u/Dapper-Reflection-25

so i applied for an apartment and got it.

i just found out my unit is directly across from the trash chute. i asked if it has any pest or roach issues. if they say no but it does, could i break my lease?

it worries me because it’s been days and they haven’t answered.

EDIT: the reason i’m saying i have no choice is because my mom is co signing (i don’t make 3x the rent but am paying by myself) and this is the only place she will let me stay.

so i wear pads and have no interest in wearing a tampon (please don’t come at me in the comments), so i can’t really go swimming. i plan to dip my feet in.

what do i do at the party when people ask why?

What do you think is the biggest issue that local governments should prioritize when planning new housing developments in a community? For example, should they focus more on affordability, traffic, environmental impacts, public transportation, parks, or something else? Why?

i’m so confused! i completed the employment and income verification last week.

today i got steps for moving in (shows the unit and move in date on the site with tasks) but i never got a lease??

i don’t get this. has this happened to anyone?

i need advice on what to do in this situation with my parents. i’m not sure if they’re narc (feel free to tell me if they are/aren’t) but didn’t know where to post.

Please bear with me. This is going to be long, but I have to paint the whole picture. I’m desperate.

So I need advice. My situation with my parents is a mess. I'm graduated college. I moved back in for the summer before I move out for hopefully good. And it's just a whole mess.

So, I can't drive because of my vision, so my mom took me to my eye appointment. And on the way back, she's like, oh, let's go directly to the office, her work. And I was like, oh, I started my master's in June. I was like, oh, I have a lot of schoolwork. If I had known, I would have brought my laptop. And it was only 2 p.m. and she stays till past 6, meaning I would be sitting there for hours with nothing to do. And I had an assignment due that night, and it was a pretty lengthy assignment.

And then she blew up and said how I'm so selfish, cursing me out, saying I'm the most inconsiderate person, and she doesn't like her mother-in-law, my grandma. And she's like, oh, you're just like her. You're gonna be miserable. You're gonna not have anybody. You're gonna be all alone in this world. You cut people off. And keep in mind, I've only cut off two people, two friends who they told me to cut off. I was ready to forgive them.

And then she got mad that Iall I said was happy Father's Day to my dad and didn't do anything special. But that's a whole story. Basically, he financially cheated on my mom for 10 years. He lied about having a job. He was unemployed, blew through her retirement fund. got so much debt and just, I'm not gonna go into it but just terrible and was acting like this whole time we had money.

So that's not easy for me to forgive, especially when I kept being put in the middle. like, they would be saying, who do you think is right? What would you do if you were in this situation? Don't you understand how I feel? and then when they were separate, they would each complain about the other, say how lost and lonely they are. And so I tried telling her that, and she's like, oh, OK, so we're just terrible parents, people. Everything is our fault.

And so then that night my mom was like, oh, someone died at 100 years old. I was like, oh wait, who? No answer. I thought they didn't hear me, so I asked three more times, nothing. So I knew at this point, they were ignoring me. And so I just went upstairs and that was it.

And so the next day my dad came home from work, and it was so awkward. Nobody said anything. I was hurt because I felt rejected because I had tried speaking and they hadn't said anything. I just didn't wanna go through that. And he's like, oh, so after all of that, you're still not gonna say anything? And then I told him I had tried yesterday and then he was like, you knew how hurt I was that you didn't do anything for Father's Day. And I explained to him the thing that I explained to my mom. And he said the exact same thing my mom said, like, literally all the same things.

And it's just like, I don't even know why I tried. I should have known that they would never even begin to understand where I am coming from. so then I went to my room again, and I heard them talking bad about me and how I'm just so ungrateful and so argumentative and that my mom was like, oh, I didn't need to be in therapy to get through this. And I tried explaining that I, for almost a year, actually, I think it was more than a year, was consoling both of them. I felt like I had to fix the situation, so I didn't get time to process it. So I'm just processing it now. And they got mad at that too.

So, yeah, I just don't know what to do at this point. I'm just thinking of being like you guys win. I give in. I'm sorry. I shouldn't have expected for you guys to understand me. what can I do to make, let us move on.

Oh, also, I forgot to add that I'm planning on moving, and they don't like that at all. They think that it's a selfish thing to do, that I don't listen to anyone, that I always have to do things my way. That was also a central part of her argument, and I'm gonna be fully financially independent. and I need this to go over because I need her to co-sign, not because I need her money, but because I won't be making three times the income, but I will be making enough to pay the rent. So they do have that over my head. And I just, yeah, they're pissed about me moving.

What do you think I should do? I’m so over this, feeling anxious all the time, crying and not being able to stop. I couldn’t even film a video for one of my class. Please please help!

i applied Sunday and nothing.

i’m moving to Chicago so i need something that helps with traction. my balance is poor as is. i have right hemi so i need something that can be put on with one hand (no laces please and not hard to pullover my feet). i don’t wear AFOs so it doesn’t have to be wide.

what recommendations do you have?

- River North Park
- The Duncan
- Century Tower
- Presidential Towers (i have heard people have crazy infestations and then others none). please share your thoughts experience and what tower and floor you are on.

do you have any other suggestions under $2K in West Loop or River North? i don’t want to see any roaches.

i know a lot is floor dependent. for high up would you say you need to be?

i don’t get the whole first part of cigarette smoke. what’s the significance to that the song?

does Olivia smoke?

Macro Social Work Practice: Working for Change in a Multicultural Society
ISBN: ISBN: 1516507576
ISBN13: 9781516507573
Authors: Michael Reisch
Publisher: Cognella, Inc.
Publication Date: April 2018

i’m visually impaired and can’t lift heavy things. is this going to stop me from getting the license?

i’m about to start math lessons online. anyone have any suggestions on how to go about it?

the reviews from a year ago say they do. can anyone report on the situation now?

was it simply just to check off the box to be qualified or do actually remember/use the knowledge acquired?

or would you say you learn more on the job? i guess i’m curious how relevant it is.

to order my official transcript.

this is embarrassing and pathetic. i graduated high school 3 years ago.

there was this teacher i got close to- they really cared about me, remembered what i said. i felt chosen like someone’s favourite. someone paid attention to me. i would go to their classroom to hang out.

i see them as a parental figure, no attraction or anything. i still think of them pretty much daily and picture myself updating them on my life.

how do i move on?

EDIT: i should add that we stayed in touch for a year after i graduated but then they didn’t answer to my last email. i don’t if i became too much :(

it’s confusing because they followed me on social media which i did back and commented on my college graduation post.

i see the charge in my Chase account but it’s not showing ordered.

has anyone had this issue? what do i do?