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I plan on meal prepping to campus and I just wanted to know if there are any microwaves that are easily accessible to students. I know there is one in hunt library, but are there any on main campus?

So recently I've been thinking a lot about karma and how it works. I know that like if give out good then you will get more good things that happen to you and vice versa with bad things. But I've just been wondering how that actually works.

Like if I do something bad to someone and then someone else does something bad to me does it just repeat the cycle of people doing bad things to each other. Or like did the person who did something bad to me get good karma because I deserved bad karma.
To me it makes more sense to like break the cycle but idrk.

And like with animals how does that work. If someone kicks a dog will they get the same amount of bad karma that they would if it was a person or are humans more "valuable."

Or if I have good intent for something but end up doing something very bad do I get good karma or bad.

Idk I could come up with a lot more questions. I just have a basic understanding and don't really get it very in depth so could someone please explain?

I’m doing the paperwork to sign up for counseling at NC State, and it’s asking me if I want to use an embedded counselor. I’m an engineering major so I would be assigned to the engineering one but I don’t really understand the difference between an embedded counselor and a non embedded counselor.

Does anyone have experience with the engineering embedded counselor or know how it works?

Like, can I still talk about regular life problems, relationships, stress, anxiety or is the embedded counselor mainly for problems related to engineering courses and issues I’m having with my major?

I’m mostly just wondering if there’s any real difference in what I can talk about with an embedded counselor vs a regular counselor and if there’s any reason I should choose one over the other.

So this is my second year at Ncsu and I wasn’t very involved last year. The only club I was involved in was film club for the free movies. I’m trying to change that by joining more clubs. And I’m trying to make some new friends in the process. I don’t really have any clubs that I’m interesting in besides maybe something like discomfort club. So any clubs you suggest would be a big help.

Thank you!

Hey Reddit!

So I’ve been depressed for a while I think but I’ve not been to therapy because it’s just too expensive. But I’m leaving for college next week and they have free counseling sessions so I plan on going very soon. But for the past month it has felt like a constant hell so I’m coming to Reddit to help solve my problems lol.

For context I’m about to go into my second year for EE. Last year was a big change for me and so I didn’t do too well but plan on change things this year. Anyway I met this girl and we hit it off. She was a lesbian at the time and so I just thought of her as my friend.

In high school, I had always sorta felt like I belonged to a friend group but never really as a friend. Like we would all hangout but it felt like it was because i was in the friend group and not becuase I was the friend. So meeting a girl where it could genuinely just be the 2 of us as best friends felt nice. I mean we would basically hangout everyday and sometimes I spent the night in her dorm. Eventually after the first semester I started to realize that I might have feelings for her but didn’t move in on them. She then started having a feeling that she wasn’t really a lesbian so I asked her if she wanted to do something with to find out if she might be bisexual. She said yes and turns out she liked it a lot.

I didn’t want to ruin our friendship so kept our hookups as like a causal thing. Then one day she told me that she was talking to this one guy and my heart sank. So that night I confessed my feelings for her and she rejected me because she was also afraid that it might ruin our relationship. So I kept my distance for a week before she came back to me saying that she changed her mind and she was maybe did want to try to start dating. So we went on a couple dates and then I let slip that I loved her and then she started to freak out a little and then ended things again. And then I was distant for about another week before she changed her mind again. Then I asked her out 2 weeks later and everything was great and had a fun time together.

Then summer break came and we moved to different states but we still talked everyday. After a month I told her I planned to visit her and her family and stay for about a week. That time came and we had a great time she even told one of mutual connections about how fun it was.

Then about a week after I left her and her family’s house I got this ominous text about how when we get back to school she might want to end things because she doesnt like the feeling of being tied down and wanted to have some fun while she is still in undergrad. I freaked out because like who wouldn’t to a text like that that came from literally no where. She kept trying to reassure me that it has nothing to do with me but it’s just the fact we were in a relationship. But no matter what she said it didn’t make me feel better. We kept talking a week after because I kept trying to change her mind. Eventually she told me that she wants me to move on because she doesn’t think she is coming back. So I told her that as long as she is on her exploration journey that I want to do no contact.

It’s been about a month since then and I still feel devastated. I think about her everyday almost all the time. Deep in my heart I hope that she changes her mind like she did all those other times before. I should probably also mention that she’s bi polar so that’s why she has such a hard time making a decision. But yeah so I literally can’t get her out of my head. I don’t really have any close friends at college besides her so I don’t really know what to do with myself when I go back. She’s the first person in a long time where I could genuinely just be myself and could tell her or do anything with her.

Part of me says just go back to being her friend because it’s better than being her nothing. But the other part of me is saying that being around someone you want who doesn’t want you that way while at the same time “having fun” with other people feels like a crushing weight I don’t want to bear.

Maybe this is just one of those times that just goes away with time even though it sucks so bad. I don’t know.

Hello everyone!

I’m going to be a sophomore next year. Im an EE major and I honestly didn’t have that great of a semester last year and I’m worried about the next semester starting soon. And I had a falling out with my best friend and don’t really know what to do anymore.

As soon as the semester starts I was planning on using the free consulting center but I’ve heard good and bad things about it. I’m also living off campus next year and am probably going to be insanely broke.

I just wanted to know some tips about what help I can do to improve mental health at NCSU and what everyone thinks of the counseling center?

Anything helps thank you!

For context I am a 20 year old male going into my sophomore year of college majoring in electrical engineering. And I have been depressed for a really long time now.

When she broke up with me the exact words she used were, “we aren’t compatible long term, i am ambitious and you are not, i like to do things and you like to sleep until 1 and scroll on your phone, i enjoy being independent and you are dependent, i prioritize emotional intelligence and you should see a psychiatrist to work on things, i do not want to be with you please move on”

And I realized that she is right I mean I don’t even really do anything besides play video games, doom scroll all day, and occasionally hangout with my friends. It felt like wake up call to me.

So I told my mom I think I was depressed and that I might want to go to sleep and then cease to exist afterwards and that I think I need help. So she told me that she would help me find a therapist until I go back to college.

Now I want to let you know that I am not trying to better myself and change so I can get back with her. I want to get better because I don’t want to feel like such a loser anymore.

I want to know what steps you guys recommend to bettering myself. I already am getting a therapist so I need help with other steps. I would really appreciate the help. And I’ll be glad to give you anymore information you need.

Hello,

I am living at The Station next semester, and I am planning on buying a dining plan because I lowk don't know how to cook and am too lazy to learn. So, I was wondering if anyone has some suggestions.

I am mostly going to be on the engineering campus, and I only have one class on North Campus. I was thinking of getting the commuter plan, but a lot of people tell me that the block plans are better. Or do you think I should forget about dining plans altogether and just meal prep some simple sandwiches every day?

TLDR at the bottom!

Hi! I’m sure this question has been asked plenty of times before but I would like advice for my situation.

To start off I am about to be a sophomore in college and so is my ex. I met her before college started and we became best friends and eventually started dating. She used to be a lesbian and then became bisexual when we started dating.

We were dating for about 4 months and things we going really well and then one day she texted me saying that she might want to breakup when school starts back. She said that for her sophomore year she didn’t want to feel like she was tied down by anyone. she wanted to explore and have fun and then things might change junior year. I freaked out and we had an argument and she ended it by breaking up with me over text. she told me I was the healthiest relationship she’s ever had and that it has nothing to do with me but just the fact the we were in a relationship. I was devastated since then. I eventually texted her a couple days ago saying I want to go no contact and then said a few words that I’m not proud of. She texted back saying that she didn’t mean to end things the way they did. She was trying to slowly bring up the idea of an open relationship but since I freaked out about her wanting to end our relationship she assumed I didn’t want an open relationship.

The thing is I’ve have only ever been in monogamous relationships and so has she. The thing is idk what her idea of an open relationships is. I am assuming her version is not really an emotional attachment but purely just a sexual one. Like one night stands and stuff. I’m currently waiting on a reply for what open relationship means to her.

The things is idk if I want an open relationship. I am sort of a jealous guy and am afraid that I might feel even worse that she’s sleeping with others. But also I might be open to trying it. I truly am so in love with this girl and I absolutely love her family. I want to be with her again but I am scared that if she tries someone else that she might fall for them instead of me. Or if I try a different girl that I just be depressed cause it might feel like I’m cheating on her when I’m not. But again this is all just speculation as I’ve only been in monogamous relationships before.

If we try an open relationship and then I don’t enjoy it I don’t know if I could ever be friends with her again which is devastating to me because she’s basically my only friend in college. Please help me with advice!

TL;DR: My ex-girlfriend (both of us are college sophomores) broke up with me because she didn’t want to feel tied down and wanted to explore during sophomore year. After we broke up, she told me she hadn’t actually wanted to end the relationship. She was trying to bring up the idea of an open relationship instead, but thought I wasn’t open to it after I reacted badly. I’ve only ever been in monogamous relationships, and I’m worried I’d be too jealous or get hurt if she slept with other people. I’m also worried that if I tried sleeping with other people, I’d just feel guilty and depressed because it would feel like I was cheating on her, even though it wouldn’t be. I still love her and want to get back together, but I’m afraid an open relationship could make things even worse or permanently ruin our friendship if it doesn’t work out. I’m waiting to hear what an “open relationship” actually means to her and would appreciate advice from people with experience.

TLDR at the bottom

Hi! I’m sure this question has been asked plenty of times before but I would like advice for my situation.

To start off I am about to be a sophomore in college and so is my ex. I met her before college started and we became best friends and eventually started dating. She used to be a lesbian and then became bisexual when we started dating.

We were dating for about 4 months and things we going really well and then one day she texted me saying that she might want to breakup when school starts back. She said that for her sophomore year she didn’t want to feel like she was tied down by anyone. she wanted to explore and have fun and then things might change junior year. I freaked out and we had an argument and she ended it by breaking up with me over text. she told me I was the healthiest relationship she’s ever had and that it has nothing to do with me but just the fact the we were in a relationship. I was devastated since then. I eventually texted her a couple days ago saying I want to go no contact and then said a few words that I’m not proud of. She texted back saying that she didn’t mean to end things the way they did. She was trying to slowly bring up the idea of an open relationship but since I freaked out about her wanting to end our relationship she assumed I didn’t want an open relationship.

The thing is I’ve have only ever been in monogamous relationships and so has she. The thing is idk what her idea of an open relationships is. I am assuming her version is not really an emotional attachment but purely just a sexual one. Like one night stands and stuff. I’m currently waiting on a reply for what open relationship means to her.

The thing is idk if I want an open relationship. I am sort of a jealous guy and am afraid that I might feel even worse that she’s sleeping with others. But also I might be open to trying it. I truly am so in love with this girl and I absolutely love her family. I want to be with her again but I am scared that if she tries someone else that she might fall for them instead of me. Or if I try a different girl that I just be depressed cause it might feel like I’m cheating on her when I’m not. But again this is all just speculation as I’ve only been in monogamous relationships before.

If we try an open relationship and then I don’t enjoy it I don’t know if I could ever be friends with her again which is devastating to me because she’s basically my only friend in college. Please help me with advice!

TL;DR: My ex-girlfriend (both of us are college sophomores) broke up with me because she didn’t want to feel tied down and wanted to explore during sophomore year. After we broke up, she told me she hadn’t actually wanted to end the relationship. She was trying to bring up the idea of an open relationship instead, but thought I wasn’t open to it after I reacted badly. I’ve only ever been in monogamous relationships, and I’m worried I’d be too jealous or get hurt if she slept with other people. I’m also worried that if I tried sleeping with other people, I’d just feel guilty and depressed because it would feel like I was cheating on her, even though it wouldn’t be. I still love her and want to get back together, but I’m afraid an open relationship could make things even worse or permanently ruin our friendship if it doesn’t work out. I’m waiting to hear what an “open relationship” actually means to her and would appreciate advice from people with experience.

So for some context, I was a first-year college student last year. I am an electrical engineering major, and so I didn't really have any good friends except for this girl that I met on Instagram. She was a human biology major. When we first met, things were kind of awkward because we had only talked online, but after a while we became best friends. I didn't really have any other friends that I talked to that much.

She was a lesbian in high school and didn't really like men that much, but I guess she made an exception for me. We were a lot like Steve and Robin from Stranger Things. I basically did everything with her, and if I didn't do it with her, I basically didn't do it. We watched movies together, went to parties together, and I basically was always in her dorm room.

I eventually started to gain feelings for her after we dressed up as Coraline and Wybie (everyone tells me I look exactly like Wybie, and she has dyed hair) for Halloween. Over the whole first semester, she was sort of questioning her sexuality because she had only ever been attracted to women, so she didn't really know if she liked guys. She said she wanted to "try a guy" to find out for sure. She didn't want to make some guy feel bad if she tried a guy and didn't like it, so she asked me if I would be the guy she tried, and so I said yes. She eventually liked it and said she might be bisexual, and so after that we started hooking up and then started dating in March.

I should also mention that she has a history of mental health problems, as she is bipolar. So she changes her mind about things QUITE OFTEN. So at first she rejected me because she said, "I didn't want to hurt you if I went crazy." I didn't really care because I was in love with this girl. Eventually she said yes.

We were happy for the rest of the semester, and then it was summer break, and we went back home, and she lived about 5 hours away. We still talked every day, and I made a plan to visit her and her family for a week. When I went, everything was great, and we had such a fun time. About a week after I went home, I received a text from her basically saying, "Hey, I don't wanna scare you, but when we get back to school I might not want a relationship anymore," and of course I was scared because I didn't want to lose her.

We had a conversation for a while, and she told me that she just didn't want to feel like she was tied down to anyone. I said, "Did I do something bad?" and she told me, "No, quite the opposite. You are the healthiest relationship I've ever had, and I love you." She wanted me to make sure I knew that it wasn't me that was the problem, it was the relationship that was the problem. I asked her why, and she said she didn't really know. I was starting to get really scared, so I said, "I plan on using our school's free therapist center when we get back, so maybe you should too. I think they might help you figure out why you feel this way. It might help or it might not, but it doesn't hurt to try."

She then freaked out a little and said she had therapists before and they were helpful, but she doesn't think a therapist would help. Then she just said that she didn't think it would work out and then broke up with me.

I haven't really messaged her since then. It's been a couple days since then, and she reached out and said, "You can ignore this if you want, but I wanted to ask how you're doing, and if you want to talk, I'm here." But I have no clue what to say or if I even want to.

I don't think I can go back to just being her friend, but I also don't want to lose the only friend I have at college. So right now I am just hoping that she might change her mind and come back like she did the first time.

TL;DR: My (20M) girlfriend (19F), who was also my best and pretty much only friend in college, broke up with me because she said she doesn't want to feel "tied down," even though she said I was the healthiest relationship she's ever had and that I didn't do anything wrong. A few days later she reached out asking how I was doing and said she's there if I want to talk. I don't think I can go back to just being friends, but I also don't want to lose the only close friend I have at college. I'm not sure what to do.

I have a 6’11 C with a 7’3 wingspan. I have a 90 standing dunk and driving dunk and 83 vert with gold rise up. But everytime I’m standing under the basket with a guy a little close to me it does a layup instead of yamming it. Do I need a better rise up or something or do I need to be fully open to dunk it or something.