u/Connect-Reality932

e had been together for eight months in a long distance relationship, and up until recently, everything felt happy and we were communicating well, talking every single day. Recently, I (18) have been holding down a demanding schedule working long hours and taking college courses to save up money for a major move to a new city, while he (21) was dealing with massive life stress, joblessness, financial strain, and recovering from surgery. Early on, he was heavily invested and always followed up his words with actions. When we talked about our future, he actively agreed on building a life together and setting long term goals, and we made it a point in our long distance dynamic to meet up every single month in a completely different city or place to spend quality time together. Throughout the relationship, there were periods where he expressed that the long distance was hard on him. We had already gone through two previous breakups where his emotions got heightened and he panicked, only to immediately turn around, call me back remorseful, and swear he did not mean it and that he wanted to stay with me for the rest of his life. A week before everything fell apart for the third time, he was telling me how much he missed me in a good way and calling me the closest person to him outside his family, but then his shutdown triggered again. Instead of sitting down to work through things, he sent a long text confessing that he was emotionally overwhelmed, that his mental health was struggling, and that while he loved me and saw me as a healing angel who changed his life, the long distance relationship was exhausting him to the core. He explained that whenever he was away from me, he felt anxious and unmotivated, relying on my energy rather than building his own self and that he needed to step back completely to focus on his own goals and his family dynamic. He made it a point to say he still wanted to go to the same university if I decided to go, and that he wanted us to remain close friends and call each other whenever needed. Now, I am left sitting with this decision as I prepare for my fresh start. We were planning for me to relocate to that new city so we could finally end the distance, and I have already applied to college there and my dream program, and, I am completely willing to start a fresh, independent life there since I am bored where I currently live. Is he actually going to contact me again about rekindling, and what should I do? Should I still go through with the move? 

We had been together for eight months in a long distance relationship, and up until recently, everything felt happy and we were communicating well, talking every single day. Recently, I (18F) have been holding down a demanding schedule working long hours and taking college courses to save up money for a major move to a new city, while he (21M) was dealing with massive life stress, joblessness, financial strain, and recovering from surgery. Early on, he was heavily invested and always followed up his words with actions. When we talked about our future, he actively agreed on building a life together and setting long term goals, and we made it a point in our long distance dynamic to meet up every single month in a completely different city or place to spend quality time together. Throughout the relationship, there were periods where he expressed that the long distance was hard on him. We had already gone through two previous breakups where his emotions got heightened and he panicked, only to immediately turn around, call me back remorseful, and swear he did not mean it and that he wanted to stay with me for the rest of his life. A week before everything fell apart for the third time, he was telling me how much he missed me in a good way and calling me the closest person to him outside his family, but then his shutdown triggered again. Instead of sitting down to work through things, he sent a long text confessing that he was emotionally overwhelmed, that his mental health was struggling, and that while he loved me and saw me as a healing angel who changed his life, the long distance relationship was exhausting him to the core. He explained that whenever he was away from me, he felt anxious and unmotivated, relying on my energy rather than building his own self and that he needed to step back completely to focus on his own goals and his family dynamic. He made it a point to say he still wanted to go to the same university if I decided to go, and that he wanted us to remain close friends and call each other whenever needed. Now, I am left sitting with this decision as I prepare for my fresh start. We were planning for me to relocate to that new city so we could finally end the distance, and I have already applied to college there and my dream program, and, I am completely willing to start a fresh, independent life there since I am bored where I currently live. Is he actually going to contact me again about rekindling, and what should I do? Should I still go through with the move? 

We had been together for eight months in a long distance relationship, and up until recently, everything felt happy and we were communicating well, talking every single day. Recently, I (18) have been holding down a demanding schedule working long hours and taking college courses to save up money for a major move to a new city, while he (21) was dealing with massive life stress, joblessness, financial strain, and recovering from surgery. Early on, he was heavily invested and always followed up his words with actions. When we talked about our future, he actively agreed on building a life together and setting long term goals, and we made it a point in our long distance dynamic to meet up every single month in a completely different city or place to spend quality time together. Throughout the relationship, there were periods where he expressed that the long distance was hard on him. We had already gone through two previous breakups where his emotions got heightened and he panicked, only to immediately turn around, call me back remorseful, and swear he did not mean it and that he wanted to stay with me for the rest of his life. A week before everything fell apart for the third time, he was telling me how much he missed me in a good way and calling me the closest person to him outside his family, but then his shutdown triggered again. Instead of sitting down to work through things, he sent a long text confessing that he was emotionally overwhelmed, that his mental health was struggling, and that while he loved me and saw me as a healing angel who changed his life, the long distance relationship was exhausting him to the core. He explained that whenever he was away from me, he felt anxious and unmotivated, relying on my energy rather than building his own self and that he needed to step back completely to focus on his own goals and his family dynamic. He made it a point to say he still wanted to go to the same university if I decided to go, and that he wanted us to remain close friends and call each other whenever needed. Now, I am left sitting with this decision as I prepare for my fresh start. We were planning for me to relocate to that new city so we could finally end the distance, and I have already applied to college there and my dream program, and, I am completely willing to start a fresh, independent life there since I am bored where I currently live. Is he actually going to contact me again about rekindling, and what should I do? Should I still go through with the move? 

My boyfriend (21M) and I (18F) have been dating for 7 months. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we make it a point to see each other every single month for a week or two straight. Ever since the start of our relationship, he has been incredibly consistent and attentive whenever we are together in person. However, online, we have completely different communication styles. He prefers calling and texting significantly less, whereas I try to maintain a baseline connection.
Because he struggles with online communication, we barely text throughout the day. We routinely go 15+ hours with absolutely zero texts or calls. Because of this, our main way of connecting is calling, but lately, everything has tanked. We haven’t had a single call longer than 30 minutes all week.

Since we hadn't talked all day, I finally called him around 5:00 PM. The call was incredibly strained and filled with mostly awkward silences because he wasn't really engaging or initiating conversation. During the call, he suddenly asked me, "Don't you have friends to hang out with?" and asked if I was just "bored."

Honestly, it felt like one of my worst fears coming true. I’ve felt too embarrassed and shut down to reach out again. I’m genuinely scared to call him because I feel like I'm bothering him or forcing him to talk to me. I know he prefers less communication online, but a long-distance relationship literally only exists online between our monthly visits

My boyfriend (21M) and I (18F) have been dating for 7 months. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we make it a point to see each other every single month for a week or two straight. Ever since the start of our relationship, he has been incredibly consistent and attentive whenever we are together in person. However, online, we have completely different communication styles. He prefers calling and texting significantly less, whereas I try to maintain a baseline connection.
Because he struggles with online communication, we barely text throughout the day. We routinely go 15+ hours with absolutely zero texts or calls. Because of this, our main way of connecting is calling, but lately, everything has tanked. We haven’t had a single call longer than 30 minutes all week.

Since we hadn't talked all day, I finally called him around 5:00 PM. The call was incredibly strained and filled with mostly awkward silences because he wasn't really engaging or initiating conversation. During the call, he suddenly asked me, "Don't you have friends to hang out with?" and asked if I was just "bored."

Honestly, it felt like one of my worst fears coming true. I’ve felt too embarrassed and shut down to reach out again. I’m genuinely scared to call him because I feel like I'm bothering him or forcing him to talk to me. I know he prefers less communication online, but a long-distance relationship literally only exists online between our monthly visits

My boyfriend (21M) and I (18F) have been dating for 7 months. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we make it a point to see each other every single month for a week or two straight. Ever since the start of our relationship, he has been incredibly consistent and attentive whenever we are together in person. However, online, we have completely different communication styles. He prefers calling and texting significantly less, whereas I try to maintain a baseline connection.
Because he struggles with online communication, we barely text throughout the day. We routinely go 15+ hours with absolutely zero texts or calls. Because of this, our main way of connecting is calling, but lately, everything has tanked. We haven’t had a single call longer than 30 minutes all week.

Since we hadn't talked all day, I finally called him around 5:00 PM. The call was incredibly strained and filled with mostly awkward silences because he wasn't really engaging or initiating conversation. During the call, he suddenly asked me, "Don't you have friends to hang out with?" and asked if I was just "bored."

Honestly, it felt like one of my worst fears coming true. I’ve felt too embarrassed and shut down to reach out again.

TLDR; I’m genuinely scared to call him because I feel like I'm bothering him or forcing him to talk to me. I know he prefers less communication online, but a long-distance relationship literally only exists online between our monthly visits

My boyfriend (21M) and I (18F) have been dating for 7 months. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we make it a point to see each other every single month for a week or two straight. Ever since the start of our relationship, he has been incredibly consistent and attentive whenever we are together in person. However, online, we have completely different communication styles. He prefers calling and texting significantly less, whereas I try to maintain a baseline connection.
Because he struggles with online communication, we barely text throughout the day. We routinely go 15+ hours with absolutely zero texts or calls. Because of this, our main way of connecting is calling, but lately, everything has tanked. We haven’t had a single call longer than 30 minutes all week.

Since we hadn't talked all day, I finally called him around 5:00 PM. The call was incredibly strained and filled with mostly awkward silences because he wasn't really engaging or initiating conversation. During the call, he suddenly asked me, "Don't you have friends to hang out with?" and asked if I was just "bored."

Honestly, it felt like one of my worst fears coming true. I’ve felt too embarrassed and shut down to reach out again. I’m genuinely scared to call him because I feel like I'm bothering him or forcing him to talk to me. I know he prefers less communication online, but a long-distance relationship literally only exists online between our monthly visits.

My boyfriend (21M) and I (18F) have been dating for 7 months. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we make it a point to see each other every single month for a week or two straight. Ever since the start of our relationship, he has been incredibly consistent and attentive whenever we are together in person. However, online, we have completely different communication styles. He prefers calling and texting significantly less, whereas I try to maintain a baseline connection.
Because he struggles with online communication, we barely text throughout the day. We routinely go 15+ hours with absolutely zero texts or calls. Because of this, our main way of connecting is calling, but lately, everything has tanked. We haven’t had a single call longer than 30 minutes all week.

Since we hadn't talked all day, I finally called him around 5:00 PM. The call was incredibly strained and filled with mostly awkward silences because he wasn't really engaging or initiating conversation. During the call, he suddenly asked me, "Don't you have friends to hang out with?" and asked if I was just "bored."

Honestly, it felt like one of my worst fears coming true. I’ve felt too embarrassed and shut down to reach out again. I’m genuinely scared to call him because I feel like I'm bothering him or forcing him to talk to me. I know he prefers less communication online, but a long-distance relationship literally only exists online between our monthly visits.

My boyfriend (21M) and I (18F) have been dating for 7 months. We are in a long-distance relationship, but we make it a point to see each other every single month for a week or two straight. Ever since the start of our relationship, he has been incredibly consistent and attentive whenever we are together in person. However, online, we have completely different communication styles. He prefers calling and texting significantly less, whereas I try to maintain a baseline connection.
Because he struggles with online communication, we barely text throughout the day. We routinely go 15+ hours with absolutely zero texts or calls. Because of this, our main way of connecting is calling, but lately, everything has tanked. We haven’t had a single call longer than 30 minutes all week.

Since we hadn't talked all day, I finally called him around 5:00 PM. The call was incredibly strained and filled with mostly awkward silences because he wasn't really engaging or initiating conversation. During the call, he suddenly asked me, "Don't you have friends to hang out with?" and asked if I was just "bored."

Honestly, it felt like one of my worst fears coming true. I’ve felt too embarrassed and shut down to reach out again. I’m genuinely scared to call him because I feel like I'm bothering him or forcing him to talk to me. I know he prefers less communication online, but a long-distance relationship literally only exists online between our monthly visits.