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Hi reddit this isnt that common for me so im sorry if i ramble but ill start by explaining what happened. So i recently went to a wedding for one of my oldest friends who we can call jane ,me and jane have been friends for years now and have also had a friend not as close but still close enough and we will call her bullshitter.

So bullshitter has always had a liking for attention and it has extremely escalated recently, this is because a while back she got married and now that the attention has dissipated from her and her wedding she has been scrambling for attention anywhere else.

So to kind of set the scene we were at this lovely outdoor dining area it was really calm and peaceful there ,was a band ,people were just chatting while eating their food when all of a sudden ,a loud clinking was coming from my left and i turn to see bullshitter standing up ,a tall glass of water in one hand and a fork in the other and i instantly knew that she had some sort of plan.

She started talking about her life before and after she knew our friend jane and that jane saved her from a dog chasing her one time and then she started talking about her self ,her life ,her wedding and her proposal.Then she started talking about how her and her husband were trying for a baby for a really long time until recently.

Now i knew where this was going ,she had a hand placed on her stomach ,was having water not wine and i looked over to jane her face was red ;although she was smiling i could tell that she too knew what was coming and was mad as she had explicitly said she wanted a calm evening with no surprises or even speeches not even from herself or her husband as that is the the of people they are.

I now may seem like the ass but i couldn’t help myself and so i also stood up and started talking over bullshitter and ill basically just write what i said: and upon looking back on all the time we have spent together from running around the neighbourhood, knocking on doors asking where each other were all the way up to getting married ,wanting babies and having jobs we have only now realised how much we have helped each other and how we have raised each other too; and so while moving forward in our lives we hope to see you thrive in the same way that you have helped us thank you.

I sat back down and felt absolutely humiliated because i knew that it didn’t really link but as i looked over to bullshitter her face was pure rage she slumped back down in her chair crossed her arms and twenty minutes later she was nowhere to be seen as her and her husband had just left without a goodbye just disappeared.

Later i went over to apologise to jane about how i didn’t want to undermine her in the speech department but i thought it would be better than bullshitter announcing her pregnancy and jane under stood and thanked me. its been about a week now and i have been receiving harsh messages from the bullshitter herself and im not sure how im supposed to answer them but did i do the right thing or am i the a whole i know it may not have been my place but i would have felt worse if i hadn’t stepped in so im unsure on whether I was right or not.

SMALL UPADATE-

Hi guys thanks you for all the replies and reassurance its meant alot and i thought i would just answer a few queries and give a little update.

I do also want to apologise that this was the worst thing i have ever written and im aware how poor the grammar is ,im going to go back and edit it i was just so caught up in it while writing lol.

Anyway so alot of people asked why me and jane were even friends with bser,and to be honest it all started because none of us were all that popular and so we naturally banded together. This obviously isnt the best reason to befriend someone but over years it felt harder to leave as she was so prominent in our lives so instead it was just easier to go along with her shinanigans.

I know a few people have made several comments about this being some ai slop but its not and im not sure how im supposed to prove that? However as much as i was just some bored Redditor trying to get a bunch of attention i have been lucky enough to be blessed with such a horrible person in my life.

Anyway on to the update bser and me talked and while it was long and tiring it was unsurprisingly unproductive for our relationship. So i took some of you guys opinions and i texted her how she had made me and jane feel for a while and she took it as some kind of harassment and started calling me.

She essentially started screaming at me about how we don’t appreciate her and how she was only trying to bring more joy to our friend on her wedding day. Of course this made me slightly lose it and i started to lecture her on how jane had told people NO SPEECHES and that she had undermined her on all levels.

Bser ended up cussing at me straight for at least five minutes and i ended up hanging up and blocking her ,and besides a few hateful messages from her husbands facebook i have not heard much from her since.

Anyway im hoping that is it but i will try to remember to let u guys know if anything drastic happens but fingers crossed nothing does.
Thanks once again for the advice have a great day!

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I understand that this sounds harsh but im not as bad as i sound so i am 25 and my bf is 24 we have been together since we were 16 but we have known each other our whole life as we have gone to the same schools.

So for a bit of understanding my bf has always dreamed of being a footballer which isnt rare and alot of people want the same so for a while i dont think much of it and thought he might outgrow the idea and understand that it isnt that realistic. He has not though he insists that he will be a pro football player and will win the winning point for the world cup someday.

Now i love his ambition and it is one of his endearing traits but it has grown to be more of a problem rather than a pro as he does not have a job and instead he goes to parks and football matches in hopes he’ll be ‘scouted out’ and this has basically left him relying on me for money i used to have to pay for his gas until his car broke down and when i refused to pay to fix it he sold his car and now im left giving him lifts everywhere he wants to go.

If this was not a choice he was making then i wouldn’t be so angry about it but he chooses not to have a job and every time i try to bring it up he just says something along the lines of ‘dont worry i like being a sugar baby’ and will pat my head and walk off which just gives mw the ick ngl.

Anyway recently with the world cup he has not stopped talking about this future he will definitely one day and he was just talking and talking while i was trying to sought out my taxes and i did snap.

This is where i may be a bad person but i said ‘you need to shut up and then grow up you are a full grown man with the dreams of a twelve year old boy no scouter is going to come nocking on our door asking you to step in for ronaldo. You need to get a job and an actual life instead of leaching on me for your nessecities by the time footballers are your age they retire so no they aren’t going to pick you now okay?’

Writing that back does make me feel like a complete ass but i couldn’t help it im so tired of acting like his mother constantly i dont have it in me to be in a retirement home telling him that they are going ro come recruit him any day now.

Anyway thats it i guess so if someone can tell me if im the problem hear im all ears thanks

Hi reddit i have been hesitant to post about this for many reasons but after months i think i have come to a breaking point and i need to talk about it. So i 32 f and my husband 33 have been married for soon to be 4 years but we have been together since we were 15. My husband has a little sister who is two years younger than him and when we first started dating i immediately understood that they had a close bond.

At first nothing about their relationship had bothered me as for one i am a very secure person and i would not doubt my partner in any situation and secondly it is his sister so i found it sweet that they had such a relationship.

I think the first red flag to me was when we had only been together for a couple months and we were at bis house watching a movie together and we were sat underneath a blanket. His sister who we will call Lilly walked in and just seemed interested in what we were watching if i remember it right i think it was some sci fi stuff it wasn’t great but she still seemed interested. She stood in the door frame for a minute staring at us and i could just about see her fidgeting with her hands in the corner of my eye so i fully looked over and when she noticed me she just jumped onto the sofa and started snuggling up to my at the time bf, and she pulled the covers over so it was then her and my bf under then instead of me but i never said anything.

There were also some times that i would go over to their house for dinner and she would always make me sit on the further end of the table so she could sit next to him but that didn’t seem to bother me much then. She would also constantly ask for validation from him a trait that has lead up to her adult life. She regularly asks if she looks okay which isnt a big deal i think to me its the stranger questions that through me off i remember this one time when we were early twenties and she was about to go on a date so she called my then bf on facetime panned out and started to ask if she looked sexy. Bare in mind she had half her bum hanging out and was wearing the most padded push up bra i have ever seen, i was kind of just sat off camera confused on how she felt comfortable flashing her brother but you do you i guess.

I know all of that may seem dramatic but i didn’t think all that much of it then its only up until recently where things have really annoyed me she had been snapping my then bf constantly which isn’t weird i snap my siblings aswell its normal but she would seem to do them in weird ways with her camera pointing down at her chest or just sending pictures of her in see through clothes and in one case she literally sent one of her in a bra despite her being like 23 at the time.

Flash forward a couple years and my husband proposes to me we were 28 and trying to just focus on us so we didn’t tell anyone until a couple days later and when we did we got woken up at six oclock in the morning to heavy banging on the door. And of course it was lilly she practically ran inside once the door opened tugging on my hand to look at it and then she took the ring off my finger put it on hers and started saying weird stuff.

She started saying that she wished she would marry him if she had that ring too. She also started prancing around our hallway saying i dontake thee ( my husbands name) to be my husband. I may be reading into it but i still found it strange to watch however it only escalated the closer we got to the wedding.

We were sat at the kitchen tble together and she started talking about wedding traditions and if i would toss a bouquet or if he would through a garter and then she asked if we would have a ‘first time’ refering to the first time having sex me and my husband awkwardly sat there but then she laughed and said something along the lines of ‘i doubt it though i bet you cant keep youre hands of this hunky man’ and tehn she started tickling him it must have been the weirdest thing i had every witnessed and i just kind of said that i needed to get dinner and got up.

I dont want to ramble that much as im well aware that thing could be a very long post but to brief things up she constantly make flirtatious comments to him but then started making degrading comments towards me talking about how i should go on a diet before the wedding so im in the same league as my husband and commenting on how i must be funny as im not nearly as hot as him.

On our wedding day she was one of my bridesmaids which was not my choice she just assumed and weasled her way in. A whole lot of stuff happened at our wedding but its not all related to this however when we were at our dinner after with our family i overheard her saying that shes not surprised that my husband would compliment my looks in the vowels due to the lack of looks i had and she snickered. I chose to move on as it was the happiest day of my life.

I just thought to add on that we didn’t do all the traditional wedding things like the garter toss which people were aware of but lilly ended up going onto the dance floor with a microphone in hand and a chair in the other and stated that it was rime for the garter toss i loudly said we weren’t doing one and she dramatically pouted. People laughed at what i think they thought was a rehearsed thing but then she pulled out the garter put it on her leg sat on the chair and said ‘well if she wont i will’ and started doing that weird pointy thing where people scrunch and stretch there finger to beckon someone if you know what i mean.( he obviously didnt do it dw)

Any way i have written alot and im aware people have short attention spans so i will try to sum up my life for the past for 4 years of being married.

My SIL would call us every night on our honeymoon from like 8 to whenever we would forcibly have to hang up and when we didn’t answer or we hung up too soon she would repeatedly call and spam us and while on these calls she would say things like ‘i bet you guys wish you were having sex right now but your actually talking to me haha’ she said this multiple time which made it even worse.

She has also constantly made the same meals as me for meetings and would make my husband pick which is better. And while im not sure if it a coincidence I have become aware she has a pattern of copying me in ways i dyed my hair a dark cherry red and two weeks she did too and then i cut a bob and she would follow i would cut bangs and who knows all of a sudden she has bangs too! She also has not stopped those perhaps a bit ‘flavourful’ snaps yet and i would like to preference that they are only for my husband they arent like a group or something to all her contacts.

I am aware some of this sounds normal but in my head its much worse so am i overreacting?

I 32 female and my husband 36 male have been married for 3 years together for 9. I have been a vegetarian for however lomg i can remember this isnt a judgment to those who arent its just a personal choice ive made in my life.

My husband is very much not a vegetarian he has meals piled of beef and pork for every meal because of this we make our own food and its been okay this way pur whole relationship we have had a mutual understanding that i dont want to make or serve meat and that i also dont want him to touch a buch of meat and then touch my food ( i also just dont like it when people make food for me).

Recently my husband has had the flu and has been bedridden forvthe past couple days he has ordered doordash and uber eats but yesterday he said he couldn’t stomach fast food so i offered to cook him something and he gleefully agreed and went to sleep.
I already had some quorn mince in the fridge so i cooked that up and but it on some pasta and when i went in to give it to him he looked extremely happy but also confused in a way.

While he was eating it i was getting ready for bed as it was nearly 11 o clock and i had spent a decent amount of time cooking him food ,not that im complaining, he said to me that he was suprised I actually cooked him meat and that i should do it more often i in retort said it was quorn and that I didn’t mind making him some when i did when he wanted it.

His face turned pale spat out the food he was chewing and started shouting at me about how he wasn’t vegetarian and that he eats real meat not this crap ect. I didn’t know what to do he isnt allergic to anything and i assumed he understood that i wasnt going to just cook meat this one time because he was ill.

He held out the half eated food to me and told me he didn’t want to talk right now so i took the plate and went into the kitchen and cried. I dont know what ive done wrong and if there is something a non vegetarian thinks that im missing please tell me. So aitah?

UPDATE-
Thank you all for the responses i wasnt quite expecting all the feedback back but you guys’ opinions have made me reflect on alot of stuff i have read all your comments however due to how many there are I havent had time to answer to them so i do apologise.

So going to the update this morning i talked to my husband about what happened and if there was something else i had done to upset him and he started saying that i disrespected him and undermined him and his descicions and that as the man of the house he should be able to choose what happens.

This completely through me off as he sounded nothing like the man i had married the once respectful person who only made snarky comments in the form of jokes was basically sounding like a ripoff andrew tate.

I just kind of stood there and listened to him as i didnt know what the reprocussions would be if i did interrupt him so he was explaining for around 5 minutes miniutes and it ended with him saying that he had enough talking and he hopes i understand and walked back into our bedroom.

I kind of just stood by the kitchen sideboard for a while and just texted my closest friend on what he had said and she said that it was extremely unhealthy and that maybe the ‘spark had gone out’ which for some reason made me laugh as it sounded too cliche but thts not relevant.

Anyway not that long later he came out of our room looking alot healthier than before and just siad he was going out with his friends and left. No kiss no hug just an announcement and gone.

I started crying which i know my seem childish but it has felt as if my relationship is crumbling in my hands at the minute and i called my mum to come over.

She arrived i explained everything that had happened and we just sat on the sofa until she had to leave and left me here alone which is why i am writing now as my husb has been gone for around nine hours with no messages or calls i dont even know where he is and im not sure what to do im even sure why im writing this tbh

Anyway i know alot of this is a ramble but i find it easy to just write it down as it seems to help ill update if he gets back thanks for all the support xx

This is my first tieme posting so sorry for any typos i will try to keep this short

Im female 35 and my huband is 39 we have been married for 6 years and have 2 wonderful kids who are 4 and our sscond is 14 months.

For some context a couple years ago me and my husband faced some financial difficulties after i just gave birth to my first born. Still being hormonal i took the issue fairly extremely and took it as we were about to loose everything (we were not). My husband however did not take it in such a serious way and remained calm, i asked him to pick up more shifts in a week and after bickering back and forth he pick up one extra shift.

I was starting to spiral and i went on facebook and tried to search for an easy source of money that didnt take too much time (i was still looking after my newborn and we had a difficult birth so it also took time to get over that). I found a group about feet picks and im extremely ashamed in where that went to as soon i was selling pictures of my feet multiple times a day.

My husband never questioned where the money was coming from and just presumed his extra shift was really helping, this cycle has continued until about a week ago. My husband asked why i had my nails done considering we were saving and i made the stupid mistake of saying and i quote “i should be able to spend 40 bucks of my money that ive made its not that big of a deal” and as soon as i said it i knew id slipped up bad.

My husband started pressing me asking me what i meant as for all he knows im a stay at home mom and i dont make money.
I dont want sympathy as such just help as im unsure on what to do how do i tell my husband ive been sending feet picks for a buch of other guys to look at.

Small update:
I am planning on telling him today when he gets back from wrk as our kids are a5 their grandparents and if a argument were to happen they wont have to hear it.

I will update later.

UPDATE-
Thanks for all the reassurance alot has happened i basically less than 24 hrs so ill try to be short with it.

I think my husband is going to divorce me but even worse i think there is someone else. This is completely unrelated i know to any issues to before but ill try to explain.

So my husband got back from work my kids weren’t home so it was just me and him i cleaned the house prepared his favourite meal to try and soften the blow and we sat down once we had eaten i said that i knew he wanted to know where i got my money from and i would tell him if he would listen without interrupting or getting mad he agreed so i explained.

I talked about my mental state being hormonal and understanding that i should have consulted him at the time and i do understand i am at fault there and i am willing to stop if he wants me to and i can take down my page and im willing to make up for it.

He sat there looking at me with this face of pure rage and stood up he started pacing the kitchen muttering things i couldn’t understand and he stormed upstairs and in under 3 minutes came back down with a bag in hand got in his car and drove away.

I waited a bit wrote a long message to him that i wont go into too much detail of but my message didn’t go through which either meant he blocked me or he had no signal.

I checked his location as we have each others location for safety and i saw him at a house pretty far away in the middle of nowhere and i didn’t want to seem crazy so i didn’t ask him where he was and even if i did he wouldn’t answer.

I felt such immense guilt i went upstairs to search for a pack of cigarettes as i gve up years ago when i got pregnant but my husband did not.

As i was search for the cigarettes i came across a small notebook that seemed to be annotated and i knew it was wrong to look in it so i placed it back and kept loooking for the cigarettes and i did find them.

I went outside sat on my porch smoked an entire pack of cigarettes and i still couldn’t forget the stupid notebook and i still hear nothing from my husband so i took the book.

I read the book from front to back read all the annotations and the scribbles i even tried to disect the stupid stuff he had scratched out and ever page got worse

At first it was just bills and gas and fuel and then it started talking about his car and then it kept referring to a girl who worked at the car dealership and how he needs to call her at first it had lists of the things he needs to say like how the fuel tank is low or the tires are flat all the boring stuff but then it started saying stuff about her life and making plans and it even got to a point of him making notes to compliment her.

This man has not complimented me for months but it seems
Every time they called he talked of her laugh and smile what the hell!
I spent hours read that book it was like watching a montage from a movie except it was a horror not a romance.

I did however find several address in the book for all different people i assume as i dont know how a car dealership woman would have several house so i googled them and actually found a match to the one he was at.

I didnt know what i was supposed to do now it was near dawn now and i had essentially invaded the deepest corner of his life with no authority but on the other hand what if he is at that house with that woman planning to divorce me for her and take my kids with him so i loose everything so i made the rash decision to go to the house.

I got there and his car was parked outside a light on the top floor was on but i couldn’t see anyone and i just sat in my car unsure on what i was waiting for do i really want this man now? Is it worth getting in a fight with a potentially innocent girl?

I kind of debated it for a bit and drove off and came home and i am now writing this my parents said they can look after the kids for a while so i can stay on stable ground and understand what i am supposed to do but with that logic i might need the rest of my life because how am i supposed to know?

There is a lot of lore to this but ill try to keep it short.

I m 42, my girlfriend 29, and my ex wife 41 have had a rough time together through mine and my gf relationship.

I met my ex wife when i was 20 and she was 19 we got married at 24 and 23 and have had 2 beautiful daughters together aged 13 and 8. My and my ex divorced 5 years ago six this year. Me and my gf have been for wach pther for just under two years now and for what ive thought we afre very happy together up until recently.

I dont know how relevant this is but me and my ex did not divorce due to cheating or anything crazy we simply could not stand to look at each other any more due to resentment keeping this in mind we havent ended on bad terms we coparent and work togethrt to stil ensure our daughters with two present respectable parents.

So every year me and my family will go on a hiking trip together up north ,essentially we just hike eat talk and sleep for two weeks and while for some would find that painful or boring if you grow up with it you find it to be heaven on earth.

So getting to the actual problem is this year my family have invited my gf she was invited last year but did have pre arranged plans with her own family so didn’t come my ex was also invited last year and every other year even since the divorce as it felt wrong to disclude someone who was part of the family for so long.

This year my girlfriend said she could come and along with that came with an rsvp from my ex wife around a week after my gf sent hers and my mom texted the gc aying how exciting it will be to have the whole band back together ect. This was not as great to hear for my gf as she and my ex have had some disagreements in the past and a lot of the time i have been stuck in the middle unsure on what to do.

Lond story short my gf and me got in a small argument as she wanted me to tell my ex that she could not come and that she is trying to break me and my gf apart. Im unsuree as to what extent i agree with this as while i would never engage in any act my ex has made some strange remarks towards me and my gf however i dont know if they were perposely rude or lude or if it was simply a misunderstanding.

After the back and forth i wound up saying that my ex was coming and if my gf had a problem with it then she could stay home like she did last time as it didn’t change anything last time and therefore wont change anything this time either. My gf rightfully stormed off and we haven’t spoken since and i know that while i said it badly i do thunk what i said wasnt wrong so aitah

EDIT:
I have uploaded this very recently but i have read all the comments and I’ve reflected on what has really been going on in my mind besind the ‘reasonings’ and excuses. I am totally ashamed to say that i think i still love my ex wife and i dont know what to do.

Whether my feelings are just there due to a bit of disconnect in my relationship now or I really do love her im unsure i texted my gf a couple minutes ago asking her to meet me tonight and she answered me immediately agreeing to meet.

I dont know what ill say and if ill say that ive been keeping my ex in my life in hopes that she will like me again or if ill continue to make reason with my actions and try to fix my relationship with my gf either way i know I’ll loose one the most important people in my life i just dont know who

UPDATE:
So yesterday i had a talk with my gf not long after this was uploaded and we discussed a lot which has completely changed the situation and is all round uncomfortable.

So after taking a beating from the comments (which i now do know is deserved) i told my gf to come to my house to talk she agreed and came over.

At first it was fairly awkward we just kind of sat in the kitchen and went over our days until she asked me if i was going to apologise or at least asked her what she wanted. Im not going to lie i was kind of taken aback by the forwardness of her question but i just apologised and said that after reflecting i realised i was taking it all too personal and that she was trying to break me away from my girls.

I ended up rambling because she just sat there looking at me with a cold stare like she was trying to tell if i was joking or not. I was in the middle of a speech of how my loyalty will always lye with my daughters and because of that sometimes my ex is roped in too as she was my bestfriend for half my life; then she interrupted me and started talking about how how she is only 29 and that she has so much time left that she doesn’t need to be left as a second choice.

Now i do want to say that i understand this and respect it but for what i personally think she was never really a second choice i just would prioritise my daughters above anyone like any respectable father would.

She wounded up saying that she doesn’t want to go on a trip for two weeks with a woman “whose lives goal is to make sure no-one gets to be near me”. I don’t really agree with this as despite a few comments a couple months ago my ex has been respectful and i feel has moved past me moving on.

Near the end of our conversation my gf said that i had to choose if i wanted her or my ex by choosing who i wanted on the trip and i could either put her first and i will get another chance or i can go with my ex but i will never talk to her again.

Im not really sure on what i am going to do i dont have long to decide as we are travelling up next Saturday so i have some quick thinking to do.

I also want to say again i wouldnt pick my ex if my children were not involved but i feel if i do pick my gf then my daughters may resent me and im unsure on what that would lead to with my relationship with my daughters and my relationship with my gf.

Hi reddit i 34 f and my husband 36 m have been married for 4 years by this august. Our marriage has been my rock not even him alone but our marriage when im having a bad day i think about our wedding our memories and how “strong” and “healthy” our relationship is despite the significant time spent together. We met when i was 27 and he was 28 around a year before covid and even though alot of family heavily argued against it we spent lockdown together because we both knew that it would only be us forever. Or so i thought.

​Me and my older sister have a bigger age gap than most she is 46 my parent had her young and then had me older so there was always a bit of a rift in our relationship however over time this relationship has gotten close even so that we call each other when something happens which is a great change than before. My sister had her first daughter when she was 22 with a man who was not the least bit amused with her or the baby so naturally she leaned on my parents alot. Fast forward 22 years and my sister is married with another two kids no longer dependant on my parents however does not have the sources to house and feed her oldest who at this point is 22. I would like to say my sister did not kick her daughter out or even ask but suggested she got a job to pay for her own meals or even pay rent and in response my niece blew up screaming at her mum about how she already has enough going on with school work without including a job on top of that.

​After the screaming rally my niece shows up on my doorstep crying explaining what happened. I understood both side but suggested she stayed at mine and my husbands hoise for a few weeks while things calm down so he mum can have a brake from the money output and so she wouldnt feel dismissed of her needs either. Now fast forward 2 years and those “few weeks” have turned into 2 years i for a while had no problem me and my husband have the money to house her and its good company to have while my husband is at work and all these feelings were true until a few months ago when i noticed a pattern of me catching my husband and niece staring at each other like it was a signal or a language. I still tried to brush it off until more things started happening like him driving her to places and even going out. Together i tried once talking to him about him but he insisted it was friendly family bonding so i didnt want to sound needy.

​my breaking point happened not long after he started “working” at home which was coincidentally not long after i stared picking up shifts at a local dog pound. I know you can probably see where this is going but one day i came home early from a shift as i felt in my gut something was wrong which i know makes me sound like a loony but i couldn’t dismiss the feeling of a gnawing pain. On my stomach so i said i was feeling ill and came home unannounced. I was dead quiet no music no talking nothing so i tiptoed around the house trying to make it not obvious i was home so soon until i came to the lounge. For a little bit of context the lounge has a large arch instead of a door so its easy to see/hear through and i could hear a faint murmur so i go a bit closer and I’m still not fully sure what it was my guess was them kissing but as soon as that popped into my head i couldn’t bare it and loudly stormed in. To my surprise they were back in a normal position talking im still not 100% sure about that.

​I also know I’m making this very lone so ill try to be quick around two weeks ago my husband went to one of his friends house and my niece was out some where as well so i used this short block of time to do so investigating and im not proud of what i did but i “somehow” changed hi password on his iPad that is linked to his phone and started reading through my husband and nieces messages and my hart plummeted when i saw how many the last one only being sent this morning that was about him telling her how pretty she looked at breakfast this morning. The oldest flirty message i could find was around a year a go months before i suspected anything it was a long convocation they had about their “future” which is crazy being as these messages were sent while I WAS ASLEEP NEXT TO HIM.

​Im now contemplating many options and none seem good theres no mistaking it but there is also no escape. Im dependant on this man he is my income he is my home he is what i have leaned on for years and what do i do when my pillar of support in pulled down not to mention that the woman he’s cheating on me with is my niece i feel defeated and done I’m sorry for any spelling mistakes or punctuation I’m just so tired now if anyone has anything please tell me as I’m completely alone right now.

(Edit just to fix paragraphs thank you to whoever sorted this out for me)