u/CreativePlant7

I was laid off a little while ago and don't have proof of income, but unfortunately it is time for the apartment hunt. I found a studio that I am interested in applying.

I have enough in savings to pay for the entire year + deposit. I don't want to pay up front though. Maybe could for 6 months, but definitely not for the year in case of a rainy day. I am job hunting and hopefully would have one in 3 months, but I will try to pick up a part-time gig until then.

My credit score is 800+

Never had a late payment

My mother would qualify for 5x the rent and doesn't mind me adding her as an applicant or co-signer, but I am nervous this would make the landlord's eyebrows raise up because it is a studio.

I haven't been in the dating scene for too long, but the apps seem so hard to find anyone that seems like they would be kind and also decently attractive and actually serious about dating.

I feel like people lie on the apps and are looking for casual relationships or lie about the ethnicity, height, politics, etc.

I am so shocked this lady has over 26 reviews!

These are all different reviews:

• Ginny texted me a lot about things to do, commands to follow and had a few extra requests. While that is okay, it was overwhelming at times to find always at least 3 messages from her whenever you looked at your phone. There was an airbnb tenant, who I was informed about after the situation was confirmed. I didn’t really felt comfortable with that situation, while it is also not allowed, the worst part was on day 3 or 4 apparently Ginny texted that airbnb guy to ask about me.
• For ex. I had to buy bleach for the cleaner, buy dog poop bags, as well as later on make a new set of keys which became missing after the cleaner's visit.
• The flat itself is nice but unfortunately wasn't fully prepared for us to stay in. After Janine left there was still laundry drying all over the living room, lots of clutter on the dining table and the bins were left completely full which we had to empty quite far away from the flat.
• We were especially surprised to see how dirty the flat was after reading her requirements for us to keep it clean. We were told in the welcome document that there was a pressure washer to clean the patio.
• But let's talk about some points: I really think that the host do not want just a pet sitting but a free cleaner too. The apart was absolutely disgusting when I arrive and I cleaned all. The trashs, the bathroom, the dishes, the dishwasher and also she told me to buy some snacks for Luna and dishwasher.
• This wasn't a house sit so much as free pet sitting and dog walking while Ginny went off to Lisbon for the day. It wasn't overnight, in spite of the listing showing two days. Luna is a sweet and affectionate dog, if a bit excitable.
• The place was quite messy when I arrived—which didn't quite align with the long list of tasks she required us to complete in the contract prior to arrival. Still, that was the only issue: at times, the tasks she asked of us didn't quite match the state of the home when I got there.
• And the next day even though it was the final day of pet sitting and the tutor was already in the house I fulfilled my obligations and after noon I informed her that I would be leaving after all the tutor was already in the house and to my surprise she was leaving and asked me why I was leaving since she had an appointment and I should stay with the pet until the end of the day.
• The apartment was not sitter-ready: strong musty odor, moldy washing machine, heavily stained mattress, no clean cover, and a vacuum that wasn’t suctioning despite the amount of dog hair. Storage space wasn't prepared and the home felt cluttered.
• In the listing Luna was described as a very well trained and well behaved dog, but it was the opposite of that. Luna would constantly pull on the leash, jump on pigeons, eat trash on the street.
• Luna is reactive on the lead. She lunged suddenly at pigeons and knocked me off balance, causing a sprained ankle with ongoing swelling. When I informed Janine, the response was to blame my handling rather than acknowledge the risk. Luna tore apart my coat, and Janine blocked me when I asked how she wants to handle it.

I have watched other people's pets and have done alot of dog walking, but I generally avoid pets over 9 because I have this fear that they could potentially pass due to age.

But like any human being, a dog can pass away even at a young age, despite the sitter being responsible and taking good care of them. My friend's dog died at 4 years old because of an unexpected blood clot. Just days prior they were doing their normal walks, eating normally, drinking water, etc.

I would be sad because death is terrible, but also nervous if the HO would blame or take their pain on the sitter.

I was curious because I have been looking at some potential sits and they either have really early or late start and end times, which may make it harder to do an easy hand off, but then it is hard to also plan a little buffer in case their is a delay on both ends of the sitter coming and the HO coming back

So I guess:

• How often do you meet the HO versus just recieve a key from someone else or a lockbox?
• How often do you stay until the HO are completely back?
• And how much of a buffer do you give/expect (either as a HO or sitter)? Like… HO asks you to come at 3-4pm. Do you plan to fly in at 9am? (6 hour buffer) Are you flying in the day before? If HO wants you to stay until 3-4pm, do you mentally accept you might have to stay until 9pm in case of a delay?

I have a sit booked on X day at 5pm. I want to stay in the city for a few more days past that sit, so I am applying to some additional sits after the end date. Most of them I noticed have put 9am - 4pm for time of departure.

Would I tell these HO that I have a sit that ends at 5pm on that day, but could come in earlier to get the keys/meet, but wouldn't be watching full-time until later?

How do you all communicate this or do you guys generally look for at least 1 night gap in between sits? I would imagine it could get messy if the HO's flight got delayed or an emergency.

Either in LA or virtual in California.

Thanks girlies <3

It seems like everyone hates BetterHelp and that most therapists don't like Rula, Headway, or Grow and that most patients don't like ZocDoc.

What is even left after that? Seems like any online platform is just another venture capitalist platform that takes either takes a huge cut from professionals or makes it hard for patients to find the right therapist.

Hi! I have been shopping at Reformation for a long time and have loved all the jeans I bought from them ~10 years ago, but haven't loved any I have ordered in the past few years.

I recently just ordered from their online store the cary is 23 Short and they are still huge on me and just the proportions don't look good at all. I am fine with hemming pants, but sometimes it doesn’t solve how the pants drape or the gaps in the waist.

Does anyone have any recommendations?

I am 5'1", 105lbs, and 23-24" waist and 33" hips, slightly athletic legs.

Wondering if anyone has recommendations for a therapist in Southern California. It is just overwhelming as someone who has never tried.

Looking for therapy to navigate anxiety, depression, and relationship issues.

I have only owned one pair of climbing shoes my whole climbing journey: Scarpa Instinct VS Women's. They truly needed to be retired a long time ago. I just realized sized up 3 whole sizes in them. Explains why I was constantly feeling like toe and heel hooks were always making fart noises or slipping off.

My foot is wide and slightly more roman. But regular or slightly narrow heels. Not entirely flat foot, but my arches are subtle.

I tried going to REI, but unfortunately they didn't have much in stock at the store closest to me. So I think I might have to order a couple and return what doesn't fit. I am also not a member to any climbing gym right now, but I don't want to buy shoes from the climbing gym I used to be a member at. I tried ordering a two pairs from Back Country. They didn't fit and they both came in terrible quality. (Smelled like mildew, had gunk all over, the glue or whatever adhesive melted all over the shoes....)

Any recommendations for wider foot but narrow/regular heels?

Context:
I had a best friend from college. We hung out at least almonst 2-3x a week even after college and texted each other everything. And then the pandemic hit. She moved to a different city and then she iced me out. I always wondered why she just cut me off and it really hurt me at the time. It's been 4

I recently bumped into someone that was also her friend in college (but not good friends with her in recent years) and I just casually brought up the girl. She told me she passed away and maybe from suicide. She only knew this because she is facebook friends with her sister and saw a post.

There was another girl that was also her best friend around the same time I was. Is it weird to reach out to her? I always wondered what happened to our friendship and why she abruptly removed me from her life. I think she iced her out too. I think she was supposed to be her MOH and was at her bachelorette party, but then saw she wasn't at the wedding and they unfollowed each other. The last time I saw her other best friend was maybe right before the pandemic when we were both at her birthday party.

She went through periods of blocking and unblocking me (but not following me) on instagram after the pandemic. On Facebook, we remained friends because I assumed she didn't care about FB enough to check. Few months ago when I last looked her up, we were friends on FB. Now it says we aren't friends. She must have went to delete me at some point. We were texting like normal during the pandemic and then slowly the responses got less and less and then she didn't respond to me. I always wondered if I hurt her in some way. She moved to a new town where she didn't know anybody.

I have met her family a few times and stayed at their summer home. I want to talk to her parents, but I know it must be hard, and I don't know if that would be bad, if I did do something that hurt her.

The only thing I can think about is, she was very mad when I got in a relationship because she said I was no longer fun to go out with to the bars. I still tried to go out with bars with her (but of course, it is a little different going out with someone in a relationship vs. single) and still ask her to go out for lunch, shopping, activities, etc. She was really boy centric and loved when we got attention from guys and phone numbers and date plans. So when I could no longer be single with her, it felt like she had less interest in me.

I have been working on my glute gains and would love to find some non-polyester workout clothes that don't make my glute gains feel like they disappeared

I don't mind the sweat aspect of non-polyester workout clothes

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I'm sorry, but she is absolutely out of her head for thinking she could be mistaken for 25. She looks her age and that is totally fine. Her and the 34 year old are just using the makeup that looks like the TikTok filters and keep trying to push how young they look when they look entirely their age (maybe they even look older tbh and we shouldn't be saying that like a bad thing to look older).

Can people just stop trying to insist they look younger than they are? She has multiple videos where she insists people think she looks like she is 20. Her make up looks weird when her face moves because of how much she is just trying to copy a filter. TikTok filters/makeup has been causing some IRL blindness.

Aging is perfectly normal and looking like you are your age is fine!!!

I have to husky mix dogs in California

• 8 years old, previously on Nationwide, adopted from shelter 7 years ago, on thyroid medication
• 5 years old, no prior insurance, had since puppy but never had any health issues, white pearly teeth, never has had diarrhea or stomach issues, never skipped a meal in his life, very agile and in good physical shape, aways brought in for his vaccines

I am between PM and Lemonade

• Reservations for PM is that it is fairly new and alot of the reviews on here that rave about PM seem to only have had PM for less than a year
• PM is more expensive with less coverage when I input my pets compared to Lemonade
• Lemonade - AI reservations because they might take a small note about my dog's health from 5 years ago and use that to say it is pre-existing... may also say a new issue is related to thyroid but the thyroid might be totally irrelevant

I understand that I won't get my dog's thyroid issues covered or any related issues- it has been manageable with her medication and her blood levels are normal now. I am more concerned if she develops another condition or health scare as she ages. We are likely to stay in California and not move states.

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The dress would be longer on me than the model and would pair with a necklace or shawl.

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I am on a budget and realize that my suits no longer fit me after strength training at the gym consistently. I am a a pinch so I am looking to just buy something decent, but later on will buy a more expensive suit when the time is right.

If a wedding is cocktail, dark jackets and slacks, is this appropriate? it is brown linen.

I was also looking at some more dark and muted olives. Want something different than black or navy.

The dress code says cocktail - dark jackets and slacks.

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I feel like some of the categories are just not that great, but maybe I am just biased after Jamie left and was overly impressed by his well-rounded knowledge lol.

I also feel like they have been slightly less strict on some pronunciation and title subtleties too.