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'm curious what everyone's main stress or trauma response is. If you're not familiar with the 4 F's:

• Fight – You get angry, defensive, argue, or try to take control.
• Flight – You stay busy, overthink, avoid feelings, or want to escape.
• Freeze – You shut down, feel stuck, numb, or can't make decisions.
• Fawn – You people-please, avoid conflict, or put others' needs before your own.

Which one sounds most like you? Has it affected your relationships, work, or everyday life? I'd love to hear your experiences.

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Does anyone actually know how to control emotions when they suddenly hit?

Like I’ll be fine and then something triggers me and I spiral or start crying or overthinking everything. It feels hard to stop once it starts, and I only calm down after a while.

I’m trying to understand if there are actual skills or habits people use to manage this in the moment, or if it’s just something you learn over time. am I just the crazy one that has so much emotions I can’t control

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year, and about once a month I have an emotional breakdown where I cry for about an hour and tell him everything that’s bothering me. It feels like a crisis in the moment, then it passes.

He’s told me it’s overwhelming and emotionally exhausting for him, which I understand.

I’m currently tapering off medication for about a month and trying to get into therapy (appointments are booked out for months), so I’m working on getting help.

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I was wondering any success stories and how has it been not using anti-depressants anymore.

Hi everyone. I'm in my mid-20s, 5'2", and around 140 lbs. Over the past year I've gained more weight than I'm used to, and it feels like most of it has gone straight to my belly. My stomach feels so much bigger, and it's really affecting my confidence.

I'm currently on antidepressants and birth control, so I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar. I know weight gain can happen for different reasons, but it's been frustrating because I don't feel like my habits have changed enough to explain it all.

For those of you who are also petite, what actually helped you lose the weight? Did you focus on calorie tracking, strength training, walking, higher protein, or something else? How long did it take before you noticed a difference?

what is your most difficult challenge with your significant other? why have past relationship not lasted?

I’m 25 and honestly my 20s have been rough.

I’ve struggled with anxiety, overthinking, relationship fears, constantly worrying I’ll be replaced, and spiraling into thinking people don’t care about me or that relationships are doomed. Lately I’ve also been worried that I could have BPD, but I won’t be able to see a therapist for another 2 months. That is the earliest appointment they have and that my insurance covers.

On top of that, my periods are awful and can leave me feeling emotionally and physically drained. The timing is stressful because I’m also preparing to move abroad soon, so it feels like everything is happening at once.

Some days I feel like everyone else is handling adulthood so much better than I am.

Has anyone else had a really difficult time in their 20s? Did things eventually get better?

I’ve noticed my biggest fear in relationships isn’t necessarily being alone it’s being replaced.

If my partner seems distant, talks about another girl, or I feel like I’m not their type, my brain immediately goes to, “What if they find someone better?” always like this…..

Sometimes I spiral and think the relationship is doomed, but after I calm down, I usually realize I may have overreacted.

anyone relate?

im curious if we had good childhood or not. I had an absent father and a super emotional mother.

What helps you everyday get up and function at least a bit

How hard did you think the test is? I feel so stupid and I feel like I have failed.

My ex and I had a very chaotic relationship for years. He would love bomb me, then suddenly cheat. After breakups he would call me hundreds or even thousands of times. He was extremely jealous, drank heavily, used weed, punched or threw things when angry, and once tried to choke me. He would tell me I was the worst person in the world, then act normal later like nothing happened. He rarely apologized and acted very differently around other people than he did with me. he said I was the crazy one with bpd.

Since leaving that relationship, I’ve noticed a lot of things in myself too. I have intense fears of being abandoned or replaced, get suspicious that people are upset with me, need a lot of reassurance in relationships, and can become very emotional when I think someone is pulling away. I also struggle with nightmares, insomnia, and memories of past relationships and traumatic experiences. I just relate to many of the bpd symptoms before him and now after him even more….

My ex and I had a very chaotic relationship for years. He would love bomb me, then suddenly cheat. After breakups he would call me hundreds or even thousands of times. He was extremely jealous, drank heavily, used weed, punched or threw things when angry, and once tried to choke me. He would tell me I was the worst person in the world, then act normal later like nothing happened. He rarely apologized and acted very differently around other people than he did with me. he said I was the crazy one with bpd.

Since leaving that relationship, I’ve noticed a lot of things in myself too. I have intense fears of being abandoned or replaced, get suspicious that people are upset with me, need a lot of reassurance in relationships, and can become very emotional when I think someone is pulling away. I also struggle with nightmares, insomnia, and memories of past relationships and traumatic experiences.

The confusing part is that I don’t know if I have BPD traits, cPTSD, anxious attachment, or some combination of them. A lot of BPD symptoms resonate with me, but so do trauma symptoms.

My ex and I had a very chaotic relationship for years. He would love bomb me, then suddenly cheat. After breakups he would call me hundreds or even thousands of times. He was extremely jealous, drank heavily, used weed, punched or threw things when angry, and once tried to choke me. He would tell me I was the worst person in the world, then act normal later like nothing happened. He rarely apologized and acted very differently around other people than he did with me. he said I was the crazy one with bpd.

Since leaving that relationship, I’ve noticed a lot of things in myself too. I have intense fears of being abandoned or replaced, get suspicious that people are upset with me, need a lot of reassurance in relationships, and can become very emotional when I think someone is pulling away. I also struggle with nightmares, insomnia, and memories of past relationships and traumatic experiences.

The confusing part is that I don’t know if I have BPD traits, cPTSD, anxious attachment, or some combination of them. A lot of BPD symptoms resonate with me, but so do trauma symptoms.

Hi everyone! I’ll be starting with Interac soon in South Kanto. For those who have side jobs (I am also fluent in Spanish), what do you do and how did you find it? Any advice for a new ALT would be appreciated. Thanks!