are born here would do. Mostly because that’s the only people I was around in high school, i didn’t really have other friends who came from india like me. All of my cousins (mostly my moms side of family is all here) theyre all born here. So I haven’t really been around anyone in the same situation as me for the last 6 years now. And i know that six dont sound like a lot but cuz i was still figuring myself out, it was a pretty long time for me to be the person who i am today.

I was talking to a girl tdy, and she was telling me how she’s sick of these fobs harrassing her and tbh i get it cuz similar stuff has happened to me and its so disturbingly disgusting. But then she was talking about a guy who asked for her number and she said he had no accent but later she found out he was a fob. (She doesnt know im not born here) and i mean she was just saying that cuz she later found out that he was also weird asf, so she was kinda co relating those 2 things.

But that kinda hit me cuz a few months ago my cousins were saying the same kinda thing and how they’d never date someone who’s not born here unless they came here when they were literally like 5-6 or younger nd shit.

It makes me really insecure when i think about all this, and now i hate telling ppl that im not born here cuz i feel like they look at u differently. Now obv i know not everyone has the same opinions or whatever. But most of the ppl i’ve met have said these things nd it makes me wonder like when I try to date in uni, if guys wont wanna date me just because i wasnt born here yk.

But like i would like ur opinion on this if ur born here or came here really really young. Do yall think the same way? I mean i’d like a true answer rather than a glazed one just so my feelings dont get hurt lol.

Hey stranger! So I wanted to talk about how I’ve been getting very anxious lately everytime i go in public. So for the last 2 years I’ve been wearing makeup EVERY. TIME. I. GET. OUT. OF. MY. HOUSE. And i’m not joking cuz i don’t even step out of my house without it. Cuz i feel insecure asf. (Not full glam tho) I only think i look pretty when I have it on. And a social place where I go daily is gym. And i even have makeup on in gym. And lately I’ve been forcing myself to not wear it and It’s been a week. I haven’t been feeling very confident honestly. And that past week i didn’t go to the gym. Today is my first day at the gym giving up makeup. Matter of fact I’m writing this from the gym washroom because I genuinely felt so weird outside. I know its all in my head but idk what to do about it. I hate this feeling I wanna feel confident but idk what to do. I’ve never experienced anxiety like this ever before. But I don’t wanna go back into the loop of wearing makeup everyday either. Idk how to feel less ugly without it.

No like actually cuz lately I’ve been struggling with overeating ONCE AGAIN. But even when i wasn’t overeating I was stuck on the same weight for a whole last year. I’ve been loosing and gaining the same weight. I’m 172lbs rn as a 5’10F. Weight keeps fluctuating between 168-172 lbs. please help my goal weight is 140-145lbs and I’m very consistent with the gym and exercising the only still I struggle hella is with food.

I’ve been running for a few months now, but I can’t run for very long because I keep getting what I think are shin splints. It feels like my tibia is going to crack.

The pain usually only starts once I’ve run more than about 2 km. After that, I can’t go for another run for the next 2–3 days because it’s so sore. If I try to run while it’s still sore, it hurts like hell.

I’m not sure if it’s my tibialis anterior or something else, but the pain feels like it’s right on the bone. I can’t even rub my hand over the area with a little pressure because it’s so tender. I can’t massage it either it feels so delicate that it’s like the bone is going to crack if I press on it. And I am not exaggerating when I say it’s going to crack, I can usually pretty good with pain tolerance but this is something else. Cuz my cousin accidentally hit my shin and it was such a light hit but i fell and had to sit down for the next 15 mins before i felt like i can walk again

Has anyone experienced something similar or know what it could be?

How do i fix this?

I’ve been running for a few months now, but I can’t run for very long because I keep getting what I think are shin splints. It feels like my tibia is going to crack.

The pain usually only starts once I’ve run more than about 2 km. After that, I can’t go for another run for the next 2–3 days because it’s so sore. If I try to run while it’s still sore, it hurts like hell.

I’m not sure if it’s my tibialis anterior or something else, but the pain feels like it’s right on the bone. I can’t even rub my hand over the area with a little pressure because it’s so tender. I can’t massage it either it feels so delicate that it’s like the bone is going to crack if I press on it.

Has anyone experienced something similar or know what it could be?

Does anyone know how i can fix this?

And I don’t mean like just leaving to get food or drinks for themselves or others in the group due to long wait times and then coming back maybe 10ish mins after, cuz I see people doing that all the time and honestly I get it cuz sometimes you might get really hungry or thirsty when the wait times are over 1.5 or 2 hours. Recently I was at Canada’s wonderland and we were waiting to get on AlpenFury. The wait time was approx 1hr 45 minutes that day and it was extremely hot. There was a group of 5 people in-front of us and about 15 minutes into the line, 4 of them decided to leave. And then they came back around the time when we were about to get on the stairs. Almost after 1 hr and 25 minutes min in. And since the line was getting longer and longer, I think someone from the end of the line probably reported them for line jumping because right before going onto the stairs the security came and took them out of the line. Honestly I felt really bad for that one guy who waited for so long. But they took all of them out of the time, and as me and friends were waiting on the stairs we noticed that they were talking to security and police for good 10 minutes but they didn’t let any of them back in.

What are your thoughts on people who do this? And the thoughts on this story itself.

I wanna know where I can buy this, but I’m confused cuz there’s so many different prices at different places. At sephora its way too expensive, amazon and shoppers have a different price compared to sephora. Does anyone know where i can buy it for a cheaper price?

I obviously love BR Ice creams but some of the employees are disrespectful. I understand that they have policies but I went to this location today and the scoops were not even proper, I have never had this problem before because every time they always make sure that the scoops are proper and they aren’t breaking apart like this. I told the employee that its not proper and she weighed it and said it is. Idk how the weight works but it doesn’t matter cuz i’ve had it from multiple locations and the scoop is never this little. And i literally had it like last week from the same location and it was different employee and the scoops were crazy generous. The scoop was way over the cup almost touching the lid on top. And it always is like that doesn’t matter which location i get it from. This is genuinely stupid and after weighing the scoop I told her that it’s never like this from multiple locations, she ignored me and walked away. I never argue or post bad reviews but this genuinely pissed me off. So please lemme know where I can report this.

So I’m here in canada and on amazon Melano CC is so expensive I was wondering if there is any other reliable websites I could buy it from that might be cheaper

So I went out with this one guy from my hs and we saw each other after a while. Even tho we weren’t really friends in high school or like super close. we just started talking a few weeks ago and then i had last minute plans cancelled so i asked him if he was free so we could just link up and he said he is but has a class in the morning so i met him after his class on the campus (I went all the way there in the bus), idk tbh in my opinion we had a good time, we met and went on a walk in a nearby park and it was very pretty and we talked for a good while, then went to get food (he paid for both of us) I insisted to split it but he didn’t let me. Then I felt guilty because technically this wasn’t a date, so I bought us drinks, then we talked and walked around for a bit more, took the train back together and during this whole time we did have a little bit flirty conversations too, he did also complimented me and said i look pretty. He was also kinda touchy (not in a bad way) like he seemed comfortable. Idk what went wrong like after i got home i waited for his text but nothing and then next day I texted him saying hey thank you for yesterday and stuff he replied no problemm and i didn’t to what to say after so i only left a reaction on his text.
Now its been about a week and he hasn’t texted me at all lol but im just so confused cuz i thought everything was going well? Like idk what went wrong and idk if i should text him cuz i think he doesn’t wanna talk to me

Bro im so sad rn cuz i always wanted to go to TMU for nursing and I just got waitlisted 😭😭 idk what to do, im in a gap year rn and I really wanted to start uni/college this year and my stupid self only applied to 2 which is tmu and mohawk, i got an offer from mohawk but the thing i cant really go there cuz i cant live on campus rn and tmu was the closest. (I lwk just wanted it to be toronto) Is there still hope for me or am i going into another gap year welp

I recently got into running although I’ve always hated it most of my life. It makes me feel so weak. But now that I’ve actually started running I’m realizing that it does get easier the more you do it, not easy as in mentally, i still have to push myself a lot mentally BUT it gets easier physically and the dopamine hit after ur done feels so rewarding and thats smthng that keeps me going. I recently ran a 5k and now I lwk can’t wait to run a 10k. I still don’t “love” it but I can one thing for sure that it makes me feel alive, it gives me genuine happiness just knowing I can run a 5k now because when I started I couldn’t even run on a speed of 6 on treadmill for 5 minutes straight. This is a reminder to anybody out there trying something new that they might suck at right now, trust me it gets better with time just don’t give up :)