u/Defiant-Usual-1182

I’m waiting on my abortion pills to come. I plan on telling my family - including my husband - that I had a miscarriage. That may make me an awful person, but I don’t want to go through with this pregnancy, I don’t want to have another baby right now, my little girl is only 7 months old, she’ll only be 13 months old on my due date. My parents are very anti abortion, my husband isn’t, but he still wants me to have this baby, he says we’ll be fine, but I’m only 8 weeks in and I’m absolutely miserable already. I have no energy to do anything, I can’t go more than a few hours without feeling like I’m going to puke everywhere. I’m not being the mom I want to be to my daughter. My husband has been a great help, but he works a lot and I’m home with my daughter alone pretty much all day 5 days a week. I’m exhausted, and not doing what I should for my baby.

I’m worried, because I know I will need my mom or husband to watch my daughter while I go through the process. I’m worried they will want me to go to the hospital before it’s complete and the doctors will be able to tell the difference, or it will be incomplete and they push for a D&C. I’m so nervous about the whole process and how everyone would react if they found out the truth.

Has anyone else done this?

I got abortion pills coming through the mail. They just sent me instructions and it’s pretty clear it’s going to be painful by the amount of pain meds they tell you to take. I just wondered other peoples experience on a scale of 1-10 how bad was it?

I’m 10 weeks pregnant and woke up this morning bleeding quite a bit. Cramping is bad and I’m passing clots. I definitely think I’m having a miscarriage. I called my OB and they said I don’t need to go to the hospital unless I’m soaking through a pad an hour or the pain is unbearable. They got me an appointment for Thursday. I just don’t want to wait 2 days to know for sure if I’ve lost my baby.

Did anyone else go to the hospital for a miscarriage?

So my FIL is currently in a rehabilitation facility after having surgery a month ago and losing movement in his left side. This past Sunday all of my husbands family got together and brought food up
there and ate lunch with him. We brought our 7 month old daughter.

When we got there our daughter was strapped into her stroller and he was playing with her, talking to her and then he grabbed a big piece of watermelon off a fruit tray infront of him and held it up to her mouth. I didn’t mind at all. She had chewed on watermelon before for her “half birthday” and everyone was watching her so she was fine. Then I turned away and was talking to my husbands aunt and my husband was talking to one of his brothers, when I turned back this man had a whole grape in my daughters mouth. Barely holding onto it. I smacked his hand and grabbed the grape out of my daughter’s mouth without a thought. Everyone looked at me like I had lost my mind. I quickly apologized for smacking him but said she could choke, my husband backed me up thankfully. My FIL mumbled that he was watching her. I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with it and to give her watermelon or something she would just gnaw on and not go down her throat. I just felt incredibly awkward for the rest of the visit.

Did I overreact?

My baby is almost 7 months old and has stopped sleeping through the night. She used to sleep from 8pm-6/7am with no wake ups. She’s now waking up fussing a couple of times, usually easy to soothe, and then full on waking up around 3-4am, I have to get up and rock her back to sleep. Then she wants to be up for the day at 5:30.

When she first started I thought it was teeth. She is teething, but I have been giving her Tylenol and ibuprofen through the night, and when she wakes up at 3-4am she’s not really crying she fusses for a minute and then she just stares at me when I’m up rocking her.

She’s dropped a nap during the day, she only has two and then maybe a short 20-30 minute one if she stays up late. Yesterday she napped a total of 2 and a half hours for the day, so I don’t think she’s getting too much day time sleep.

I wasn’t expecting a sleep regression at this age, she was very punctual for her 4 month regression and I was hoping we would be good until 8 months.

Anybody else’s baby have a regression at this age? I’m hoping it won’t last too long, I’m a week in and I’m tired.

My baby girl is almost 7 months old. She used to sleep completely through the night, going to bed around 8-9 and waking up at 7. About two weeks ago she started fussing once or twice through the night and would fall right back to sleep with the pacifier or just my hand on her. Then she started waking up earlier, 6am, then 5:30. The past week she can sleep for about 2-3 hours when I first put her down and then it’s almost every hour she’s up fussing and taking a while to soothe.

She is teething so I thought that was the reason she keeps waking up, and I was just giving her a dose of Ibuprofen before bed. Now I’m starting to give her a second dose through the night and sometimes Tylenol in between doses, hoping that would help her sleep. It has not.

Last night I put her to bed around 9 and she fussed a little around 1, pacifier and she was right back out, then she was up at 2 and I could not get her back to sleep until I got up and rocked her back to sleep. It was past 3 before I got her back in bed and then she fussed again before I could fall back asleep. She woke up at 5:20 and I got up to make her a bottle, she’s currently back to sleep at almost 6 and I’m about to put her back down, praying she’ll sleep a while longer. According to her owlet she hasn’t even gotten 6 hours of sleep tonight.

I don’t know what to do. She used to sleep so great in her crib, and I do not want to start co sleeping, but the thought of sleep training makes me so nervous. I just don’t know. I need sleep though, I’m so exhausted.

My baby girl is almost 7 months old, at her 6 month check up her doctor said her bottom teeth will probably break through soon, and she has nubs for her top teeth so they would be coming in the near future. None of them have broken through yet, but I’m guessing they’re getting close as my baby can’t get through the night without waking up fussing. Last night was terrible. Up almost every hour and having a hard time getting her settled.

I give her a dose of ibuprofen before bed. I wondered if I should start giving her another dose through the night, it’s every 6 hours. Or if I should start giving her Tylenol after 3 hours of giving her ibuprofen and alternating. Her doctor recommended doing it that way, I just feel bad keeping her medicated. She seems to do okay during the day without it since she can chew on teethers, but she has been eating more often and has been more clingy. I wondered how other moms got through this teething stage, if I should be medicating her more. I just don’t want her to be in pain, and would love to get some sleep.

Apparently, the deeper I dive into this, it’s more common than I thought for women to experience paranormal activity after having a baby. Call it sleep deprivation, call it postpartum psychosis, or the paranormal trying to get close to an innocent. Whatever it is, it happened to me and I would love to hear others experiences.

To preface this, my husband and I live in the house I grew up in. Growing up, I heard voices and footsteps in the middle of the night, but nothing truly scary happened to me growing up. My sister and my mom are different stories. If there was something in the house, it seemed to have liked them the most.

My sister claimed to have seen a shadow figure a lot. Interestingly, she used to jokingly call it Alfred, and we ended up finding out that we have a great great grandfather named Alfred. Anyways, my sister would have things move around in her room, she would have faces appear in pictures. The scariest for me was when she and I were sitting on her bed talking and everything came flying off the shelves in her closest. Scared us both to death.

My mom had a similar experience, and also claimed to see a shadow figure. My mom would also hear my sister or I call out to her frequently when we didn’t. My father, who is very religious and doesn’t believe in anything paranormal, also heard it. He and my mom were talking in the kitchen and both stopped when they heard my voice call out for my mom - I was away at a friends.

My mom and sister both claim that whatever it was followed them as they both still see and hear the same things in their new houses. I believed them, because when my husband and I moved in 3 years ago, it was so quiet. Up until we brought our daughter home last fall.

I don’t know if it’s just where I’m up at night now and I never was before, but I hear voices and footsteps again, often. The first scary thing that started happening was my husband started hearing my voice calling for him. We chalked it up to sleep deprivation, but our daughter started sleeping good at night around 2 months old, she would only get up once, so I started being responsible for night shift so he’d be well rested for work. So when he kept hearing my voice, we thought that was odd.

I’ve personally had two chilling experiences, where I genuinely felt scared. Once, my daughter was up screaming, inconsolable. I was up, walking back and forth bouncing her when all of the sudden I got chills up my back, my back felt so cold, then my daughter stopped crying and her eyes focused on something just behind me. I quickly sat myself down in the rocking chair and was paranoid the rest of the night.

A couple weeks later something similar happened. My daughter woke up early, I took her into the living room to feed her, we played for awhile and then I was getting ready to put her down for her first nap. The rocking chair in the living room was set with its back towards my husband and my bedroom door. I sat down in it and my daughter was fussing, when again, I got a cold chill, my daughter stopped crying and looked just past me, then the bedroom door, which was completely shut, I heard the knob turn and click, slowly opened. I had chills, but I called out for my husband hoping he had heard our daughter crying and got up to check on us. I turned around and nothing, no one. I yelled out for my husband who was still snoring in bed and he came running. It scared me so bad we rearranged the living room so the rocking chair is in a corner.

I’ve seen the door open a couple other times, but after that I don’t completely latch it shut anymore so I can tell myself that the fan, that has been running all night, finally circulated enough air to push the door open.

I still hear voices and footsteps at night, but nothing super scary has happened like that since. Anybody else experience paranormal stuff postpartum?

Apparently, the deeper I dive into this, it’s a common experience for new moms to experience paranormal activity. Call it sleep deprivation, postpartum psychosis, or the paranormal trying to get close to the innocent, whatever you call it, it happened to me, and I would love to hear if it happened to others in this sub.

A little back story - my husband and I live in the house I grew up in. Growing up, I would hear footsteps in the middle of the night, hear voices, but nothing ever really scary, or unexplainable happened to me in this house. My sister and my mom are different stories. It seemed that if there was something in this house, it liked my mom and my sister.

My sister would see shadowy figures, she would have stuff move around her room, and one day her and I were sitting on her bed and everything flew off the shelves in her closet. We would also see faces in pictures of my sister. My mom also claimed to have seen shadowy figures, hear voices, and once when we were small she claimed to have woken up choking, the feeling of someone’s hands wrapped around her neck. She said she seen a shadow figure standing at the edge of the bed and then all the sudden it was gone and she could breathe again. She found out later that our neighbor had died in her sleep (she was really old, so it wasn’t like a shock) She jokes about it now that the grim reaper had the wrong house.

Even my father who is super religious and does not believe in paranormal has heard things. Him and my mom were talking in the kitchen and they both heard my voice call for my mom. I was away at my friends house. One day after I heard voices talking in the middle of the night, I asked my dad how he slept and he said terrible, he kept hearing people talk and someone banging on the house, and he got up to check it out.

All this to say, once my sister moved out, a lot of this stuff died down. She claims whatever it was followed her. Interestingly enough, she used to joke and call the shadow figure Alfred… turns out we have a great great grandfather named Alfred. My mom also thinks something followed her, as she still sees everything at her new house. I believed them because when my husband and I moved in 3 years ago, it was so quiet. Never seen or heard anything. Until we brought our baby home last fall.

I don’t know if it’s just where I’m up in the middle of the night now or what. The first thing that happened was my husband started hearing me call for him when I didn’t. We chalked that up to sleep deprivation, but our daughter started sleeping pretty good around 2 months old, she would only wake up once through the night and I was on night duty, so my husband could be well rested for work, so when he still heard my voice calling for him, we thought it was a little weird.

I’ve also started hearing voices and footsteps in the middle of the night again, but the scariest two experiences for me was one night I was up with my baby, she was crying a lot so I was up walking back and forth, bouncing and shushing her. Nothing helped until all of the sudden she stopped crying and her little eyes focused on something just past me. Right before she did that I got goosebumps and chills all the way up my back. I sat myself right down in the rocking chair and was paranoid the rest of the night.

Something similar happened a few weeks later, it was early morning, she wasn’t going back to bed so I went to the living room and fed her, and after awhile she was ready for a nap. She fussed for a while and then again all of the sudden, stopped and looked behind me. The rocking chair in the living room was right next to my husband and my bedroom door. She looked past me and then the bedroom door opened. It was shut completely, I heard the knob turn and it slowly opened. I said my husbands name, thinking he had heard her crying and got up. I looked back and nothing, no one. I yelled out for my husband, who was still snoring in bed and he came running out.

I still hear voices and noises and footsteps all the time, but nothing scary like that has happened in a while. I just wondered if anyone else had ghostly experiences postpartum?

My daughter is 6 months old, when she was born she had the average grey eye color a lot of newborns have. For a while we thought she was going to have blue eyes because they looked super blue, not a light blue, but blue. Recently they’ve started looking more green and are definitely getting darker.

My husband has really pretty blue/green eyes and I have brown. Today when we were outside in the sun I saw brown around my daughter’s pupils. I quickly took a picture of them and when my husband got home from work I showed him the pictures and said “It looks like she’s going to have my eyes!” My husband was quick to deny the fact that she even had brown in her eyes. Nope she’s got blue or green, she’s definitely not going to have brown.

This isn’t the first time he’s said something like that either. He’s denied her eyes turning dark a lot. When she still had her blue/grey color I told him that it’s a very real possibility she’ll have brown eyes and he said “She better not”

I told him once that it hurt my feelings when he said stuff like that because it makes me feel like he thinks my eyes are ugly and he doesn’t want them passed onto his daughter. He told me it was because our daughter looks so much like me he was hoping that she had something of his. Which I guess that makes sense, but I don’t know, it still makes me feel like he doesn’t think my eyes are pretty enough for his baby. Am I overreacting?

Has anyone converted a regular crib into a bedside sleeper? My baby girl has always slept in a sidecar bassinet and it’s been great. Shes right in arms reach, super easy to pull her into bed and feed in the middle of the night, but it also gives my anxiety a peace of mind that she has her own space, and I have mine.

She’s outgrowing the bassinet and as she’s getting bigger I know she’s going to be sitting up on her own soon, so I know it’s probably past time to switch her out to the crib, I just really don’t want to lose the convenience and the closeness of having her right beside me and in arms reach. Either way the crib is going to be in my room, right beside me, it would just be easiest for me I think to take the front off and make it into a sidecar.

I know that I’ll have to anchor the crib to my bed. I just don’t know what to do about the gap between the two beds. My girl moves a ton in her sleep so another worry for me is her getting into my bed and some how falling out as her bassinet has somewhat of a guard between our two beds.

Any and all advice welcome.

My baby girl is almost 7 months old and I’ve always heard and seen in cousins and friends babies that this is the age they develop stranger danger and become super attached to their caregivers. My girl has not. I know she loves me and her dad as she always gets a big smile on her face when we talk to her, she looks for us if we’re talking to someone and she’s always so happy to be held and play with us, but she does not care at all if we hand her to someone else or even leave.

I’ve left her with my mom a few times to run errands or go to appointments, and she never cries or even fusses when I leave. I thought that it was because she’s so used to my mom as we visit her quite a lot, but the other day I had a doctors appointment and my mom was busy so I asked my best friend to watch her. I knew I was only going to be gone for an hour or so but I was still super nervous for this because even though we’ve visited her a few times and she’s visited us a few times, she’s not a consistent person in my baby’s life, so I didn’t know how she would react to being left with her… didn’t even fuss when I left. My friend did tell me my daughter looked into the kitchen where I had left quite a few times, but never cried or fussed until it was bottle time and then she was a happy girl again after being fed.

When we go out to holidays or birthday parties family members can hold her the entire time and she won’t care at all. She will stare pretty hard at me or her dad when she sees us, but she doesn’t cry or fuss to get us back. My husbands cousin has a daughter almost the same age as my girl and she only wants her mom and will cry if anyone else tries to hold her other than her dad.

I know I should be thankful that my daughter will let other people watch her and take care of her, so I can have a “break” but it makes me feel like she’s not that attached to me, and like I’m doing something wrong. Anybody else’s baby’s like this?

I found out today via ultrasound I’m 7 weeks. This baby was a total accident, we’ve been using condoms, I’m not really sure how it happened. My daughter is only 6 months old and I am not ready physically or mentally to have another baby.

I was looking into the online delivery for the pills. From what research I’ve done I realized none of the places I have looked online take either of my insurances, which surprised me. I have Molina Ohio, and Anthem BCBS through my husbands work. Is it super expensive to go out of pocket? Will I have to pay out of pocket if I get it prescribed by my Obgyn? I read on the planned parenthood website that there was a bill passed to prevent Molina or any Medicaid programs to cover planned parenthood visits in Ohio - I wondered if that extended to all abortion care? I don’t see my doctor until next Thursday and I would just like to have a plan in place before I see her.