How do you address an aggressive recruiter in a professional manner?
As the title suggests, I'd interviewed for a job last month and from just the first phone call "screening" my recruiter has been just extremely hostile? His tone/attitude is extremely condescending and frankly, aggressive. I'd tried to push past it initially, maybe he was just having a bad day? But today, I'm feeling very turned off from this job and corporation as a whole.
The dilemma concerns my start day for training, as I had to complete the typical background check alongside fingerprinting before moving forward. I'd discussed this with the actual manager themselves, and they said once I'm cleared, we would move forward with setting up my official start-date (I'm currently employed, so I set the boundary immediately that I would be giving my 2 weeks and then transitioning afterwards). My recruiter calls me this morning seemingly irate, repeatedly asking me If I still wanted the position and that I was expected to be working in-role as of yesterday?
Every time I'd try to explain the situation, he'd overtalk or just simple state he doesn't understand. When I'd brought up the conversation that occurred between me and the manager, he became very upset that I'd have this discussion with them? He'd even said along the lines "So you won't move forward until you speak with (insert manager name)?". Well, yes? why wouldn't they be included if this inconsistency has occurred.
I just don't understand where this attitude has stemmed from? I've been transparent with my position and needs from the beginning, and no emails, voicemails, etc., had been communicated to me that I had an immediate start time nor had I agreed. Since I will be partnered alongside this individual for my in-role training, and other technical things I do feel some conversation needs to occur. While I can understand some information may have been missed or not properly communicated, I feel it's no excuse for this behavior.
EDIT: Adding this in just to summarize and give a bit more context. The discussion held between me and the manager was that I would be contacted when my background check/fingerprinting had all been collected/cleared. Once this was relayed back to me, I'd submit my 2 weeks' notice from current employer, and we'd officiate an official start date.